ELITE PerforMENce with Dr. Brad

Let me make this clear…

You are more than what you do for a living!!

Your identity is more and deeper than what you do for your career or business!

Fellas, ultimately, we are destroying ourselves because we are defining ourselves primarily by what we do for a living…instead of by the TRUTH OF WHO WE ARE!

Our identity is HOW we see and perceive ourselves…how we define ourselves. How we perceive ourselves has great impact on whether we have positive or negative self-esteem toward ourselves. This identity dictates how we show up in the world.

PROBLEM: WE IDENTIFY OURSELVES BASED ON OUR CAREER

1. We often identify & define ourselves by what we do (i.e. doctor, lawyer, business owner, etc.), and how well we do it.

• If you were asked…"Who are you?" How would you answer? Often times our professional title is used to answer that question.
• When first meeting someone we often immediately talk about what we do. The first question after greeting someone and sharing our name is the question, "What do you do?"

1. We connect our WORTH and VALUE to what we do and how well we do it

• We often automatically translate our level of success or failure within our career or business, to a measure of what our personal value and worth is.
• We often think…"Once I achieve this next career goal…then I'll be happy". This in essence is saying, "I will feel better about myself…I will feel of value and worth only AFTER I achieve this professional goal".

Unfortunately, this dependence of our identity on our career is a setup for…

1. Perpetual failure: In essence we never believe we are good enough because our worth will always be connected to the next goal we are in pursuit of and therefore only happy and fulfilled once we achieve it. That means the rest of the time while in pursuit of achieving the goal, you feel 'less than'.
2. An emotional rollercoaster: If (and only when) we achieve, then we are happy about ourselves. But if we don't achieve, then we feel horrible about ourselves.
3. Conditional self-worth: Your self-worth and self-esteem is completely conditional upon performance…which is false!! Your self-worth and value has NOTHING TO DO with your performance or achievement! You have intrinsic value that fuels your ability to achieve…not that achievement fuels your value.
4. A lack of self-control: We can NOT control many circumstances that influence our results in life. Therefore, when we connect our value to our results, we are in essence connecting our value to things we have zero control over.

What I've found is that when our identity and value is tied to influences that are external from us, such as our job or titles, it creates what I call a conditional performance identity:

• If I perform well…then I have a temporary positive self-esteem and value
• If I don't perform well…then I have a constant negative self-esteem and value

The challenge with this way of thinking is that our career, jobs, and businesses can change based on circumstances we have no control over (i.e. market changes, Covid, etc.) And if circumstances change the results within our career…then so does our identity and self-value.

Examples:

Professional sports

• Post retirement identity issues: Athletes struggle with retirement because their identity was primarily defined by their career as an athlete. As the career retires, so does their identity and feeling of self-worth.
• Career Anxiety & depression: When they don't perform at a certain level, they will struggle mentally because their value and identity is tied to their level of performance.

This happens within our careers as well…but it just more on full display with professional sports.

SOLUTION: ANCHOR OUR IDENTITY ON SOMETHING FOUNDATIONAL THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE

Your identity is WHO YOU ARE…not What you do!!

Your identity should help you in ALL areas of life! Not just for your career!

Who you are is based on THE TRUTH who YOUR CREATOR says you are and the INTRINSIC UNIQUENESS AND VALUE YOU WERE BORN WITH.

You ARE…

• A child of God: Therefore by definition you are
• Royalty: You are a chosen child of The King
• Capable: Made in the image and likeness of God himself
• A Citizen of heaven: You are a representative of The Kingdom of Heaven
• Great: God is great, and the Spirit of God is IN YOU…therefore you are great
• Complete: You are already equipped with greateness. You don't NEED anything to be great.

Therefore, you show up great, because your intrinsic value is great! You don't need to prove your value by performing because you ALREADY ARE GREAT!

I envision God asking…"Who told you, that you were just a doctor…lawyer…business owner?"

When you come from this place of known intrinsic value and greatness…the pressure is off! You don't have to perform to prove your worth or value. You can now create to the level of who your TRUE identity is, based off of who your creator says you are.

ACTION: DISCOVER WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE

Do some simple research. Google this phrase: "What does God say about who I am in the bible?"

Write down your top 3 things of what God says about who you are. Start telling yourself this daily to remind yourself about who you really are and your true identity!

If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad

THE CHALLENGE: MAKING CRITICAL DECISIONS

Do you have a system for making critical decisions?

