You built a killer career. Now it's time to build the body and energy to match.

In this episode of Duh, Bitch! You're Powerful, I'm sitting down with Dr. Samantha Ritz, Doctor of Physical Therapy, founder of Ritz Wellness, and creator of the Elite Woman Project to talk about what it actually takes for high-achieving women, founders, CEOs, and executives to feel as powerful in their bodies as they do in their boardrooms.

And spoiler: it's not about doing more.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why the "grind harder" fitness mentality is keeping you stuck (and burning out your hormones in the process)
• How your menstrual cycle affects your motivation, recovery, and results  and why relying on discipline alone will always fail you
• The truth about fasted workouts and cold plunges for women (hint: the research was done on men)
• Why most high-achieving women are actually under-eating  and how that's sabotaging their body goals
• The 30-minute, 4-day strength training method designed for women with zero time
• What perimenopause and menopause actually do to your body and why strength training is non-negotiable
• How GLP-1 medications affect muscle mass and what you need to do about it
• Why investing in your health is exactly like investing in your 401k
• The mindset shift that changes everything: from "this is selfish" to "this is foundational"
• Why your physical transformation is actually an identity transformation and why 30-day sprints almost never work long-term

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Episode Summary

Shilpa sits down with the incredible Lisa Avila, nonprofit strategist, founder of Poppy Grove, host of The Rich Nonprofit podcast, and fellow woman who chose herself when it wasn't easy. With 25+ years in business strategy and clients who have raised over a million dollars in funding, Lisa is redefining what it means to create impact with money, heart, and intention. This conversation will light a fire under you.

What We Cover

• Why choosing yourself is one of the hardest and most powerful decisions a woman can make
• How a classroom of ESL kids sparked Lisa's advocacy journey and eventually her entire career
• What a "rich nonprofit" actually means (hint: it's about more than money)
• How to start small even if you have a full-time career, kids, and a packed schedule
• The qualities that make women succeed in the nonprofit space
• Why manifesting without a plan means absolutely nothing

Key Takeaways

• Follow what breaks your heart. The cause that keeps you up at night is your starting point.
• Start in your community. You don't need a grand plan on day one — volunteer an hour here, show up there, and let your mission reveal itself.
• Treat your nonprofit like a business. Heart alone won't sustain it. Strategy, boundaries, and ambition are non-negotiable.
• Rich means many things. Rich in love, rich in resources, rich in soul — and yes, rich in money, because more of it means more impact.
• Action activates the vision. Manifestation is beautiful, but without a plan and real steps, nothing is coming for you.
• Take care of yourself first. You cannot pour from an empty cup, especially when you're trying to change the world.

Contact Lisa: 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisathestrategist/

The non proft Intensive: https://poppygrovellc.com/legacy-intensive

Rich Nonprofit Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2xrKnJDnZo6UxMU6bECa8p

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In this episode, I sit down with Courtney Saye, functional nutrition practitioner and founder of Functional Fertility Clinics, to talk about what's actually going on beneath the surface when women struggle to get pregnant  and why so much of what we've been told about our health is flat-out wrong.

Courtney left a decades-long career in finance and tech after her own fertility struggles and health journey led her to functional medicine. Now she and her team help women and couples get to the root cause of what's blocking pregnancy, whether they're trying naturally or prepping for IVF.

What we cover:

• Why "unexplained infertility" usually isn't unexplained at all  and the three root issues Courtney sees most (metabolic health, mitochondrial health, and micronutrient deficiencies)
• The truth about male fertility
• Why women are chronically under-eating and how that's wrecking hormones, thyroid function, and weight 
• Fasting is not for women
• Why you should optimize your body before jumping into IVF
• Why not everything happening in your late 30s is perimenopause
• Alcohol, marijuana, and fertility what the data actually says
• The chemicals in our food, products, and environment that are disrupting our endocrine systems

Connect with Courtney:

• Website: functionalfertilityclinics.com
• Instagram: @courtneylsaye
• TikTok: @functionalfertilityclinic
• IVF Prep Intensive (12-week group program): Waitlist

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“I don’t need a man, I just want one.”
 It sounds empowering… but what if it’s actually another layer of protection?

