Dr. Decision & Coach

New Year’s Resolutions
and Stress

Making New Year’s resolutions may help a few people make some positive changes in their lives. Every New Year's Eve the tradition of setting goals and making decisions to live and work better begins. Usually, the motivation to utilize the resolutions wears off by March. The more common ones include such decisions as starting a personal & wellness program, which may include diet, exercise, decreasing alcohol intake, stopping smoking, and so on. All of these are valuable for developing resilience, which helps with managing stress. My best advice to help you
keep the resolutions listed below.
PROBLEMS WITH RESOLUTIONS

Many resolutions are oftentimes more of a wish or desire to be different in some way. But a wish is not a decision to change. Also, “all-or-nothing” thinking about the resolutions sets up cycles of feelings that include remorse and guilt if you don't follow through.

HOW TO IMPLEMENT YOUR DECISION TO CHANGE

Five helpful steps:
1. Set realistic goals, and instead of attempting to stop certain behaviors, it is better to set positive goals. In other words, do not try to stop smoking but do resolve to breathe healthier and live better. Take “baby steps” to reach the goals.

2. Use a sense of humor and a perspective that does not include an all-or-nothing attitude. You are not going to gain 10 pounds because you ate one Big Mac! One " bad behavior" does not make you a non-dieter again. It makes you a person who just ate a tasty burger and has decided to limit that behavior.

3. Decide on your method of living healthier and stick to it in moderation. Avoid high, rigid standards and look at "slips" for just what they are. For example, your five weeks of dieting is not a total loss if you overdo it one day. Aim for moderate goals like eating healthier and losing weight at a gradual pace.

4. Even if you don’t totally meet your goal, reducing the damage you may be
doing to your health is still a positive step. This is referred to as “harm reduction” since you have lowered your risk of health problems, and it may help you meet your ultimate goal at a later point in time.

Summary:
Set positive goals; break the decisions down into small steps; avoid an all-or-nothing
attitude, and reward yourself for the progress made. Remember the best decision rule--Instead of worrying about whether you made the best decision or not, make the best of the decision you've made.

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Many people don't believe in fear of success, but it is absolutely true.

Fear of success in Failure goal almost hand in hand

We need to make mistakes to become more successful, and those mistakes move us forward. It's 

We are failing forward; the more mistakes we make, the sharper we should get.

People often tend to undermine their success just before they reach their peak. Self-sabotage is an unconscious reaction to success, usually held by some deep-seated belief that we don't understand consciously; that's why they call it unconscious, but we need to pay attention to it, especially if we're continually sabotaging ourselves.

Sometimes, this is caused by the fact that success creates distance or a lot of further potential for drop if you fail later.  In the beginning, failures don't impact us as much when we aren't successful.

The $50,000 per year salesperson, who it's $50,000 in July, and guess what they do for the year....$50,000. This keeps them within their belief about how good they are. Again, we don't realize this often, but it's a subconscious thing, and this is where psychologists, a coach, a mentor, and accountability partners can be a big help.

We adjust ourselves and succeed in our belief system.

Some people don’t like it when others succeed, envy or guilt because they aren’t living up to their potential. 

Take responsibility. There's an old saying: when you're pointing your finger at someone, there's three fingers pointing back at you.

Mixed messages sent by Society: be successful, but it's almost like don't be too successful, then we'll tear you down. 

You have to do the work; sometimes luck plays a part, but you usually don’t get lucky unless you move in the direction you want. 

The $50 bill and the Jockey 

Work to get what you want to buy the Corvette; we are not entitled; we must work

Imposter syndrome is the feeling that we don't deserve to be there even though we've done the work.

Many people feel insecure about their positions, how they got there, and whether they deserve to be there again. That's the Imposter syndrome. People often feel it unjustified because they've worked to get there. Our belief system hasn't caught up with reality and accepts all the hard work.

How much money do you need? You define your own success. 

Everything is about your beliefs!

Pay attention to your thoughts and beliefs, things we picked up along the way that can sabotage our success; for example:

• Rich people are bad
• Money is evil
• You can't get ahead
• Money changes you
• You have to be perfect all the time
• The next thing has to be perfect, bigger, better 

Media- drives our fear. 