Every single day we are faced with making lots of different decisions

• Decisions within our career and businesses
• Decisions within our marriage and family
• Decisions for our health
• etc

Ultimately our decisions determine our destiny

Depending on the decision…the outcome can go left or right…good or bad…favorable or unfavorable.

• If I decide to marry my wife…life looks different
• If I decide a different career…life looks different
• If I decide to hit the snooze button…I'm late for work…
• If I decide to not workout or decide to eat something unhealth…then there's a different future than if I do…

Therefore, the decisions we make are EXTREMELY important! They determine our destiny.

So with that said…

• How do you make decisions such that, given the same circumstances, no matter the outcome, you would make the same decision again?

• How do you create consistency in your decision making to reflect where it is you want to go in life?

• How do you make decisions that are congruent with how you want life to be?

• How do you make decisions that you would never ever regret?

THE PROBLEM: A CURRENT UNRELIABLE SYSTEM FOR DECISION-MAKING

One of the ways many of us make decisions is seeking the wisdom and opinion of others. We come to a crossroad and try to see what decision other people (people who hopefully have wisdom to offer wise suggestions) would make given the same situation.

There is certainly benefits to gaining the wisdom of others, but it does present a challenge. We are trying to make a decision based off of what a completely different person would do, but standing in your shoes. This presents a challenge because of the nuances of the situation and differences of personality. If we strictly use the opinions of others…we may regret the decision if things don't go as we desired. Ultimately, the opinions of others is good to gather information of ideas or perspectives that maybe you haven't considered in making your.

THE SOLUTIONS: CORE VALUES

What I've found is that…the wisdom of others helps me gather information to make a decision, but the most effective practice for making a decision I won't regret and is congruent with where I want to go is…

Using my Core Values as a Compass for my Decision Making

My definition of Core Values: The central ideas, principles, and/or standards that your life is guided by

Benefits of having a set of core values:

• They set a true north, like a compass, to ensure decision making will ultimately stay consistent with the destination of your goals – Keeps you going in the right direction
• It adds power to your decisions by making them more definitive and without ambiguity
• Allows you to know what to say 'NO' to
• Encourages action: If your core values are being compromised then it encourages (1) a needed critical conversation, (2) ideas for change, or (3) decision to leave!

Examples:

• I was recently invited to be on the board of directors of a local non-profit…aka a critical decision. However, because of my core values it was easy for me to say yes to the opportunity.
• However, I was also recently invited to be part of a real estate project. It would have taken more time and energy and was not currently in alignment with my core values. Therefore it was easy to say, "no thank you".

(Nugget: Getting good at saying no to the right things is JUST AS, IF NOT MORE important than knowing what to say yes to)

ACTION: CREATING YOUR CORE VALUES

How to Make a list of core values:

1. A good number is between 4-7 Core Values
2. Write down a longer list
   1. What values really matter to you?
   2. What principles of life do you value?
   3. How do you want life to look? What values need to be in place to get there?
3. Narrow it down to 4-7
4. Write them down and put them in a place where you will see them consistently (memorize them)
5. Do it with your family and your business

Last question: Are your core values in line with your faith?? Your Faith should influence your core values.

My Core Values:

• Live as a reflection of God and Jesus Christ
• Embrace God's Will Over My Own
• Relationships over results
• I am 4th (1.God, 2.Family, 3.Employees/Patients/Clients, 4.Me)
• Love and serve others unconditionally with looking for nothing in return
• Consistency

This will simplify and standardize your decisions to ensure that life is navigated toward how you want it to actually be…and avoid regretting decisions.

If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad

I know you have BIG goals that you are excited about! I'm talking about the BIG ones!! The visions, the dreams, and the hopes that are almost SCARY when you think about them! I get it! I have those same ones.

Here is what typically happens…

• We get excited about our goals and dreams…
• We write them down
• We start going after them

And we think that the biggest challenge to achieving our goal is the hard work & consistency of doing the actual tasks that will help us achieve the goal.

Therefore, we invest our time, money, and energy toward things that help us with those tasks

For example:

• Health goals à Get Gym membership
• Business goals à Purchase and take an online course or conference
• Career goals à Development of new skills
• Husband & Fatherhood à Spend more time with wife & family

But how many times have you tried the NEW THING or some NEW TASK that sounds like it's supposed to work…and then results never change?? OR it only changes temporarily??

Trust me…I'm not saying these tasks and behaviors are not important, because they are…HOWEVER…what I've found is that it IS NOT THE TASKS AND BEHAVIORS that are your greatest challenge in achieving your goals.

