Dropping Paradigms Podcast

Big Daddy - 1999

Episode Notes

00:16 – Intro (Our most monotone to date)

02:48 – Adam Sandler movie rankings

11:57 – IMDB & Rotten Tomatoes Summary and Reviews

14:10 – Two Word Check-in

17:05 – Nickel #1: Head or Tails – Maybe the coin can help you make a decision

22:10 – Digm #1: Allow your kids to make choices and express themselves

31:50 –  Digm #2: What do you do when your life is about to change?

            - Phases:

                 o Nothing

                 o Homesick (Go back to the way things were)

                 o Rise or Fall

                 o Sustain

44:05 – Digm #3 – You alone are not able to influence your kids all the time.

           - People your kids need:

               1) A person to help

               2) A Grandparent (it doesn’t have to be a blood relative)

               3) Opposite or different person

58:15 – Nickel #2: Motivation vs Discipline – Which is more important to have?

1:06:10 - Outro

This week we decided to do something different and just talk about what influenced us on the sports front during the week. Let us know what you think about our “Random Episode”.

0:16 – Intro

3:08 – Two Word Check-In

6:06 – Digm #1: How confident is over confident?

27:00  – #NASCAR Naps

30:00 – Digm #2: What would your peers say about you?

52:15 – Wrap-up

Die Hard - 1988

IMDB: An NYPD officer tries to save his wife and several others taken hostage by German terrorists during a Christmas party at the Nakatomi Plaza in Los Angeles.

7.8/10

Rotten Tomatoes: New York City policeman John McClane (Bruce Willis) is visiting his estranged wife (Bonnie Bedelia) and two daughters on Christmas Eve. He joins her at a holiday party in the headquarters of the Japanese-owned business she works for. But the festivities are interrupted by a group of terrorists who take over the exclusive high-rise, and everyone in it. Very soon McClane realizes that there's no one to save the hostages -- but him

Tomatoeter –94% & Audience Score – 94%

Episode Notes

00:16 – Intro

1:21 – IMDB Summary to start the, “Is Die Hard a Christmas Movie?” debate

3:52 – Two Word Check-in

6:17 – Die Hard – IMDB & Rotten Tomatoes

10:47 – 1988 Fun Facts

12:24 – You’re Welcome

21:55 – Digm #1: When you put people on notice, it comes with a cost.

            “Now I have a machine gun. Ho-ho-ho.” John McClaine through Hans Gruber

30:32 – Digm #2: If you put in the time and the effort you will “sink” to your level of training (preparation)

42:40 – Digm #3: How do you shift momentum in your favor?

             Information + Initiative + Confidence + Ability + Persistence = Momentum Shift

53:25 – Digm #4: Stop and listen before you jump to a conclusion or respond

            Listen to understand, do not listen to respond

1:00:20 – Wrap-Up

Stay Tuned after the Wrap-up for a special treat

Valentine’s Day -2010

Rotten Tomatoes – In a series of interconnected stories, various Los Angeles residents (Jessica Alba, Jessica Biel, Bradley Cooper) wend their way through the highs and lows of love during a single day. As the holiday unfolds, they experience first dates, longtime commitments, youthful crushes and connections to old flames. (Tomatometer – 18% & Audience Score – 47%)

IMDB –  Intertwining couples and singles in Los Angeles break-up and make-up based on the pressures and expectations of Valentine's Day. (5.7/10)

0:16 – Intro

1:45 – Movie Discussion

5:08 – Rotten Tomatoes and IMDB Discussion

7:18 – Valentine’s Day Facts

13:47 – Digm #1: Emotions make it hard to see, accept, and acknowledge the obvious.

32:56 – Digm #2: If you don’t know yourself, how can you be in a healthy relationship?

37:02 – Tory’s Words of Wisdom – People shape relationships, but relationships also shape people.

37:21 – Tory’s Words of Wisdom Part II – Don’t lose yourself trying to find somebody else.

39:08 – Digm #3: We all make decisions based on desired outcomes.

50:33 – Digm #4: Don’t let the world dictate what relationships look like.

58:55 – Wrap-Up

1:00:01 – Two Word Check-In

Jingle All The Way – 1996

IT’S TURBO TIME!

IMDB: A father vows to get his son a Turbo Man action figure for Christmas. However, every store is sold out of them, and he must travel all over town and compete with everybody else in order to find one.

