Ego/Id: The Psychology of Everything

Why do people sometimes see another group’s struggle as connected to their own and other times see that same group as a competitor?

In this episode, I sit down with political psychologist Dr. Efrén Pérez, Professor of Political Science and Psychology at UCLA, to explore the psychology of race, identity, political solidarity, and coalition-building.

We talk about racial and ethnic groups as if shared experiences naturally translate into shared politics. But Dr. Pérez’s research shows a much more complicated picture. Black, Latino, Asian American, and other communities contain substantial political and psychological diversity, and solidarity between groups is neither automatic nor inevitable.

Instead, we explore the psychological processes that can expand our sense of “us.”

One of the ideas I kept coming back to throughout our conversation is that our identities can be remarkably stable while the boundaries of the groups we identify with can still expand.

The larger psychological question may be this:

How do we learn to make the circle of “us” bigger without erasing the differences within it?

Dr. Efrén Pérez is a Professor of Political Science and Psychology at UCLA and a leading scholar in political psychology. His research examines racial and ethnic politics, group identity, interminority relations, political cognition, language, and public opinion. He directs UCLA’s Race, Ethnicity, Politics & Society (REPS) Lab and co-directs its Intergroup Relations Lab.

Learn more about Dr. Pérez:
Efrén Pérez — Official Website
UCLA Faculty Profile
Race, Ethnicity, Politics & Society (REPS) Lab
Dr. Pérez’s Publications

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What actually makes us feel close to another person?

Is chemistry enough to build a lasting relationship? Do opposites really attract? Is conflict a sign that something is wrong? And can someone genuinely love us while still failing to make us feel loved?

In this episode of Ego Over Id, we sit down with renowned relationship scientist Dr. Harry Reis, Dean’s Professor of Psychology at the University of Rochester and co-author of How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most.

Drawing from more than five decades of research on social interaction and close relationships, Dr. Reis shares with us what relationship science actually tells us about intimacy, chemistry, compatibility, vulnerability, listening, conflict, attachment, and love.

One of the central ideas of our conversation is surprisingly simple: being loved and feeling loved are not necessarily the same thing.

For intimacy to develop, we need more than another person’s good intentions. We need to experience them as someone who understands us, appreciates us, and cares about us—a concept relationship researchers call perceived partner responsiveness.

Dr. Reis is the co-author, with happiness researcher Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky. The book explores a deceptively important distinction: many people are loved but don't consistently feel loved.

Learn more about the book, explore its resources, and take the authors’ quiz: How to Feel Loved — Official Website

Dr. Harry Reis — University of Rochester
Faculty Profile & Research

How to Feel Loved
Official Book Website

More on Dr. Reis's relationship research
University of Rochester — Relationship Science & Online Dating

Research: Perceived Partner Responsiveness & Well-Being
Oxford Academic

More from the authors on feeling loved
Greater Good Science Center — Five Ways to Feel More Loved

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What if getting dressed each morning is one of the most psychological decisions you make all day?

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Carolyn Mair, behavioral psychologist, founder of the Psychology of Fashion programs at the London College of Fashion, and author of The Psychology of Fashion. Together, we explore the fascinating intersection of psychology, identity, confidence, and consumer behavior.

Far from being about trends or luxury brands, fashion is a powerful psychological tool that shapes how we see ourselves, how others perceive us, and even how we think and behave. Dr. Mair explains why clothing influences confidence, how unconscious biases drive first impressions, the psychology behind fashion trends, and how we can build a healthier, more intentional relationship with what we wear.

Whether you've never thought much about fashion or you're fascinated by the science of human behavior, this conversation will change the way you think about the clothes in your closet.

Dr. Carolyn Mair is a behavioral psychologist specializing in the psychology of fashion. She founded both the Bachelor's and Master's degree programs in Psychology of Fashion at the London College of Fashion and has spent years researching how clothing influences identity, well-being, consumer behavior, and social interaction.

She now works internationally as a consultant, helping organizations apply psychological science to create more ethical, sustainable, and human-centered approaches to fashion.

• The Psychology of Fashion (Second Edition)
• LinkedIn: Carolyn Mair, PhD
• Instagram: @psychologyforfashion

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In this episode, we explore the complex relationship between psychology and financial decision-making with Dr. Adrian Furnham, a renowned psychologist from Oxford and expert in the field. Discover how personality influences money habits, the myths surrounding wealth and happiness, and practical tips to improve your financial well-being.

Topics Covered:

• How personality traits and cultural background shape our perceptions of money
• The impact of early socialization and taboo around discussing finances
• Behavioral economics concepts like heuristics, anchoring, and decoy effects in everyday financial choices
• The role of delayed gratification in building wealth and happiness
• Myths about money, intelligence, and happiness debunked
• Strategies for fostering open conversations about money in relationships and organizations
• The importance of monitoring finances regularly for success

Check out Dr. Furnham's Book:

• The New Psychology of Money by Dr. Adrian Furnham on Amazon

Connect with Dr. Adrian Furnham:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adrian-furnham-8472a82ba/

Website: https://adrianfurnham.com/

Why does being left out feel so personal? Why can ghosting or exclusion stick with us so deeply? And what is the real difference between social exclusion, loneliness, rejection, and FOMO?

