Emancipate Your Mind

Today we're talking about something different and a little woo-woo but that has also been so effective in helping many of my clients and me heal from wounds created in our childhood.

All of us have some trauma in our past. Sometimes we experience big T trauma: things we usually think of as traumatic, neglect or abuse on a grand scale, PTSD, or other such recognized events. But all of us experience small t trauma in our childhoods and throughout our lives. These are events that were deeply upsetting or terrifying that shaped the way we viewed the world, our relationships, and ourselves.

Many of us ruminate on these events and often wish we could go back in time and change them. We may hold resentments that the adults in our lives didn't respond in ways that would help us move through the trauma and feel safe again.

And while it is impossible to go back and change events in the past, it is absolutely possible to go back and heal the emotional wounds our inner child may still be carrying.

In this episode, I describe one of the methods I use for reclaiming and healing those stories from our childhood. I take you through the process of adopting and reparenting your inner child and giving that child the love, attention, compassion, and protection that they needed in the past to heal the patterns we created to protect ourselves in the present.

UPCOMING EVENTS:

If you loved this episode, you'll be happy to hear I'm teaming up with acclaimed Washington D.C. artist, Heidi Nielson, to bring you a Self-Love Art Exploration Workshop. Join us either the evening of Thursday, April 22nd or in the afternoon on Sunday, April 25th for an online experience to deepen the relationship with your inner self through guided meditation, writing, music, and art therapy.

Tickets are $75 and include a hand-selected box of art supplies shipped directly to your door to help you create your own healing self-love collage featuring your photo. Click the link below for more information and to register. Space is limited.

https://effervescent-coaching.mykajabi.com/self-love-art-exploration

WANT MORE SUPPORT?

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

If you struggle with people pleasing and/or codependent patterns with people you care about, it's at least in part because you struggle with setting healthy boundaries.

So many of us were taught that not having clear boundaries was a sign of love and trust.

But actually, it's the exact opposite.

Trusting relationships all include healthy boundaries. You cannot have a relationship where both parties feel safe without also having clear, defined boundaries and the ability to discuss what is ok and not ok with all parties involved.

If you've tried to set boundaries before but have been unsuccessful, this episode will walk you through the common mistakes we've all made and the steps to take instead to create boundaries that are clear, kind, and well communicated.

After all, boundaries are all about giving the people we care about the best chance to have healthy, trusting, and deeply connected relationships with us.

And ultimately, they are also about keeping us and those we care about safe.

UPCOMING EVENTS:

I'm so excited to announce that I'm teaming up with acclaimed Washington D.C. artist, Heidi Nielson, to bring you a Self-Love Art Exploration Workshop. Join us either the evening of Thursday, April 22nd or in the afternoon on Sunday, April 25th for an online experience to deepen the relationship with your inner self through guided meditation, writing, music, and art therapy.

Tickets are $75 and include a hand-selected box of art supplies shipped directly to your door to help you create your own healing self-love collage featuring your photo. Click the link below for more information and to register. Space is limited.

https://effervescent-coaching.mykajabi.com/self-love-art-exploration

WANT MORE SUPPORT?

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

One of the most difficult parts of leaving religion is often telling our loved ones.

We want to be honest and transparent about our decisions, but we also want our families to still accept and love us.

We often try to accomplish both by doing hundreds of hours of research and soul searching to find factual evidence to support our decision, looking for irrefutable evidence that our choice was the "right" one.

However, these ways of approaching this conversation often don't guarantee that our loved ones will understand or agree with our decision.

Kara Sakievich, believes that it's not finding the "right" reason for leaving that will help you navigate this transition with more ease, but rather, loving YOUR reason for leaving and feeling confident in your decision to do what is best for you.

When our decisions aren't about who's right and who's wrong, it becomes about respecting our own decision and better helps us respect others' decisions as well.

** TRIGGER WARNING FOR THOSE WORKING ON BODY POSITIVITY OR BODY SHAME**

There is talk in this episode about weight coaching that may be triggering for those working on body positivity, body shame resilience, or who are overcoming eating disorders.


DID YOU LOVE KARA?

If you really resonated with Kara Sakievich and want more of her energy, head over to her FREE Mini Master Course on leaving the LDS Faith.

https://www.lifecoachkara.com/mini-master-course

Or catch her on Instagram @postmormonpurpose
TikTok @postmormonpurpose
Facebook at Kara Sakievich Coaching
Or on her website www.lifecoachkara.com
Feel free to email her questions at [email protected]


LOOKING FOR MORE IN-DEPTH HELP WITH THESE TOPICS?

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

If you find that you have an impossible time saying no, apologize for everything even when something is not your fault, are exhausted trying to meet the needs of others, and can't remember the last time you had guilt-free free time....you may be a people pleaser.

People pleasing is simply another coping mechanism we developed to keep ourselves safe from rejection or abandonment and help us reach adulthood. And when we were children, it worked.

We may have learned to care take or appease the adults in our lives in order to get our emotional and physical needs met.

But now that we're adults, it may feel like we're being smothered by a coping mechanism that once made us feel secure.

People pleasing can keep us from really knowing who we are, feeling confident in our own skin, being able to show up authentically in the world, and set boundaries.

Often, we take on more than we can handle, hoping to keep people in our lives happy so that they will never have an excuse to discard us.

But mostly, we just feel run down, exhausted, and often really resentful of those we serve. It feels like we give all of the time, and our needs go unobserved and unmet.

If this sounds like you, this entire episode will help you understand why you people please and how to start creating new patterns that will leave you feeling more connected to humans you care about while also feeling more rested and confident in your body.

WANT MORE?

I'll be support coaching with Stephanie Jaie, one of the world's leading sex coaches, in her upcoming group program "Sexual Empowerment Academy" that starts later this month. This is the perfect time to shed the old indoctrination that has led us all to shame and frustration about our sexuality and has kept us from getting the pleasure we crave and deserve!

Go to this link to check out the program and sign up...

https://members.stephaniejaie.com/courses/sexual-empowerment-academy?affcode=855574_pdqxu-fe

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. 

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected] 

Perfectionism is a coping mechanism we develop in order to keep ourselves safe from emotional discomfort. Listen to this episode for more information about how perfectionism develops and what it feels like for those who experience it.

Learn the differences between high achievers and perfectionists and the difficulties perfectionists often experience on their path to high achievement.

And learn how to use your perfectionism as a cue to engage in the healing process. 

WANT MORE?

I'll be support coaching with Stephanie Jaie, one of the world's leading sex coaches, in her upcoming group program "Sexual Empowerment Academy" that starts later this month. This is the perfect time to shed the old indoctrination that has led us all to shame and frustration about our sexuality and has kept us from getting the pleasure we crave and deserve!

Go to this link to check out the program and sign up...

https://members.stephaniejaie.com/courses/sexual-empowerment-academy?affcode=855574_pdqxu-fe

OR if you'd like to check out her services for free, check out her 5 Day Pleasure Mastery Challenge going from March 17-21.

If you'd like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other's company, join my free "Emancipate Yourself" Facebook group at this link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.

If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at [email protected]

NOTE: Thank you for your patience. We had a small auto-scheduling glitch this weekend and the podcast didn't go live on the 14th the way it should have. We've double-checked future episodes and they should all go live at their appropriate times from here on out.