In this episode, love & intimacy mentor Shilpa Cacho unpacks the cultural mantra of not needing a man and shares why, as a healed, self-loving woman, it’s actually safe to say:
“I do need a good man, not to complete me, but to expand me.”

Through her own story of divorce, healing, and remarrying, plus honest reflections about her current marriage, Shilpa explores:

• The hidden fear and self-protection behind “I don’t need a man”
• The difference between needing a man from wounding and desperation vs needing a man from wholeness and desire
• How a healthy, masculine partner deepens your softness, joy, safety, and freedom
• Why feminine women feel different (and more themselves) when they’re with a truly protective, present man
• The impact of provision, emotional leadership, and masculine protection on your nervous system
• How old stories from your past (and even your first marriage) can make nurturing, domestic roles feel like obligation instead of devotion
• Real-life examples, including Shilpa’s sister who married in her 40s and softened into a happier, more feminine version of herself

This episode is a loving permission slip to admit you do want — and yes, in many ways need — a man who is your partner, protector, and soulmate… not because you’re incomplete, but because you were never meant to do life alone.

If you’re ready to call in your own Soul Husband and learn how to soften without losing yourself, this conversation will challenge your beliefs, melt your defenses, and open your heart to a new way of seeing love.

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Dating in your 30s as a high-achieving woman doesn’t have to be a cycle of bad first dates, ghosting, and “men are trash” group chats. In this episode, love & intimacy mentor Shilpa Cacho breaks down why dating apps aren’t the real problem, how achievement has conditioned you to treat dating like a performance review, and what actually shifts when you regulate your nervous system and step into your feminine energy.

You’ll learn how to:

• Stop blaming dating apps and start owning your patterns in love
• Date with intention in your 30s without slipping into control, overthinking, or pedestal-ing men
• Attract emotionally available, masculine men while staying powerful and soft
• Tell the difference between high standards and protection mechanisms
• Date multiple men, pace intimacy, and spot red/green flags with clarity
• Hold space for a man’s emotions instead of shutting down or trying to fix him

Shilpa also shares her story of going from divorce to meeting and marrying her husband within 19 months, and how nervous system work, feminine communication, and identity upgrades helped her create a marriage that lasts.

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Love & Feminine Embodiment Mentor Shilpa Cacho breaks down one of the most misunderstood concepts in modern dating:

“Do I actually know what love feels like… or have I only experienced trauma bonding?”

Shilpa shares a raw, personal story about a past relationship she once labeled “soul-deep love”  and how she later realized it was pure trauma bonding fueled by chaos, shame, childhood wounds, and nervous system addiction.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• What trauma bonding actually is (beyond toxicity or dramatic fights)
• Why your body may confuse survival with connection
• How chaotic relationships activate your nervous system… and feel like chemistry
• Why you crave inconsistent men who pull away
• Why “nice,” consistent men feel “boring” or “no spark”
• How trauma bonding shows up in high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women
• The subtle ways women manipulate, chase, or abandon themselves for love
• What real, healthy love actually feels like in your body
• How to know if your attraction is trauma or truth
• What healing looks like (nervous system regulation, self-worth, feminine communication)

This episode is for you if:

• you’ve repeated painful patterns in dating
• you’ve loved men who couldn’t choose you
• you’re confused between chemistry and connection
• you’re healing after divorce or heartbreak
• you want marriage, family, and real emotional safety
• you want to understand why you’re attracted to the wrong men

If you realized you've never truly experienced healthy love, it is NOT too late.
 Your patterns can be healed.
 Your nervous system can shift.
 You can attract a man who loves you with devotion, consistency, and clarity.

Work with Shilpa:
✨ Spicy Queen Academy — heal your heart, regulate your nervous system, rebuild self-worth, and end old patterns for good.
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This episode breaks down one of the most damaging myths high-achieving women believe about dating: “I intimidate men.”