We sat down with social psychologist Dr. Michael Bernstein to unpack the science of belonging and what happens when that belonging feels threatened. We explored why humans are wired for connection, how exclusion shapes the way we think and behave, why social pain can feel surprisingly similar to physical pain, and how social media can intensify the fear of missing out.

We also break down the difference between being directly rejected and being ignored, why ambiguity can be so hard to process, and what we can do to cope when exclusion shows up in everyday life.

Whether you’ve felt left out by friends, overlooked in a group, ghosted, or caught in a comparison spiral online, this episode is for you.

• What psychologists mean by social exclusion
• The difference between exclusion, rejection, loneliness, and FOMO
• Why humans are so sensitive to belonging threats
• How rejection changes attention, memory, and social perception
• Why social pain can feel physically painful
• The impact of social media on FOMO and connection
• Ghosting vs direct rejection
• Small ways to help others feel included
• Why feeling left out is more common than most people think

Dr. Michael Bernstein is a social psychologist whose research focuses on social exclusion, ostracism, person perception, stereotyping, and how social experiences shape human behavior, cognition, and health.

• You can learn more about him HERE
• Check out his published academic work HERE
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Dr. Boris Baer, an expert in evolutionary biology and insect behavior, shares insights into the fascinating world of bees and their complex social organizations. From decision-making to stress responses, bees offer valuable lessons for human systems and organizations. The conversation delves into the fascinating world of bees and their societal structures, drawing parallels to human society and evolution. It explores the themes of fairness, societal cooperation, and the implications of bee research on human understanding and behavior. The conversation also highlights the impact of bee research on sustainability and the interconnectedness of species.

Connect with Dr. Baer:

• Center for Integrative Bee Research (CIBER)
• Scholarly work by Dr. Baer

Chapters

• 00:00 The Extraordinary World of Bees
• 05:10 The Journey to Studying Social Insects
• 10:51 Culture and Personality in Bees
• 19:53 Collective Decision-Making in Superorganisms
• 26:09 The Role of the Queen and Caste System
• 38:12 Fairness and Cooperation in Bee Societies
• 44:25 Optimism for Humanity and Societal Evolution
• 55:39 Fun Lightning Round: Insights into Bee Behavior and Psychology
• 01:07:46 Reflections on Bee Societal Structures and Human Behavior

My conversation with Dr. Zach Soulliard centers on body image and LGBTQ+ identity. If you've ever been curious about how society shapes our body standards, struggled with body image yourself or want to learn how to be more mindful in how you compliment someone's appearance, then check out this episode!

Connect with Zach and check out his work at the links below:

• Dr. Zach Soulliard Faculty Profile
• Meet Zach and his Clinical Practice
• The BISQue Lab

Think you might have an eating disorder? Check out NEDA for more resources and support.

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Dr. Sheldon shares groundbreaking insights from his research on the self-determination theory, the hedonic adaptation prevention model, and his own journey from a rock band to distinguished academic.

We break down some of the most common myths about happiness — including the false promise that more money equals more joy — and highlight the surprisingly small role income plays in our well-being.

If you're tired of surface-level solutions and crave practical, science-based guidance for a happier life, this is your episode. Tune in, get inspired, and start making empowered choices today.

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In this episode, we're focused on the psychology of women in leadership, exploring the impact of gender norms, stereotype threat, and the imposter phenomenon. It also addresses the challenges faced by women as the only woman in leadership roles and the misconceptions and biases prevalent in the field of leadership. The conversation explores gender bias in leadership, organizational strategies for equity, the difference between mentorship and sponsorship, skill sets in leadership, the cultural narrative and leadership, broadening the cultural narrative, and leadership development strategies.

Chapters

• 00:00 Psychological Effects of Being the Only Woman in Leadership
• 29:23 Organizational Strategies for Equity
• 38:30 Skill Sets in Leadership
• 43:44 Cultural Narrative and Leadership
• 51:30 Leadership Development Strategies

Connect with Dr. Tan:

• Dr. Sherylle Tan's Instagram
• Check out her website at: www.sherylletan.com
• Her book: Women and Leadership: Journey Toward Equity

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Our conversation with Dr. Faraone explores the changing landscape of mental health care in the US, the complexities of ADHD, expanding access to care, new tools and interventions, and the underdiagnosis of mental health conditions.

Dr. Stephen Faraone was recently presented with a lifetime achievement award for his work on ADHD. You can check out his book on navigating ADHD below and his other socials:

• Dr. Stephen Faraone Faculty Profile
• Navigating ADHD Care: A Practical Guide
• The ADHD Evidence Project (Featured Non-profit)
• Connect on LinkedIn