Rating - 5.7/10 

Rotten Tomatoes: Workaholic Howard Langston (Arnold Schwarzenegger) wants to make things up to his son, Jamie (Jake Lloyd), and wife, Liz (Rita Wilson). He promises to get Jamie the hottest toy of the season, Turbo-Man -- even though it's Christmas Eve and the toy is practically sold out. As Langston hunts down the elusive gift, he runs into mailman Myron (Sinbad), another father on the same quest. With the clock winding down, Langston's moral code is tested as he starts to learn the real meaning of Christmas.

Tomatoeter –19% & Audience Score – 38%

Episode Notes

00:15 – Intro

01:16 – Do you Like Christmas Music

3:40 – Christmas Traditions

8:31 – IMDB & Rotten Tomatoes

14:30 – Favorite Christmas Toy?

19:22 – The Hottest Toys of Christmas

24:42 – Digm #1 – Accountability is vital to relationships

             “If you don’t have accountability in a relationship you don’t have anything.”

34:28 – Digm #2 – Material things vs Physical Presence

41:20 – Tory drops a bomb – Statement Action Agreement

42:20 – Digm #3 – Ulterior Motivates – maybe they aren’t always so bad

            “A man always has two reasons for doing anything, a good reason and the real reason.”  ~JP Morgan

52:50 – Digm #4 – The Viral Effect

1:06:30 – Two Word Check Out

Remember the Titans – 2000

IMDB: The true story of a newly appointed African-American coach and his high school team on their first season as a racially integrated unit.

7.8/10

Rotten Tomatoes: In Virginia, high school football is a way of life, an institution revered, each game celebrated more lavishly than Christmas, each playoff distinguished more grandly than any national holiday. And with such recognition, comes powerful emotions. In 1971 high school football was everything to the people of Alexandria. But when the local school board was forced to integrate an all black school with an all white school, the very foundation of football's great tradition was put to the test.

Tomatoeter – 73% & Audience Score – 93%

Episode Notes

00:15 – Intro

00:43 – Tory drops a double negative

1:25 – Two word check-in

2:30 – Daylight Savings Time tangent

6:05 – Heath’s Favorite part of the show aka Ask Tory Random Questions and then make fun of him for not getting them correct

18:51 – Finally we talk about Remember the Titans

22:35 – Here is the link to the ESPN article –

25:39 – Digm #1: We all need someone or something to rally (connect) around

             Who or what are you rallying around?

32:30 – Digm #2: Common Enemy Effect – Balance Theory – Identity Fusion

              The idea that right circumstances people will be willing to undergo self-sacrifice for the betterment of the group.

43:12 – Digm #3: How do you change attitude and perception?

52:10 – Digm #4: Culture change does not always happen at the top. Culture change requires

            buy-in. Culture changes does not have to be overt. (Do not wait for permission to be a culture changer!)

1:00:00 – Yo Mama Jokes

1:08:00 – Digm #5: Environment plays a role in moral decision-making.

Episode Notes 

00:16 – Intro

4:19 – Two Word Check-in

6:39 – We discuss the messages from social media

44:18 – Tory’s 1st Digm - Grey’s Anatomy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PCmte2hjC2A

“You want someone to run a 4 minute mile? You don’t chase them, you don’t give them something to run from. You give them something to run to” Dr Richard Webber

53:38 – Heath’s 1st Digm – The Office

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Gvk0_6p_-s

"I wish there was a way to know you were in the good old days before you actually left them." Andy Bernard (Ed Helms)

57:38 – Tory’s 2nd Digm – Eric Thomas aka ET the Hip Hop Preacher

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=97V4ZZqwxiw

Do you want to do it as bad as you want to breathe?

1:06:58 – Heath’s 2nd Digm – All Blacks Haka

https://www.allblacks.com/the-haka/

1:20:45 – Inspirational Haka

College Football

Episode Notes - This is our first episode recorded with a live audience.

00:16 – Intro

3:55 – Two-word check-in (Two episodes in a row)

11:55 – Mascot talk

Ethan Bauer Article - https://www.deseret.com/indepth/2020/1/10/21052358/clemson-lsu-tigersnicknames-mascots-college-tribal

25:46 – Digm #1 – What are you doing to enhance the traits of your “ingroup”?

Social Identify Theory - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/9781119011071.iemp0153

https://esrc.ukri.org/about-us/50-years-of-esrc/50-achievements/social-identity-us-and-them/

37:28 – Digm #2 – Be mindful of the outside pressures that people face. Name, Image, and Likeness discussion

54:40 – Digm #3 – Find your mantra that allows you to do big things.

