You've read the books. Journaled. Made the vision board. Repeated the affirmations. Woken up early.

So why do you feel exactly the same as you did a year ago?

It's not a discipline problem. In this episode, I break down why most personal growth advice only treats the surface, like watering cut flowers instead of tending the root, and why that root usually goes back further than any habit tracker can reach.

I share my own story growing up with an absent mother, the belief it planted in me before I even had words for it, and the first practice that actually starts pulling a pattern out at the root instead of managing it on the surface.

Timestamps:

0:00 Why personal growth keeps failing you

1:24 You don't have a discipline problem, you have a root problem

1:51 Where the root actually comes from

2:58 The first practice: Pause

The full framework is in my book, The PATTERN Practice. Link in the description.

#PersonalGrowth #SelfSabotage #mindset

You've read the books. Journaled. Made the vision board. Repeated the affirmations. Woken up early.

So why do you feel exactly the same as you did a year ago?

It's not a discipline problem. In this episode, I break down why most personal growth advice only treats the surface, like watering cut flowers instead of tending the root, and why that root usually goes back further than any habit tracker can reach.

I share my own story growing up with an absent mother, the belief it planted in me before I even had words for it, and the first practice that actually starts pulling a pattern out at the root instead of managing it on the surface.

Timestamps:

0:00 Why personal growth keeps failing you

0:45 The cut flowers metaphor

2:00 Where the root actually comes from

3:30 The first practice: Pause

The full framework is in my book, The PATTERN Practice, at termeilhall.com.

#PersonalGrowth #SelfSabotage #MotherWound

Do you pull away the second things get serious? Start arguments just to see if they'll stay? Watch a good thing fall apart and quietly wonder if you're the problem?

You're not. But you might be the pattern.

In this first episode, I break down what self-sabotage in relationships actually looks like, the quiet version nobody talks about. Not the dramatic blowup, but the text left on read, the plans canceled because you're "tired," the bridge you build ninety percent of the way and then walk back across.

I cover why this isn't your fault, where the pattern was actually learned, and the first practice you can use tonight to start catching it in real time.

Timestamps:

0:00 The three questions

0:45 What self-sabotage really looks like

1:40 Why it isn't your fault

3:00 The first practice: Pause

4:15 Two promises

The full framework is in my book, The PATTERN Practice, at termeilhall.com.

#SelfSabotage #Relationships #MotherWound

When was the last time you said "I love you" to yourself? And no, not those mirror affirmations you repeat but barely believe in—those don't count. We’re talking about saying it with deep meaning, where you actually feel a shift inside.

In this episode, we unpack the reality of parental trauma and look at where love actually comes from. You'll learn a simple, intimate 10-minute self-inquiry practice designed to cut through the cold walls of empty affirmations, provide the nurturing you didn’t get, and cultivate the deep emotional safety you’ve needed this entire time.

If you currently been struggling with old patterns keeping you stuck, my 7 stage framework, the PATTERN-PRACTICE can show you how to break old them for good. Check it our at termeilhall.com