If monogamy isn't for you, you never want to merge bank accounts with someone, but you're got a lot of love to give (and hope to receive it back), then perhaps solo polyamory is right for you! Comedian and writer Ashley Ray has been living that solo polyamory life (in a pandemic no less!) and joins us to correct common misconceptions about her love life. We talk about the funny and tragic red flags she sifts through when dating, how people react to her relationship structure, and why structure and communication are so important. Plus, she talks about her wild zodiac dating experiment which we hope gets made into a TV show. This episode just may leave you polycurious! Plus, Carolyn and Melody talk about Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, The DNC, The Chicks, and our polar opposite gayest things of the week! Finally, we end with a question from a listener who seems to be the victim of an emotional terrorist.

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A dating episode in the midst of a global pandemic? If anyone can still have game when the world feels upside down, it's comedian Alysia Brown. From back-to-back dates to picking up audience members on Zoom shows and everything in between, Alysia does it all. She tells us about her dating life before COVID, during quarantine, and what she hopes to find for the future. We implore her to share her tips and go-to moves so that our listeners can learn from her experience. Plus, Melody tries to cheat with her pick for Gayest Thing Of The Week while Carolyn is on her way to becoming a Bernie Sanders meme. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is questioning her sexuality but afraid of leading on another woman in case it turns out she isn't queer after all.

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Dykes just wanna have fun, and here to tell us all about it is herlarious comedian, performer, and artist Casey Jane Ellison! It's hard to put into words what makes being a lesbian so dang fun, but that didn't stop us from trying! Is it the sex? The freedom from the male gaze? Underwater waterfalls? THE SEX? Is every commercial featuring a person slo-mo running through a field just an ad for lesbianism? Maybe it is, MAYBE IT IS, Plus, Carolyn and Melody reluctantly make New Year's Resolutions, including a pledge that gets off to a Rosie- er...ROCKY start. Finally, we end with a questions from a listener who is nervous about upcoming physical changes in their partner.

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Our hearts are heavy with the tragedy at Club Q in Colorado Springs. We can't speak highly enough of all the rad humans who work tirelessly to create and maintain queer spaces, so this week we're re-releasing our episode with Jo McDaniel. Since recording this episode, Jo and her partner Rach/Coach have opened As You Are Bar in DC, so please go visit, tip generously, and keep your hands where Jo can see them.

Believe it or not, we can't talk enough about saving our dyke spaces. And not even an attempted coup by domestic terrorists can stop us. Jo McDaniel, who runs A League of Her Own in Washington D.C., joins us to share what makes these spaces different than any other space. Jo has a long history of bartending and working in queer spaces in D.C.. From hiring femme security staff to conducting hand checks to mandatory consent, you'll learn the ins, outs, and challenges of creating a true safe space for our community.

Plus, Melody gathers intel from scary websites, and Carolyn sounds like a straight girl...sort of. Finally, we end with a fun AITA-type listener question, which we would LOVE more of.

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Show up for this episode, and you might just learn how to better show up for those who could use your accompliceship. Activist Amber Hikes joins us for a thoughtful and fun conversation about how we can make our respective privilege work for others. What's the difference between an ally and an accomplice? And how do we know who we should be listening to for guidance? Plus, what does calling someone in have to do with food stuck in teeth? Also, Melody FINALLY comes around on flags. But before we get to the important stuff, your hosts talk Discord, scones, and cleavage. Finally, we answer a question from a listener who is at a crossroads in their relationship.

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We're in the thick of Pride month and cooked up this TREAT of an episode with the super funny and wonderful Molly Kearney (Saturday Night Live). Molly lives their life loud and proud, and they make it seem so fun and effortless. What is this beautiful butch dyke's origin story? What gay things is this double-cannon wielding comedian up to? How did they survive being the meat in a triple bunk bed sandwich? Where do they buy their suits? This episode delivers the laughs we all could use right now. Plus, Melody gives a mini history lesson on the infamous Riis beach, and Carolyn goes to Twitter jail for the first time ever. Finally, we end with a listener question about what to do when you and your fiancée don't see eye-to-eye about having children.

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Activist, speaker, and author Precious Brady-Davis joins us to share the life lessons she's learned about living authentically, as told in her memoir, I Have Always Been Me. Precious tells us how and why she's always lived fearlessly. She stresses the importance of finding a way to shine regardless of your circumstances. We also dyke out about manifesting the life you want, and how being true to yourself attracts love into your life. Could this conversation be any more gay??? Plus, Carolyn finds a way to bring up Ellen and Rosie, and Melody has a moral dilemma while watching a cishet man squirm. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who wants her dates to have an opinion. Is that too much to ask?

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It was recently announced that Jenna Lyons will be on the new cast of RHONY, so we're re-releasing the interview where we (Bravo Influencers) planted the seed:

It's our first live recording in YEARS, and we couldn't be more thrilled to dyke out with the iconic and stylish Jenna Lyons! We sat down with Jenna on December 7, 2021 at The Wing Soho in front of an audience filled with our favorite listeners. We talk about Jenna's experience of being outed and the learning curve that comes with coming out later in life. Plus, she tells us what changed (and what didn't) in her business and personal relationships as a result. Also, we dive into the highlights of her expansive career at J. Crew, what she's been up to since, and how to get her on another reality TV show (1:04:40). If that's not enough, you'll find out just how much Melody hates the pride flag. Stick around for the audience Q&A, and then our listener question about how to get an aunt to come out of the closet.

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Feeling fine after a night of four meme-inspired drinks, Editorial Director Kerensa Cadenas (New York Magazine) joins us to talk about sapphic TV, bisexual signaling, and dating. So exactly why are queer women going nuts of Negroni Sbagliatos? What can we expect or hope for with the new season of The L Word: Generation Q? Who do we NOT want to win a GLAAD award? Besides the green velvet couch, how else can home decor signal sexuality? Plus, Melody gets her eyes on L Word screeners, and Carolyn gets more conceptual with her gayest thing!

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Did we convince comedian Maddie Wiener (Comedy Central) to unplug and move to the country on this week's episode? Or maybe their emotional support rabbit will help them cope with living in New York City. Either way, we have a fun conversation about gender, nostalgia, van life, Prada as a queer ally, queer YouTube and more! Plus, Melody and Carolyn go to the premiere of The Lesbian Bar Project series which is out now on the Roku Channel, so check it out.

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