Elsplend Realities

Healing is rarely loud or dramatic.

More often, it happens quietly — through small choices, honest reflection, and the courage to reconnect with ourselves.

In this episode of Elsplend Realities, we sit down with author and advocate Tara Mae Temple, whose work explores the deeply personal journey toward emotional healing and inner harmony.

Drawing from her own experiences, as well as a background in sociology, communications, and healthcare fundraising, Tara shares the ideas behind her book Life Hacks for Healing & Harmony. Together, we explore the realities many women carry privately — the pressure to appear fine, the slow process of rebuilding inner balance, and the quiet strength required to live more authentically.

This conversation is not about quick fixes or perfect answers.

It’s about understanding healing as a process of learning how to live in harmony with who we truly are.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted from holding everything together, this episode offers a moment of reflection, reassurance, and perspective.

Because sometimes, the most meaningful change begins with listening to yourself.

In this powerful episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore the deeper layers of trauma, healing, and self-reclamation with integrative trauma therapist Christina Simmons, founder of Revitalizing Inner Self Essence®️. With over a decade of experience supporting survivors of trauma, domestic violence, and systemic stress, Christina shares how true healing goes far beyond simply coping—it’s about reconnecting with the mind, body, spirit, and ancestral wisdom.

Together, we unpack how trauma lives in the body, why many people carry silent emotional wounds, and how approaches like EMDR, somatic therapy, clinical hypnosis, and ancestral healing can help people reclaim their inner strength. Christina also sheds light on the unique healing needs of Black women and women of color, and offers practical ways to regulate the nervous system, process trauma safely, and begin a holistic journey toward restoration.

If you’ve ever wondered how trauma shapes human behavior—or how deep, layered healing can transform your life—this conversation offers insight, compassion, and practical guidance.

This is Elsplend Realities—where awareness, healing, and transformation meet.

In this thought-provoking episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore the emotional landscape many men quietly navigate but rarely talk about. Our guest, Jason Lange, is a men’s embodiment coach, group facilitator, and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach who has spent nearly two decades helping men reconnect with their emotions, their purpose, and their authentic sense of self.

Jason shares deep insights into why many men grow up feeling disconnected from their emotions and how societal expectations often push them toward silence rather than self-awareness. Through his work in men’s circles and coaching spaces, he helps men move beyond the “lone wolf” mindset and rediscover the strength that comes from honesty, presence, and emotional responsibility.

In this conversation, we discuss the power of embodiment, the importance of community among men, and what healthy masculine presence truly looks like in modern relationships. Jason also reflects on the subtle emotional blocks many men carry, how they can begin reconnecting with their inner world, and why emotional intelligence is one of the most important skills a man can develop today.

This episode offers practical wisdom for men seeking deeper connection with themselves and their partners, as well as anyone who wants to better understand the inner struggles men often face in silence.

Because on Elsplend Realities, real growth begins when we move beyond the roles we were given and step into the truth of who we are.

In this open and deeply human episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore one of the most misunderstood areas of emotional life—intimacy. Our guest, Mandy Hart, is a Certified Sexologist, Intimacy Coach, and founder of Hart’s Desire, where she helps individuals and couples untangle shame, reconnect with their bodies, and build healthier relationships with desire, pleasure, and emotional expression.

Mandy brings a refreshing blend of behavioral science, trauma-empowered coaching, and somatic practices to conversations that many people have been conditioned to avoid. Through her work with diverse communities—from teaching sexual health to immigrant and refugee groups to guiding clients through deeply personal intimacy challenges—she has seen how shame, silence, and cultural expectations shape the way people relate to their own bodies and relationships.

In this conversation, we unpack the emotional layers behind topics like sexual shame, fantasies, consent, gender roles, and digital intimacy. Mandy explains how unspoken expectations and cultural narratives can quietly influence relationships, and how emotional awareness can transform the way people communicate about boundaries, pleasure, and connection.

We also explore how humor, curiosity, and self-compassion can help people reclaim a sense of freedom around intimacy. Rather than seeing desires as something to hide or judge, Mandy invites listeners to see them as signals that can deepen self-understanding and strengthen authentic relationships.

This episode is a reminder that intimacy isn’t just physical—it’s emotional, psychological, and deeply tied to our sense of self-worth. And when we approach it with honesty and compassion, it becomes a powerful path toward healing and connection.

Because on Elsplend Realities, the conversations we’re often taught to avoid are sometimes the ones that help us understand ourselves the most.

In this insightful episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore the invisible systems that shape the way we communicate, lead, and navigate high-pressure moments in life and work. Leadership is often described as a personality trait or a natural talent, but today’s conversation challenges that idea by revealing the deeper patterns underneath how humans respond, grow, and connect.

Our guest, Sandy Queenan, is the founder of Simple Velocity™ and the creator of the Leadership Velocity Model™. With more than two decades of experience working with professionals and emerging leaders, Sandy has helped thousands of people turn communication from a vague “soft skill” into a practical, usable system for real-world situations.

Throughout the conversation, Sandy explains how leadership pressure often shows up internally as three common states: the Wanna Be, the Imposter, and the Burn-Out. Rather than seeing these as personal weaknesses, she reframes them as predictable patterns within a larger human system. Understanding those patterns, she explains, can help people move from confusion to clarity and from reaction to intentional action.

We also explore why communication struggles are rarely just about what we say. They are often rooted in how our minds process pressure, uncertainty, and responsibility. Sandy shares practical ways to build mental agility, strengthen human connection in fast-moving environments, and recognize the internal signals that influence confidence and decision-making.

For anyone stepping into leadership, feeling stretched by new responsibilities, or simply wanting to communicate with more clarity and presence, this episode offers a refreshing perspective. Instead of pushing harder or pretending to have it all figured out, Sandy encourages listeners to step back, understand the system, and respond with greater awareness.

