Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQIA Podcast for Everyone!

We made contact with comedian and writer DeAnne Smith (Netflix) from their underground Canadian bunker for an episode that will have you thinking about nipples, or the absence of them. DeAnne tells us about their recovery from top surgery, the overwhelming nipple considerations, and the sick rack they parted with. We also address Important Lesbian Questions like If you're friends with an ex, when can you call them a friend instead of your ex? How do you get over heartache? How can you use your assets to advance social justice causes? If you're in New York City, be sure to catch DeAnne's monthly show DeAnarchy at Union Hall!

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Anne Lister is THRIVING thanks our guest Sally Wainwright, the creator of Gentleman Jack , now in its second season on HBO. Whether or not you've seen the show, this is the perfect episode to learn more about one of the most fascinating d*kes who never got her due in our history books. Sally talks about the breadth and quality of Anne's diaries and how they shaped the show. Yes, we ask about the pube lockets. But we also talk about so much more! Also, for all of you Last Tango in Halifax fans, we ask her about it. Looking for more content? Head to our Patreon to hear Melody's most INSANE dating app story.

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Melody Kamali got stuck sitting weird in a chair (she had a last-minute conflict) and won't be on this week's episode. But we wanted to record it and put it out anyway because we are so excited to talk about the movie we all wish existed in our formative years. We've got Sammi Cohen talking all things Crush (streaming now on Hulu), a new queer coming-of-age romcom that will have you speaking in puns. Or signing up for sports you're not good at. Or learning how to skateboard. Do we finally have the queer movie we've always wanted? What went on behind the scenes to ensure an authentic and entertaining story? How did Sammi bring her own experiences to the film? Why do straight girls keep insisting on tickling each other's backs? In terms of queer storytelling, where do we go from here? We hope you love this movie as much as we do!

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Are you in a parasocial relationship with this week's guest? Or with us? You're probably not alone! YouTuber (or video essayist, pick your poison) and ex-philosopher Natalie Wynn, known by most as ContraPoints, joins us to d*ke out about our strange digital relationships. Sometimes it's angry people hiding behind anime avatars. Other times, it's people you've never met inviting you to their wedding. And if you're lucky, it's really great folks in your audience who you enjoy getting to know and maybe become friends with! Also, we touch on the power of crystals, and Natalie has the best answer to our new final question.

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BIG EP ALERT! We're changing up our format to freshen up the way we d*ke out. And what better guest for this than comedian and actor Aby James (How I Met Your Father). Aby tells us about her unique relationship with her therapist, playing Tien Tran's love interest, her old YouTube videos, and what happened when she fell in love with her best friend. How far would you go to spend the most time with your best friend who you happen to be in love with but may not be fully aware of that fact? Probably not as far as Aby! Also, what's all the hype about Hype D*kes? We hope you like the new format, and as always, head to the Patreon for all the juicy gay goss.

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How many lines connect you to your local Shane on The Chart? Lesbian aficionada, writer, author, and performer Zara Barrie joins us to explore the tangled webs we weave in our community. Is it okay to hook up with a friend's ex? Why do 'charts' feel more real in smaller cities? When queer women go after straights, is it because they've exhausted their own chart? Should we put all our projects on hold to make a master Celesbian chart? Which one of us is the real Alice Pieszecki? Okay, we don't address that last one, but feel free to let us know your opinion. Plus, Melody gays up the Grammy's and Carolyn wants to change an icon's life story. And finally, we get a short and sweet listener question but give it the longest answer.

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We're joined by drummer and lead singer G Flip, fresh off touring with Fletcher, for a chat about drums, their music career, and what it means to have a cheeky pash. We learn about their journey, from their upbringing in Melbourne where they preferred wearing the boy's school uniform, to coming into their own as a queer non-binary artist. Also, we learn about why they got into drumming and the amazing mentor who guided them. Plus, how are G Flip's Aussie fans handling them settling down in L.A.? You'll have to just listen to find out! And it wouldn't be an episode of Dyking Out if we weren't sharing our gayest things! Carolyn supports past guests, while Melody loosens up with the gays. Finally, we dissect a listener's Bumble profile.

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This episode is for anyone who has ever been on the receiving end of mean remarks or straight up hatorade. Writer, podcaster, and comedian Dylan Marron joins us to talk about the power of empathy through lessons he's learned by talking to the people who make nasty comments to him online. We talk about his podcast and new book with the same name, Conversations With People Who Hate Me. Plus, we break down the motivations for seeking out information about strangers who hurt us on the internet. And once you get that information, what power does it have? Also, Dylan shares his thoughts on calling haters "trolls," shares his hopes for our listeners, attempts to explain Turtle Bay, and more! Also, Carolyn thinks she's found the queerest place in NYC while Melody ventures to Astoria. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is having an impossible time trying to find someone to date.

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Yesterday's "uber d*ke" is today's "it girl," and we've got Jill Gutowitz (Girls Can Kiss Now) on the pod to explain how we got here. Jill holds our triggered hands and walks us through the key moments in lesbian pop culture that scarred us, and eventually freed us. How is Perez Hilton different from wishful queers? Why hasn't Lindsay Lohan been herself? What is it about Neve Campbell's bangs? Also, what do milfs have to do with expressing desire for physical harm? We explore these questions and more. And, if you want even more on these topics, check out Jill's new book, Girls Can Kiss Now. If you love it, be sure to leave a positive review! Plus, both our gayest things involve music videos. And finally, we end with a question from a listener with rude-ass friends.

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We often talk about the lack of authentic and funny queer stories, and TV writers like Brittani Nichols (Abbott Elementary, Black Lady Sketch Show) are doing the work to give our community the content we crave. Hear how Brittani went from TV nerd to pitching jokes in the writer's room. What are some challenges that TV writers face when trying to tell our stories? What's it like to work with other queer writers? How can we get to more authentic stories? How does Brittani balance her career with social justice work? Plus, Carolyn goes back and forth on her gayest thing, while Melody leans into her Connecticut origins. Finally, we end on a listener question-ish about the Lesbian Master Doc.

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