"My thoughts just before the first real college game of my life: The honor of my race, family and self-are at stake, "Everyone is expecting me to do big things. I will! "My whole body and soul are to be thrown recklessly about on the field tomorrow. Every time the ball is snapped, I will be trying to do more than my part. … Be on your toes every minute if you expect to make good. Jack." ~ Jack Trice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HO79kCNOhT4

https://aaregistry.org/story/jack-trice-isu-football-legend/

1:08:00 – Digm #4 – How do you respond when you fall from grace? (Be a Billy Napier)

1:18:06 – Digm #5 – The level of commitment required of you to reach your dreams is insane. So…..”Are you willing to sprint when the distance is unknown?” Lewis Caralla

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ExAkkAbwLHY

“When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before.” ~ Jacob Riis

Space Jam The New Legacy  – 2021

Rotten Tomatoes – 26% & Audience Score – 79%

Storyline IMBD

A rogue artificial intelligence kidnaps the son of famed basketball player LeBron James, who then has to work with Bugs Bunny to win a basketball game.

Episode Notes - This is our first episode recorded with a live audience.

00:16 – Intro

00:23 – Tory really brings the energy with his introduction

00:55 – Two word check-in (We kept our word for at least one episode)

2:26 – Quiz Tory

- Which team wins?

o Monstars: 1) Charles Barkley 2) Patrick Ewing 3) Larry Johnson 4) Shawn Bradley 5) Mugsy Bogues

o Goon Squad: 1) Anthony Davis 2) Klay Thompson 3) Damian Lillard 4) Diana Taurasi 5) Nneka Ogumike

- Better Uniforms?

- Better Shoes: Jordan VI Space Jam or Lebron James 19 “Space Jam”

- Who had the better stat line?

o Michael Jordan in Space Jam: 44 Points

o LeBron James in Space Jam 2: 8 Points

10:34 – IMDB Storyline

11:19 – Rotten Tomatoes

14:27 – Digm #1 (Well sort of – It was more to help Tory)

15:51 Digm #1 (For real this time)

Relationships

Stop projecting on your Kids

Please Remember Signs

o These are KIDS

o This is a GAME

o Coaches are VOLUNTEERS

o Umpires are HUMAN

o Your child is NOT being scouted

o NO college scholarships will be handed out today

Trust (Jar of marbles) and communication are key to positive relationships

Don’t seek too much validity from outside persons

“The truth is that your value is constant, it is priceless, and it never truly goes up or down based off of results or your performance. Your value comes from who you are, not from what you do.”

36:47 – Digm #2 – The Pressure and Peace of Narratives

42:06 Peace of Narratives

47:33 Wrap-Up

Space Jam – 1996

Rotten Tomatoes – 44% & Audience Score – 64%

Storyline

In a desperate attempt to win a basketball match and earn their freedom, the Looney Tunes seek the aid of retired basketball champion, Michael Jordan.

Episode Notes

00:15 – Intro

2:04 – 1996 History, facts, and questions

9:07 – IMDB Summary and Rotten Tomato Ratings

11:41 – Our Initial thoughts on Space Jam as a kid

16:06 – Superstitious or maybe a little stitious

26:50 – Movie Background

29:06 – Digm 1: The importance of Emotional Intelligence or EQ

32:34 –  Dr. Daniel Goleman – Emotional Intelligence: a person's ability to manage his feelings so that those feelings are expressed appropriately and effectively. According to Goleman, emotional intelligence is the largest single predictor of success in the workplace.

34:14 – Five pillars of Emotional Intelligence (Dr. Goleman)

1) Emotional self-awareness — knowing what one is feeling at any given time and understanding the impact those moods have on others

2) Self-regulation — controlling or redirecting one’s emotions; anticipating consequences before acting on impulse

3) Motivation — utilizing emotional factors to achieve goals, enjoy the learning process and persevere in the face of obstacles

4) Empathy — sensing the emotions of others

5) Social skills — managing relationships, inspiring others and inducing desired responses from them

39:24 – Brené Brown – Exercise: We start every meeting with a two-word check-in. We take

turns sharing two words that describe how we’re feeling that day. We all have the human need to see others and to be seen. The realness connects us.

41:29 – Digm 2: The realm of the possible stops at the limits of your mind.

45:10 – How often are we limited by the boundaries our mind has set for us?

1:02:25 – Wrap-up