The greatest challenge you have in achieving your goals is NOT GETTING BETTER…it is BELIEVING BETTER!!

• It's believing enough to get started, but also believing enough to continue when everything around you says…it ain't possible!!

Remember the 'success sequence' and embed it in your memory:

Beliefs à Thoughts à Feelings à Actions/Behaviors à Results

We are trying to change our results by changing our behaviors only. And the reality is, we aren't going back deep enough into the success sequence to create new lasting change. To create new results you have to have new belief…not just new behaviors! The new belief will translate into new behaviors which will eventually turn into new results. The beliefs that go in are the results that come out!

Also, consider this. Typically, the way our internal beliefs are formed is by our external environment. Our external environment includes everything around us including (1) people around us, (2) things we watch and listen to, and a HUGE one is (3) our current results. Our current results, which are often not where we want to be, is constantly convincing us that WE ARE OUR CURRENT RESULTS! Our current results, shape our internal belief and identity. For example, if you currently earn a certain income, but want to make more, then your current income is shaping your mind to believe that you ARE your current income…and therefore leading to thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that keep you at that income.

The good news is that your mind and the beliefs you have are equally influenced by your internal environment, just as strong and effective as your external environment. Your internal environment includes (1) things you tell yourself, (2) memories, (3) new intentional directed thoughts. Therefore, you can literally direct your thoughts to create beliefs that will lead to new behaviors and new results!

However, your greatest challenge is maintaining the thoughts that create a belief that is consistent with the goals you are pursuing…when EVERYTHING AROUND IS TRYING TO CONVINCE YOU THAT YOU ARE YOUR CURRENT RESULTS!

I'm here to tell you…YOU ARE NOT YOUR CURRENT RESULTS! YOU ARE YOUR FUTURE GOAL!!

For example…I was once a night owl. I HATED getting up early. However, I needed to change my routine. I did everything I could to switch my habits from night owl to early riser…bought books, set my alarm earlier, etc. But it wouldn't happen. Not until I started working on a new belief, by directing my thoughts toward believing I was an early riser…did I change. I now get up consistently between 5-6am and get more done in my day. NEW BELIEF = NEW RESULTS

Here are some steps you can practice to start building a new belief:

1. Train the brain
   1. Write an affirmation (start with 1…whatever your greatest goal is):
      1. Begin the affirmation with the words…"I AM __________" and fill in the blank with the vision you have of yourself. (i.e. I AM a millionaire, I AM in great shape, I AM a great & loving husband, etc.)
   2. Reinforce the affirmation:
      1. "I AM the type of man who _________". Fill in the blank with behaviors that the person described in your affirmation would do. (i.e. I am the type of person that calls more clients…that works out 3 times a week…etc.
   3. Say the affirmations daily multiple times a day
      1. Believe what you say. Envision and experience the future achieved goal when you say the affirmations and reinforcements. Connect emotionally with your goal and FEEL it happening!
   4. Create a positive external environment
      1. What are you listening to?? Listen to things that inspire and help solidify your beliefs…like this podcast J

Stay consistent with these actions to create a new internal environment and watch what happens! But remember…your toughest challenge will be actually believing it. Stay consistent and you'll get better…and so will your results!

If you need help, book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad

How To Get More Time To Achieve Your Goals

I can remember struggling with having a lack of time in my day. I was so busy that it seemed like I didn't have time for everything…including my faith, my family, or my fitness.

Have you ever felt like "If I just had more time in the day".

For example…

• You have a goal of losing more weight, but don't have enough time in the day
• You want to spend time growing in your faith, but don't have enough time in the day
• You want to start a business, but don't have enough time in the day

Trust me, I get it! I've been there before.

Here is what typically happens…

We believe we don't have enough time in the day. The thought is, 'if I add more tasks to my plate (even if its tasks getting you closer to goals you care about) then it's going to take away from the areas of my life of importance'…which is typically work. Then you become overwhelmed and stressed just simply thinking about putting something new on your plate. As a result, you talk yourself out of going after certain goals…and don't take action.

Therefore, no action = no results

No action in our faith means continued worry and stress

No action with our family and spouses means poor relationships

No action in our fitness means poor health

No action toward our finances means lack of future wealth

I thought this way for a LONG TIME! However, I've come to realize that it's not so much that we DON'T HAVE TIME, but more that we have a MISCONCEPTION of HOW WE SEE TIME.

What I've found out is that we look more at time as spending time…as opposed to investing time

By looking at our time more as an investment of time…we can see how investing time toward our goals now, can prevent us from losing more time later because of neglecting our goals.

