Drop the BS w/ Dr. Kirleen

I have heard countless people describe growing up in homes where they knew their parents cared about them, but many of the words, actions, and behaviors left them with wounds to deal with in adulthood. These wounds and traumas show up in adulthood in many ways, such as in patterns of settling for relationships that don't serve you, overthinking everything, and medicating emotions with food, alcohol, and even sex. And while most people try to suck it up and move on, the truth is what you do not deal with finds a way to sneak into how you feel physically, how you live, and how you love. So On today's show, we are going take a look at healing childhood trauma as an adult. And to help us unpack this topic, I've brought Maira Holzmann. She is a licensed therapist, and I think her approach to healing will definitely surprise you.

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Trust is one of the most essential components of a healthy relationship, and
learning to trust someone again after a betrayal isn't easy.
Re-establishing trust takes time, patience, and work, just as it does to
establish it in the first place. Betrayal, such as infidelity, can affect your confidence and peace of mind. The old adage "once a cheater, always a cheater" may also lead you to question if giving your partner a second chance is even worth it. So, on today's show, we're going to dig into the facts and the stats about how likely someone is to cheat again.

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[5:38] If someone cheats, will they do it again?
[13:11] Red flags to look for
[22:19] Toolbox Takeaway

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Episode 16: Protecting Your Relationship from Emotional Cheating
Episode 67: Let's Talk Trust Issues

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The year 2022 has been filled with ups and downs for me, and I’m sure many of you feel the same way. One of the things that kept me going this year was the inspiring words of wisdom shared by the guests who came on the show. Their words encouraged me, comforted me, and gave me the tools to move through all the curve balls that life threw my way. So, on today’s show, I want to share the best advice and nuggets of inspiration I heard during the 2022 podcast season. We will dive into grief, conflict, playing small, work-life balance, manifestation, and how to reach your full potential. I hope you use this episode as a springboard to launch you into 2023, feeling like you can conquer the world!

Here’s a glance at this episode:
[2:18] Episode 70 on Grief and Difficult Times
[6:52] Episode 84 on Quitting Your Job to Save Your Mental Health
[11:17] Episode 75 on How to Tap into Your Full Potential

Other 2022 Episodes:
Episode 77: Stress Management 101
Episode 81: Let’s Do Some Work On Your BackStory

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Dealing with the death of a loved one is never easy, and that grief can be twice as hard during the holidays. Memories serve as constant reminders of loss, and watching others celebrate can be painful and overwhelming. Whether it’s a sudden death or because of a long illness, the first holiday after the loss of a loved one changes so many things. While every person deals with death in their own way, the holidays are a time when family gets together. Figuring out what is right for yourself and everyone else can get complicated.

Many people worry they’ll never enjoy the holidays again, feeling they just want to go away to be alone until the season is over, so on today’s show, we’ll spend some time discussing how to handle the first holiday after a loss.

Here’s a glance at this episode:
[6:04] Decisions to keep in mind
[11:36] How to respond to holiday invitations
[18:47] Toolbox Takeaway

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Episode 59: Growing Through Grief w/ Jonathan Pitts

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It’s a natural human need to want to be seen and heard in the relationships that matter most to you. Unfortunately, many people find themselves in relationships where their concerns, thoughts, feelings, and desires are ignored. This experience can leave you questioning your value, even when you know better. Feeling unheard and unseen can happen in a variety of relationships including with friends, family and in the work setting.

On today’s show we will unpack the feeling of being unseen and unheard and look at viable solutions to thrive in your relationships.

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[3:56] How do you know if this is really happening?
[14:53 ] Specific points you can do when you feel unheard and unseen
[25:03] Toolbox Takeaway

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Episode 29: Ready To Stop Giving More Than You’re Getting In Relationships?
Episode 47: Setting Boundaries

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Divorce is never easy. Even the people who try their best to have an
amicable divorce will tell you it's the hardest thing they've ever done.
When issues such as infidelity, resentment, and finances get tossed in,
things can get nasty very quickly. And if you haven't been the primary
breadwinner or have been disconnected from household finances, you could
find yourself not only emotionally, but financially devastated. If you're
navigating divorce, protecting yourself financially is critical to securing
your future.

On today's show, I've brought in Tracey Coenen, CPA and Forensic Accountant
to help you wade through these muddy waters. I want you to listen up closely
because she drops some nuggets in this show that I think will help you
tremendously.

Here's a glance at this episode:

[10:48] What is financial infidelity?

[22:00] What are the red flags to look out for?

[30:19] Toolbox Takeaway

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Episode 57: Heal Relationship Disconnects w/Third Layer Conversations

Episode 36: Increasing Connection Not Divorce In Quarantine


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Tracey Coenen's Website: https://www.fraudcoach.com/

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Everyone has challenging thoughts occasionally. But when you start to see the negative in everything, it can leave you feeling bad about yourself, or make you feel hopeless. You may have tried practicing gratitude or being more positive and those things work but can quickly fade away. You don’t have to keep living with this mindset. Several techniques can help you look at life through rosier-colored glasses. On this episode of the show, we will look at how to truly change the dialogue you are having with yourself.

Here's a glance at the show
[4:00] Negative thinking damages your immune system
[11:06] How to Move Past Being a Negative Person
[22:28] Tool box takeaway

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77: Stress Management 101
14: How to Stop Overthinking and Feeling Like You’re Not Enough

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It goes without saying that most of us spend an enormous amount of time and energy in our work setting, whether we work from home or go into an office. So, when our jobs are no longer aligned with our needs, wants, and desires, it can truly impact our mental health. While doing something like quiet-quitting or just checking out may sound appealing, they're not
realistic solutions to move back in alignment.

On today's show, I've brought in Misha Rubin. He's the CEO of Leap By Design and helps mid-career professionals, executives, and leaders with initiating meaningful career changes. I know this conversation will be the catalyst you need to find something you love doing and still take care of your mental health.
Here's a glance at this episode:

[10:05] What's going on in work environments today
[16:43] How to know if entrepreneurship is the right thing for you
[30:56] Toolbox Takeaway

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Self-Care

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If you’ve ever considered using medication to deal with your mental health, questions about how it may affect your personality or do they even work may have crossed your mind. After all, we have all heard those horror stories about people looking like zombies after taking mental health medication. But what is often not talked about is the thousands of people each year who are able to break free from long-standing mental health issues through the use of medication. On today’s show, I’ve brought in board-certified child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist Dr. UeJin Kim to help us explore using medication to improve your mental health.

Here’s a glance at this episode:
{12:19} Why medications don’t work the way we expect at times?
{17:56} Using therapy and medication is the key
{22:16} Should teens take medication?
{28:27} Can medication impact career choice?
{30:00} Getting medication from a psychiatrist or primary care what’s the difference?
{33:23} Common medicines for depression and anxiety
{36:06} Tool box takeaway

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Dr. Kim's website https://www.restorepsych.com/
Dr. Kim's Podcast https://www.restorepsych.com/podcast
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Have you ever been so far in your feelings that you are literally having a conversation with yourself about how someone or something has done your wrong? When we feel pain, betrayal, or hurt, it's easy to get stuck in our feelings. Processing emotions is healthy but staying in our feelings for too long robs us of the present moment and gives people and things power over us that they don't deserve. In this episode, we are going to look at five specific signs that you are stuck in your feelings, and we will also identify tools to help you get out of your feelings into your life.

Here’s a glance at this episode:
[5:53] 5 Specific Signs your stuck in your feelings
[14:45] Steps to get out of your feelings
[24:43] Toolbox Takeaway

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