Make your own decision, so you like what you're doing or do what you like.

#Fearofsuccess #self-fulling #Fear #excuses

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The Blame Game 

The Accountability Mindset

Blaming,  strips away your power to effect change. Embrace responsibility instead. Shift from "I wish" to "I will." True self-esteem stems from confronting challenges, taking action, and finding satisfaction in your accomplishments. This builds confidence and courage. Genuine self-confidence and self-esteem originate internally, yet many seek validation externally.

Taking Responsibility

Many individuals or families can manage a $400 emergency in a financial crises.

Be vigilant in repetitive situations; the common denominator might be you. Pause and ask:

• Is this a recurring pattern?
• What actions am I taking?
• Why do I keep repeating this?
• What role am I playing?
• What aspects are changeable?
• What can I do differently?

Identify areas for improvement and set goals. Consider a goal buddy, accountability partner, mentor, or therapist.

• Overcoming Resistance
• Understand that resistance often stems from a fear of change, the necessity, or admitting a need for change.
• Persist in learning, trying new things, and breaking tasks into sub-goals or micro-steps. Small steps are less intimidating.
• Sometimes, a catalyst—someone who ignites a spark—is necessary.
• Address fears of success and self-sabotage. Expect others to question your decisions based on their beliefs and experiences, not necessarily aligned with yours.
• Refuse to let "What Other People Think" (WOPT) dictate your life. Focus on identifying what's missing and what you can do to attain it.
• Shift from blame to responsibility. 

Stop beating yourself it; if that worked, you would be perfect by now.

Remember, blame is not a strategy for a meaningful life. Take charge, set goals, and thrive.

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Corporate attorney Leslie Polizoti’s journey from being a corporate lawyer to becoming an African Safari Guide highlights the importance of pursuing one's passion with a well-thought-out plan. We discuss the significance of making life-changing decisions, distinguishing between “Soft Decisions” that seem easy in the future and the decisive "do it or not" moments. There is a need for creating a detailed plan with sub-goals and steps, incorporating mindfulness, and using mindful techniques like Mindful Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) to reduce stress and deal with money concerns and the usual fears.  Keep options open, know your alternatives, and be willing to invest time and effort in growth and change. The role of luck can sometimes play a part, alongside the necessity of undertaking less enjoyable tasks as part of the process. Like any major “Decision,” commitment is crucial. The key message is that once a decision is made, taking action through incremental steps is crucial, with opportunities arising as a result. The decision-making process is unique to each individual based on their goals and circumstances.

Goals, passion, decision, fear, and a plan are all part of the process 

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What is Your Life Purpose?
Purposeful Life vs Life Purpose 

What is Purpose 

You decide what is a purposeful life for you

Taking responsibility 

Do what you love or love what you do

Be an example 

Purposeful life is helping people do something for others

We do things not because we will get something from them 

The result of purpose is meaning 

Keep your eye on the ball 

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Mindset -Beliefs 

We constantly playing back our beliefs and are not aware of the programming that drives us.

What do you believe?

Money
Education
Who you are
Work
Success
Your Mindset 

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We all procrastinate on different things; on rare occasions, procrastination actually helps us, but for the most part, it can be dangerous because it can ruin our dreams, and our potential, stifle our goals, and even kill us.

What do you procrastinate on?

• How does what other people think affect us?
• What are the consequences of procrastination?
• How does “Forward Thinking” help us reduce procrastination? 
• Understanding trade-offs
• Best use of my time right now?
• Two-minute method to reduce procrastination 
• 5 4 3 2 1 method

Email: dennis@drdecision&coach.com

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Email: dennis@drdecision&coach.com

#success #procrastination # confidence # Personal development #habit #consistency

Email: dennis@drdecision&coach.com

#success #procrastination # confidence # Personal development #habit #consistency

One of the biggest nemesis for all of us is the self-defeating behavior of procrastination. it keeps us from reaching our healthier, wealthier, and happier goals. why do we procrastinate? Why do we make a decision to procrastinate? Because procrastination is a decision. As always, pay attention to our procrastinating and really stopping to think about what's going on, why you procrastinate why on this particular thing, and what are the consequences of procrastinating.

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