Look at it this way…You are going to have to pay with time NO MATTER WHAT!

You can invest in a relationship with God now, so you aren't paying for the stress and anxiety later…

You can invest in your marriage and children now, so you aren't paying for it in a divorce and poor relationship later…

You can invest in your fitness now, so you aren't paying later for it in the form of high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart issues later…

You get the picture: Invest now…or Pay for it later!

Too many of us are putting our goals on credit…trying to not pay now, but paying it back with interest later…and then regretting never investing the upfront time.

When I finally understood this concept, it had dramatic effects in my life…

For example…

• I started slowly investing some time toward my faith & relationship with God…and my return of investment (ROI) was peace of mind and high performance
• I started slowly investing some time toward my family…and my ROI was great relationships, fulfillment, and actually more time to spend on my work and projects since my family was now happy.
• I started slowly investing some time toward my health, and my ROI was feeling great & having more energy
• I started slowly investing some time toward my finances, and my ROI was getting closer to my financial goals

The reality is… You've gotta put reps in!

In order to improve or grow in anything…you must put reps in…PERIOD!

In order to put reps in, there MUST BE CONSISTENT SPACE & TIME DEDICATED to doing the reps.

Without creating space and time to put the reps in…then you have no shot at seeing change in your results!

In order to create space and time you have to do 2 things:

1. SLOW DOWN!!
   1. You MUST slow down long enough to (1) stop, (2) think, (3) strategize
2. Ask "How"
   1. After stopping and slowing down you have to then ask yourself this question, "HOW can I find the time?" By asking this 'How-To Question', it will trigger the mind to figure out a solution instead of immediately saying…"I don't have the time"
3. Honor the time.
   1. Once you figure out how you'll find the time…then put it on your calendar, and HONOR IT!
   2. Once you find the time to invest in your faith…honor it! Once you find the time to invest in your family…honor it! Etc.

Here are the steps to creating more time:

1. Slow down
2. Ask How
3. Put it on the calendar
4. Honor the time

Do this for each of these pillars of life: Your Faith, Your Family, Your Health, Your Wealth, Your Career

But here is the GREATEST & MOST IMPORTANT PILLAR OF LIFE TO INVEST YOUR TIME, that will have THE MOST RETURN OF IMPACT ON EVERY OTHER AREA OF LIFE…

YOUR FAITH…aka YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

Imagine investing your time in this relationship and experiencing more success and fulfillment in your life!

10 minutes of quality time spent with God, is more effective than 10 hours trying to work do life without Him.

As always, if you need help with finding more time OR strengthening your faith by building a more solid relationship with God…I'm here.

Book a 1:1 Discovery Call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad

"The life we want to live, is currently above the level of identity we are operating at"

-Anthony Trucks

BOOM!!! Mic drop!!

This is the concept that Anthony Trucks uses to help individuals become aware of the identity shift needed to match the results they desire in life. I had the privilege of interviewing Anthony Trucks during the virtual ELITE MEN Summit event, that I hosted back in December of 2020.

Anthony is a former NFL athlete, Founder of Identity Shift Coaching, International speaker & podcast host. He is a phenomenal human being with a heart of gold to help people use the power of identity to achieve their dreams.

Our interview was so well received during the virtual summit…that I decided to replay it on the podcast for everyone's benefit…and trust me, it is WORTH THE LISTEN!

This interview is JAM PACKED with VALUE! He shares his story of how he went from a successful yet unfulfilled entrepreneur that was stuck in both his personal life & business…to tremendously fulfilled and more successful in all areas of life by using 'The Shift Method'. He describes The Shift Method in detail and breaks down how YOU TOO can do the same thing to become the man you want to be.

One of the biggest ideas we discuss is this concept that the life you want to live is currently beyond the identity that you currently have for yourself. However, there's a way to shift your identity and therefore your results in life…through the SEE – SHIFT – SUSTAIN model.

Make sure you follow him on social media: @anthonytrucks

Enjoy fellas,

Dr. Brad

Have you ever had a bad habit…something that you knew would not benefit you or help you in any way, yet you do it anyway? Or maybe it's something that you need to do, but for some reason you avoid doing it?

These are BAD HABITS! And this is something I can definitely relate to. We all have bad habits…It doesn't matter who you are, you have one (or some).