Relationship mentor and feminine embodiment coach Shilpa Cacho exposes why this belief keeps powerful, intelligent, successful women single and how it’s rooted not in truth, but in fear, protection, and nervous system programming.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your success doesn’t actually intimidate healthy masculine men
• How high-achieving women unknowingly lead with armor, not authenticity
• The difference between embodied feminine power vs. achievement-based identity
• Why you keep attracting insecure or emotionally unavailable men
• The mind-body-nervous system patterns that block lasting love
• How to keep your power and open your heart without losing yourself
• What healthy masculine men are truly drawn to
• Why long-term mentorship is required to break lifelong dating patterns

If you’re a successful woman in your 30s or 40s who wants marriage, partnership, and family but you’re tired of dating on repeat, this episode will shift everything you thought you knew about love.

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In this episode, about attraction when you're in a relationship and how chemistry doesn't always mean he's the one for you.  

Shilpa Cacho breaks down:

• Why feeling instant chemistry with someone  doesn’t mean he’s your soulmate
• How attraction patterns are often rooted in shared wounds and old validation loops, not real compatibility
• The real reason so many women experience men as “emotionally unavailable”
• How your own discomfort with emotions can make you an unsafe place for a man to open his heart
• What it actually looks like to be a feminine leader of emotional depth in your relationship
• How Shilpa went from lying and cheating in her first marriage to practicing radical transparency with her now-husband, so much so that she tells him everything, including feeling attracted to another man

If you’ve ever:

• Been attracted to someone else while in a relationship and felt shame about it
• Chased chemistry, only to end up in situationships, hot-and-cold dynamics, or men who won’t commit
• Wanted an emotionally available man, but shut down, overreact, or mother him when he finally shows feelings
• Craved a soul-deep, emotionally safe marriage where both of you can bring your full truth…

…this episode will help you see attraction, emotions, and emotional safety in a completely new way.

Shilpa shows you how to:

• Get curious instead of spiraling when you feel a strong pull toward someone
• Identify when chemistry is really a trauma pattern trying to replay itself
• Become a woman who is emotionally available to herself first—so healthy, emotionally open men actually feel safe with you
• Build (or rebuild) a relationship rooted in truth, transparency, and soul-level intimacy

🔗 If you’re ready to stop repeating the same attraction patterns and start creating sacred, emotionally safe love that lasts, connect with Shilpa on Instagram and join her email list for upcoming opportunities to work with her.

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Are you stuck in the painful in-between wondering if you should stay in your relationship or finally walk away? In this episode, Love Coach Shilpa Cacho sits down with Valerie, an anxious-attachment and somatic healing expert, to unpack one of the hardest questions in love: “Am I giving up too soon or abandoning myself by staying?”

Together, they explore:
 💔 The difference between fear-based staying vs. love-based choosing
💫 How to tell if your relationship is toxic, trauma-bonded, or simply unhealed
🧠 Why your nervous system and attachment style keep you stuck in confusion
🌿 The role of somatic work and nervous system regulation in making clear decisions
🔥 How to rebuild self-trust, safety, and intuition after years of self-abandonment
💡 Questions to ask before leaving and what emotional healing really looks like on the other side

If you’ve ever replayed the good times while ignoring red flags, stayed hoping they’ll change, or feared starting over, this conversation will help you reconnect to your truth and make the decision from grounded self-trust, not survival.

Connect with Val, anxious attachment expert: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

Keywords: should I stay or go, leaving a relationship, anxious attachment, toxic relationship, somatic healing, trauma bond, self-trust, nervous system regulation, emotional healing, Shilpa Cacho podcast, relationship advice, marriage clarity

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Divorced, heartbroken, and convinced marriage might not be for her, Shilpa moved across the country—and 19 months after her divorce papers were signed, she married her Soulhusband™: a man 8 years younger, from a different culture, after 10 months of long-distance. In this intimate origin story, Shilpa shares the pivotal moments that changed everything: the airport-offer first date, the screenshot-oops text, the family “intervention,” the elopement, and the phone call where she led with truth instead of fear. You’ll hear how nervous system regulation, feminine leadership, and identity-level belief work transformed conflict from a breakup trigger into a doorway to deeper intimacy. If you’re a divorced or high-achieving woman who wonders whether real, emotionally available love is possible for you, this episode gives you the roadmap.

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