Dr. UnStuck Podcast — Get Out of Your Head. Get Into Your Life.

We are the creators of our own reality, the captains of our ships. So often when we are thrown one of life's curveballs, we can forget that life does not happen TO us. Life happens FOR us. Life presents us with one quiz after another, and they keep coming until we pass them. Limitless people reside in a place of gratitude and alignment, understanding that each one of these quizzes brings with it an opportunity for growth.

People respect strength. Bottom line. When we come from a place of weakness such as reacting with emotion, victimizing ourselves, or attempting to persuade people how to treat us with words, it doesn't work. The reason it doesn't work is because people to not respect weakness. The most effective way to teach people how to treat us is with our behavior. This is where the strength is.

#codependency #personalpower #authenticity

Habits shape who we are. The first step is to get a visual for the type of person you would like to become. It is not so much about what change you want to make or how to go about it, but who you want the resulting individual to look like. When you envision the type of person you would like to be, how would you describe yourself? First draw the portrait, then ask.

#habits #atomichabits #positivechange

So often when we are trying to lean into a new healthy habit we set goals that we hope will be earth-shattering, and then when we don't see results fast enough we throw in the towel. We didn't reach the set goal for weight loss, money in the bank, days at the gym, etc. What we don't realize is that it is the small changes that build into the noticeable change, so we give up before these changes become visible. As it turns out, a mere 1 percent of improvement per day is all it takes.

#atomic habits #positivechange #selfimprovement

Politics are everywhere, no matter how positive the working environment. The variety of personalities we are surrounded by, as well as power differentials with those in charge, can sometimes lead us into what feels like an emotional and situational trap.  When we allow ourselves to get caught up in these dynamics, we often underestimate the drain on our well-being and overall life satisfaction. Here are some helpful tips to avoid getting sucked into the "workplace noise."

#workplacepolitics #workplacewellbeing #learnedoptimism

Often we focus on goals when trying to make the shift into better, healthier habits. We want to lose 20 pounds, save a certain amount of money each month, go to the gym 4 days each week, learn a new language, etc. Then, we do well for a while until the will power fades and all those post-NYE-resolution treadmills land themselves on Craig's list for a much reduced price. A much more effective and long-lasting way to make these changes is to decide the type of person you would like to be first.

#habitloop #positivechange #grit

We walk around making decisions all day long, some active and some passive. Active and purposeful decision-making contributes to our journey along the authentic path, whereas passive-decision-making can lead us into the sand trap. Just like anything else in life, becoming our best authentic selves takes effort and grit. What we prioritize will be successful. Listen to the heart, and then decide with the mind based on what aligns with your personality and purpose. Make this a daily practice and there will be no stopping you.

#authenticity #purpose #meaning

Much like parenting, being a leader in the professional workplace is not a "one size fits all" situation. We would not parent a teenager the same way we would a 5-year-old, or a young adult the same way we would parent a teenager. Each developmental stage of life brings with it different needs and this is also true in the professional workplace. To manage an employee fresh out of college (or a millennial with some work experience), the same as we would a seasoned mid-lifer is not effective leadership. Authentic leadership means to meet the employee where they are, with understanding, kindness, and compassion. Authentic leaders inspire us to achieve, create, and produce by the respect they earn and by the examples they set. 

#effectiveleadership #authenticleadership #workplacewellness

We wish for and ask for good things to happen in our lives. We want a job, a better job, a promotion, a new location, more money, a new partner, a new apartment or house, yet there is often no space in our lives for anything new and exciting to enter. 

#abundance #abundancementality #authenticity

Creativity is something we all have in us, all of us. Many of us block our creative energy because the thought of trying something new and putting ourselves out there feels risky. We tell ourselves we are not creative like other people. We say that we don't have the time. We get stuck in the limited thinking that being creative means solely to paint, write, or sculpt. These are excuses blocking what comes naturally. When we deny our creative energy, we are burying our authentic selves alive. Being receptive to our inner creative voice makes all things possible.

#innerartist #creativity #authenticity