For example, I have a bad habit of procrastination. If there is something I know I'm scheduled to work on, but not in the mood to do it…I'll procrastinate by spending time doing something else that doesn't help me reach my goals. For example, when it's time for me to create more podcast & YouTube content, but I'm not in the mood, then I'll find something…ANYTHING to do…even do the dishes of all things, just to avoid the work I scheduled to finish.

A friend of mine was sharing how watching SportsCenter on ESPN is a bad habit b/c, by watching it, he fails to fully engage with his wife…particularly during times when he knows his time can be better spent with his spouse.

This is true in all areas of our lives, right? For example:

Our Faith: We know in order to grow in our faith, that we need to pray and spend time with God…but we don't

Our Family lives: We know in order to have a healthy marriage and relationship with our kids, we need to spend consistent & quality time with them…but we don't

Our health: We know in order to live more healthy lives, we need to consistently workout and have better nutrition…but we don't

Our wealth: We know in order to achieve our financial goals, we need to be more wise with our spending…but we don't

I can go on and on…you get the point.

So this begs the question…

Why do we do things that we know we aren't supposed to do?

Why do we do things that we know are not beneficial for us?

To answer this question, we've gotta understand WHY this question is so important.

The reason this topic is so important is because our habits, whether good or bad, heavily influence our results in our work and life. Therefore, our results in any area of our lives WILL NOT CHANGE if our habits STAY THE SAME.

Our faith and level of fulfillment won't change if we don't habitually pray…

Our relationships won't change if we don't habitually invest our time and presence in them…

Our health won't change if we don't habitually work out & eat better…

Our wealth won't change if we don't habitually save more…

Our career or business won't change if we don't habitually put in the work.

So let's breakdown how bad habits are formed:

1. We are emotional beings that are always trying to either (1) avoid negative or painful feelings or (2) pursue a desirable good or pleasurable feeling.

1. Bad habits are often birthed out of a desire to escape from a negative feeling or emotion!!

1. These negative feelings & emotions include: fear, anxiety, sadness, anger, frustration, stress, overwhelmed, guilt, shame, self-doubt, worry

1. These emotions develop in response to life experiences…which are broken down into internal (thoughts of past) or external (events)

This is the sequence:

Experience(Trigger) à Emotion (Feeling) à Escape (Bad habit)

Therefore, The escape, aka the bad habit, is simply a temporary external bandaid to an internal emotional bleeding wound

Here are a host of different Escapes…aka Bad Habits:

• Internet
• Gambling
• Women
• TV
• Food
• Drugs & alcohol
• Work
• Procrastination

The bad habit is the escape…the bad habit is the bandaid.

Question: Can you cure internal bleeding with an external Band-Aid on the skin?? NO!!!

Then the cycle of bad habit begins because now you feel bad that you didn't do what you were supposed to do in the first place….and therefore go right back to the escape to run from the negative feeling…

Now a new Identity is formed because you begin to play a new narrative in your mind. You begin having thoughts that sound like this…

• "God doesn't care about me…"
• "I'm a bad person"
• "I'm not a good husband"
• "I can't lose the weight"
• "I'll never overcome my struggle"
• …and a host of other negative thoughts that reinforce the bad habits

Here is THE BIGGEST STEP that you can take to BREAK YOUR BAD HABIT:

SELF AWARENESS!!

You've got to become more self-aware of your habit, and the thoughts and emotions connected to them. Once you become self-aware, you can then begin to eliminate the bad habit. But self-awareness is the first step…nothing changes without it.

Here are the steps to become self-aware:

Step 1. Create time & space:

• Take 20min to dedicate to doing this exercise

Step 2. Identity the worst habit or addiction you have that you want to change:

• Choose only one bad habit. Work on one at a time.

Step 3. Identify the feeling/emotion you have around the time that you are doing the bad habit

• Answer these questions:
  • "How do I feel just before deciding to do the bad habit?"
  • "What am I escaping from that leads me to the bad habit?"

Step 4. Identify the trigger that causes that emotion

• Answer this question:
  • "What are the consistent triggers that leads me to do the bad habit?"

Now here is the solution!

Step 5. Manage the negative emotion that you are trying to escape.

• Build a relationship with God: Spend consistent time with him
  • Remember what he says about you!
    • You are fearfully and wonderfully made
    • You can do all things through Him who strengthens you
  • Rely on this relationship as your primary source of satisfaction & fulfillment
    • The relationship with God is ALL YOU NEED! You don't need any external thing from you, or any bad habit to satisfy you. When your cup is full, you won't need to fill it with anything else

Listen,

I really want you to practice this…for real!! This will be a life-changer. Consider what life would be like with your greatest bad habit behind you!! REALLY IMAGINE IT!! It's possible, and it's real!