Because on Elsplend Realities, the goal isn’t just to improve how we perform in the world. It’s to understand the inner patterns that shape who we become within it.

Some experiences in life challenge the way we understand reality itself. In this thought-provoking episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore the powerful intersection of emotional intelligence, spirituality, and intuition with D. Paul Fleming — a Disabled U.S. Navy Veteran, Native American Holy Man, healer, Heyoka, and seer.

D. Paul’s life journey is one that moves between worlds. From serving in the Navy to confronting spiritual disturbances and helping people release fear, trauma, and dark attachments, his path has been guided by a deep sense of service and spiritual calling. Drawing from Native American ancestral wisdom, Christian faith, and prophetic insight, he describes himself as a “hollow bone” through which the Great Spirit speaks.

In this episode, we go beyond the surface of the supernatural and dive into the emotional intelligence behind discernment, courage, and healing. D. Paul shares how he remains grounded while confronting dark energies, how intuition can guide us without being confused with fear, and how emotional wounds can sometimes manifest as spiritual distress.

This conversation also explores the delicate balance between spiritual strength and human empathy, revealing how compassion, self-awareness, and inner clarity play essential roles in helping others heal.

Whether you are curious about the unseen world or simply seeking deeper emotional understanding, this episode invites you to reflect on the connection between intuition, emotional resilience, and the energies we allow into our lives.

Join us as we step into a conversation about courage, spiritual insight, and the emotional wisdom needed to navigate both the visible and invisible dimensions of human experience.

Listen now and discover how awareness, empathy, and intuition can help us better understand ourselves and the world around us.

If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who may need a deeper perspective on intuition, healing, and emotional awareness.

What does it really mean to come home to yourself after life has pulled you apart?

In this deeply heartfelt episode of Elsplend Realities, we sit down with Ashana Kaiulani, trauma support specialist, reclamation coach, and founder of Way Home Wellness. Ashana has devoted her life to helping women rediscover their voice, rebuild self-trust, and reconnect with the parts of themselves that trauma, betrayal, and hardship may have silenced.

Ashana’s own journey is one of remarkable resilience. Having survived foster care, abuse, and an abusive marriage, while also raising eight children and serving as a surrogate, she transformed years of emotional pain into a powerful mission: guiding women back to themselves. Through her Peaceful Accountability Method, she teaches that healing doesn’t require perfection, performance, or pressure. Instead, it begins with compassion, awareness, and learning how to create emotional safety within.

In this conversation, we explore the subtle yet powerful process of emotional reclamation. Ashana shares how survivors can rebuild trust in themselves, how vulnerability can become a pathway to strength, and why many people unknowingly “perform” healing rather than truly experiencing it. We also discuss the importance of self-compassion, intuition, and setting healthy emotional boundaries while navigating relationships and personal growth.

This episode is a gentle yet powerful reminder that healing is not about becoming someone new, but about remembering who you were before the world told you to shrink.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from yourself, questioned your worth, or wondered how to rebuild your inner peace, this conversation offers insight, reassurance, and hope.

Join us as we explore what it means to reclaim your story, trust your emotions, and take the courageous journey back home to yourself.

If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who may need encouragement on their healing journey.

In this episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore the hidden exhaustion many high-performing women carry behind competence, responsibility, and outward success. Our guest, Valerie Pedigo, founder of Renewed Spirit Adventures, shares how burnout is often more than fatigue—it’s a signal calling us back to alignment, authenticity, and self-trust.

Through a blend of nervous system work, embodiment practices, and community-centered healing, Valerie helps women reconnect with their inner voice and rediscover the parts of themselves that stress and responsibility have pushed aside. In this conversation, we talk about the early signs of burnout, why so many people ignore their body’s signals, and how small, grounded steps can begin the journey back to clarity and ease.

If you’ve ever felt stretched thin while still trying to hold everything together, this episode offers a compassionate reminder: burnout doesn’t have to be the end of your energy—it can be the beginning of your awakening.

In this episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore the emotional intelligence behind awareness, intuition, and personal safety. Our guest, Dione Chan—a former close-protection officer and Director at ICP Group Australia—shares insights from years spent in high-stakes environments where presence, perception, and emotional control can make the difference in critical moments.

Dione’s work goes beyond physical protection. She helps everyday people—especially women and young people—develop the inner awareness needed to trust their instincts, read environments, and respond to uncertainty with clarity rather than fear. Through her S.A.F.E framework and real-world experience, she breaks down how emotional intelligence shapes the way we handle pressure, rebuild confidence after difficult experiences, and become our own first responder.

This conversation dives into the psychology of intuition, the balance between awareness and fear, and the quiet confidence that comes from trusting yourself. Because true safety often begins long before a crisis—it begins with presence, self-trust, and the courage to listen to the signals within.

In this episode of Elsplend Realities, we explore the inner emotional patterns that quietly shape how we think, relate, and move through life. Our guest, Phillip Quinones, a mental health professional with academic training from Georgia State University and Brenau University, joins us to unpack the deeper layers of emotional awareness, relationships, and personal growth.

Phillip shares insights from his work supporting individuals and couples navigating emotional challenges, communication struggles, and the journey toward healthier relationships. Together, we discuss the hidden patterns that often run people’s lives without them realizing it, the role of shame in preventing people from seeking help, and why learning the language of our emotions can transform how we connect with ourselves and others.

This conversation also explores what real self-care looks like beyond trends, how people can rebuild trust with themselves after difficult seasons, and the mindset shifts that create lasting emotional resilience.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in repeating emotional cycles or wondered how to better understand your inner world, this episode offers thoughtful insight and practical perspective. Because on Elsplend Realities, growth begins with awareness—and the courage to look inward.