As always, if I can help you with breaking that habit…don't hesitate to reach out!

Your struggle IS NOT meant to last forever

Have you ever felt like you've been struggling with a certain challenge for a long time, and seems like nothing is changing?

Here's what I NEED you to know…

Whatever your current struggle is…it IS NOT meant to last forever…

Your struggle is meant to LEARN & GROW from…not last forever!!

If there is a struggle in your life that seems to be lasting really long time, then I'm going to challenge you to begin asking yourself this question…

"What have I yet to learn or grow from in the midst of this challenge in my life?"

For example:

Remember the video game Super Mario Bros? There would be circumstances where I would get stuck and couldn't move on to the next level. There was something I hadn't learned or a task I hadn't done on that level that was preventing me to move on to the next level.

Also think about working out or weight training in the gym. In order to lift more weight and get stronger, you have to be able to eventually grow and eventually master a certain pound of weight before you can increase the weight.

Our struggles and challenges of life are no different. We must GROW THROUGH, and not just GO THROUGH the struggles of life…in order to get to the next level.

Listen, I completely get it…I've struggled with:

• Being a loving husband that respected my wife
• Anger as a father
• Forgiveness of others
• Being out of shape
• Building quality trustworthy relationships
• Feeling stuck

Thank God, I was able to eventually grow past these hurdles in my life. It was not overnight, but it was worth learning and applying new ideas to my life so I could grow through my challenges and not remain stuck.

Therefore, I'd like to offer 5 key principles to understand to help you get past your current greatest struggle:

1. You are at your optimum performance the closer in relationship you are with God

Getting unstuck and growing past your challenge requires you be at your best performance. A high-performance car requires high-performance fuel and maintenance. Without God, it's like putting old oil and regular unleaded in a Ferrari…it won't perform at it's best.

1. This whole life is designed to either get closer to God and grow and improve, or get further away and stay stuck and unfulfilled.

Think about a doctor-patient relationship. If a patient is ill (aka stuck and struggling), and they refuse to go to the doctor, then they will continue to struggle and not improve. However, as soon as they establish a consistent healthy relationship with the doctor…they can get better and improve. This is no different in our lives without struggle. The more we put off going to the doctor of our lives…aka God, the longer the struggle will take to improve.

1. God has been chasing you this entire time to be in relationship…and the sooner you take his hand…the sooner you can see things change. He wants you to depend on him instead of you depending on you!

God knows what he is capable of, and what your limits are. Therefore, he's always with you waiting with his hand out, offering his help. However, it requires us to put our pride to the side and accept his help. It's THE BEST decision we can make.

1. Be reminded of your TRUE IDENTITY.

Often times we forget who we are OR have never understood who it is we REALLY are. Typically we define our identity by something external to us. For example, we define ourselves by our occupation, our title, status, or level of success. Your TRUE identity is defined by God. You are MORE THAN A CONQUEROR! You are FEARFULLY & WONDERFULLY MADE! You are made in the IMAGE & LIKENESS OF GOD! Therefore, you are more than equipped to overcome and grow through whatever struggle you are facing.

1. The rate of your transformation is directly tied to how soon you reach out and receive help.

You were not meant to do life alone! Typically we, as high-achieving men, look at reaching out for help as a sign of weakness. This is not true! Reaching out for help is a sign of WISDOM! And the sooner you do, the sooner you will be on the road to more success and fulfillment in life.

So, here's what I want you to do. I want you to make a decision. Decide to embrace and establish the greatest relationship that will be directly related to you being your VERY BEST SELF in ALL AREAS OF WORK & LIFE! Decide to start building a relationship with God, And decide NOW!

If I can help you form that relationship…don't hesitate to reach out!

Book a 1:1 discovery call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad

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Have you ever felt like your goals are so far away?

Or

Does it seem like the vision of who you want to be is far away?

Believe it or not…this way of thinking will ultimately hurt you…and today we will talk about THE RIGHT MINDSET to have to win in ANY area of life!

Let's define what I mean by this 'flawed mindset'. I'm talking about the mindset that you are striving to achieve something that you currently don't have or be someone that you are currently not.

I used to think this way. I thought I was so far removed from who I was and what I wanted to achieve.

Therefore it was a struggle to…

• Be a better father
• Be a better husband
• Be in great shape
• Be closer to God
• Be successful in my career as a doctor
• Be a great speaker
• Be fulfilled

I saw myself as a failure or underachiever in those areas because the way I had currently viewed myself was so different than how I wanted to be. Therefore, everyday was a consistent reminder of WHO I WASN'T.

The reality is this…

How you see yourself, is how you'll be yourself!!

Basically, this means that in order for you to become the person you want to be…you MUST FIRST IDENTIFY YOURSELF AS THAT PERSON! You have to BE IT, before you BECOME IT!

Here is the difference between (1)'striving to be something you currently are not' versus (2)'being the person you want to become':

1. In (1) you are trying to be something I'm currently not
2. In (2) it's understanding that you currently ARE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME, but just not expressing it yet.

Here are a couple of analogies to help you understand the concept:

• ART:
  • Within a slab of stone is a future sculptured masterpiece. It lives beneath and within the stone, but eventually gets expressed with time and work.
• BUTTERFLY:
  • Just because a caterpillar doesn't have wings, doesn't mean it's not a future beautiful butterfly that flies. It's simply a matter of time and transformation.
• FROG:
  • A tadpole has no legs and looks like a fish but is undoubtedly a future frog that can leap ridiculous lengths relative to its size. It's just a matter of time and transformation
• DOCTOR:
  • I had to believe I was a doctor before I was a doctor. Therefore, it was simply a matter of time, work, faith, and transformation to eventually express what I believed I was.

You must first understand this sequence:

• BELIEFS (aka. How you identify yourself) lead to -> THOUGHTS that lead to -> FEELINGS that lead to -> ACTIONS that lead to -> OUTCOMES/RESULTS

Therefore…

Belief comes before Results!!!

Here's what is awesome…

YOU WERE DESIGNED, BY GOD, TO BE EXTRAORDINARY!!

YOU WERE DESIGNED, BY GOD, TO BE A BEAST!!

YOU WERE DESIGNED, BY GOD, TO BE MORE THAN A CONQUEROR!!

YOU WERE DESIGNED, BY GOD, TO BE A WINNER!!

Here's the problem:

1. We've forgotten our identity!
   1. We were…YOU WERE created in God's image and are fearfully and wonderfully made!
2. We've forgotten that Christ is in us…is IN YOU!
   1. We can…YOU CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens you! (Phil 4:13)
3. We have conformed to the way the world sees us instead of the way God sees us
   1. We are like Eagles amongst chickens. We were meant to fly and sour but have been convinced that we can't fly and are restricted to the ground. Once you realize and accept who you REALLY are and what you are capable of, your potential will be realized!

Here is the goal we should all seek…

Attempt to see yourself as God sees you!!

Once you build this habit…you express the ELITE MAN that you have been made to be! However, this requires relationship with God. Prioritize relationship with God above all else…and experience life like NO ONE ELSE!!

Book a 1:1 discovery call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad

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Have you ever had an internal struggle (or maybe even have one now)…that NO ONE knows about…and it's preventing you from reaching your full potential?? But you tell everyone that everything is ok…yet you continue to silently struggle?

This is what I refer to as…THE MASK!

Definition of 'The Mask': a well-decorated display of a hidden internal struggle

The Masks we wear are SILENT KILLERS!!

As a physician I'm familiar with certain diagnosis that are silent killers. For example, Hypertension (aka High Blood Pressure) is silent killer. You can't see it, feel it, hear it or witness it. But it effects every organ and system in the body…and can ultimately result in death if left untreated. The masks we wear work the same way. They are silent…no one knows about the struggles we hide…but ultimately it's killing our faith, relationships, and destroying our ability to live out or greatest potential.

Here are some examples of the masks we wear:

• Faith: Attend church with a smile…yet distant in your relationship with God
• Marriage: Happy couple pictures on Facebook…yet living a lustful lifestyle
• Fatherhood: Attend kids sports events…yet an angry or otherwise absent father
• Health: Saying you gonna get in shape…but struggling to maintain healthy diet and exercise habits
• Wealth: Nice house, car, and vacations…yet struggling to make ends meet monthly
• Career: Great job or business…but unfulfilled & failing to grow and advance

Listen!! I get it!! This was my story! I wore the mask of a successful doctor and business owner…happily married man with awesome children! But behind that mask was a man that was barely holding it together. I was winning in ONE area…my career. Beyond that, I was struggling in my faith, as a husband, as a father, and living far under my potential in my health. Add on top of that…I lacked clarity on what my purpose was in life.

The problem with the mask is that it causes…PROLONGED PAIN!!

It prolongs pain in 2 ways:

• Pride: A false sense that you can 'fix you' all on your own, with no help
• Persuasion: A false sense that "I'm not that bad off"

The mask does not protect you! The mask prevents you from growing and developing…by keeping you quiet and silent!

The mask is made to keep you quiet for several reasons:

1. Influences you to feel like you are the only one to go through your type of struggle, and that nobody else is dealing with what you are dealing with
   • False! Plenty of men have a very similar struggle!
2. Pressure to keep up with the Joneses and live the model life…The 'Everything is Great and ain't nothing wrong' Life
   • The truth is…everyone is going through something!
3. Worried about what other people think. Fueled by #2 above

THE SOLUTION: CONFIDENTIAL COMMUNICATION

Confidential communication is being able to discuss your issues with someone you can trust and without judgement and condemnation.

This allows you to take off the mask and stop being suffocated by it!! This is THE BEST step to take to safely remove the mask, overcome your struggle, and ultimately fulfilling your greatest potential!

Here are the steps to Confidential Communication:

1. Surrender to the idea that you can 'Fix You' all on your own. Reach out for help.
   1. This is NOT WEAKNESS…IT'S WISDOM!!
2. Share:
   1. Share with God your struggles and ask him for clarity and guidance
   2. Share with someone you trust to be vulnerable with and will not judge you!! Preferable someone who can provide some guidance as well.
3. Do #1 and #2 regularly!!
   1. This is not a one-time process…this is part of a healthy high-performing lifestyle.

If you follow these steps, here is what you can expect: FREEDOM! And the path to fulfillment & growth to the person you were designed to be

Surrender and Share today!!! If I can help…hit me up. But regardless, share with someone!!

Book a 1:1 discovery call with me at https://drbradmd.com

Talk to you soon,

Dr. Brad

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Have you ever felt like something was missing…despite the fact that you've experienced success in your career or business?

Or..

Ever feel like there is more to life that what your success has to offer?

I get it…

As a successful sports medicine physician and home-based business owner…I thought that would be enough to have me fulfilled. I thought, once succeed in my career and make a certain amount of money that I would have 'made it' and that it would bring with it a certain sustaining joy and satisfaction. But…I was wrong. As a result, I basically resorted to other things to try and be fulfilled (i.e. working harder, earned more money, went on vacations, spent more money…and more) and it never brought lasting fulfillment. As a matter of fact, it only drew me further from the things that mattered. I was further from God as I'd ever been, and was failing as a husband, father, and was not living up to my best potential.

However, things eventually changed. And as a result of doing this ONE THING…everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING in my life changed. My confidence, marriage, fatherhood, health, career, and clarity on my purpose…ALL drastically improved as a result of this ONE THING!

The ONE THING I'd missed and overlooked was…

A personal relationship with God.

And here's the crazy thing…I didn't know what that really meant despite going to church my whole life!

I was spiritually underdeveloped…I was like a baby that grew physically, but was developmentally delayed. Except in this instance I was spiritually developmentally delayed and had NO IDEA how much it was affecting my life.

There are 3 things I had to do and that I believe you can do as well, to build a relationship with God and begin to spiritually develop and experience lasting fulfillment:

1. Come to the understanding that this relationship is what's been the missing piece to getting unstuck

He's been calling you the whole time, but we tend to resist…and focus on the shame of our poor decisions. You've felt it…and you know you've been away too long. It's time to come back. He's calling for you…and patiently waiting for you.

1. Understand there's a difference between religion and relationship.

Religion is the systematic routine and tradition of church. This IS NOT relationship and will never and should never take the place of a personal relationship with God.

Relationship on the other hand requires mind and heart. It requires more than just showing up once per week. It requires more than just presence, it requires attention! And just like any good relationship, it requires consistent intentional time invested toward it.

Your life is designed to be at its best when you are in close relationship with God. It's like a relationship between an illness and its cure. An illness ceases to be an issue once it's linked to its cure. The further from the cure, the more illness takes over.

1. This often times requires the help of someone whose been down this path

Being able to reach to someone who knows what it's like to have a great personal relationship with God will help you develop this relationship faster. They can give you insight…i.e. relationship advice with God…on how to build this healthy relationship you need.

So I invite you to have every aspect of your life improve by having a relationship that has possibly been resisted up to this point.

Make the decision…It's time to develop the most important relationship you will EVER HAVE, so you can have a strong faith that will spawn future success and sustaining fulfillment in your life.

If I can help foster that relationship…let me know.