Emancipate Your Mind

When was the last time you had someone really tune into what you were saying?

Give your their undivided attention?

Take in your words, really think them over, and then check back in with you to make sure they understand what you are trying to convey?

When was the last time you were asked curiosity questions without preconceived judgment to clarify your message so the other person can really be on the same page with you and understand your experience?

If you are like most of us in this busy and distracted world, this is a rare occurrence.

People may hear us, but often we don't feel like they're really understanding us.

When someone really takes the time to give us their undivided attention and they listen with the intent to understand our perspective, it can feel like an incredible gift.

Bringing this skill to our relationships can quickly improve the quality of communication and trust between us and the ones we love the most.

Join Licensed Professional Therapist, Kevin Hales, and me for our last episode together on improving communication in our relationships and how you can begin active listening for better connection today.

CONNECT WITH US:

If you'd like to connect with Kevin and read more about his background and expertise, or to schedule a therapy session with him, go to his website at the link below.

https://www.coloradocounselingcenter.com/kevin-hales/

If you're looking for more support and discussion on the topics you hear in this episode, come join us in the Facebook group.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or follow Teri on Instagram @emancipatedmolly ,
Twitter @emancipatedteri ,
or TikTok @emancipatedteri 

This might be one of the questions I hear the most from those questioning their faith or deciding to leave.

None of us want to disappoint, hurt, embarrass, or drive a wedge between ourselves and our parents.

We want our parents to be proud of us.

And yet, part of growing up to be an autonomous, authentic, adult human being means that we'll occasionally spark disappointment in others and sometimes those people will be our parents.

Because you are a separate and distinct individual from other humans, you will sometimes make decisions they would not have made. This will create disappointment.

And that's ok.

We can learn to allow our parents their disappointed feelings without feeling responsible for them as we move to be loyal to ourselves, our values, our beliefs, and our separate callings in life.

In this Q&A, we talk about healthy autonomy, how to be accountable for your actions and words without taking on responsibility for someone else's emotions, and the difference between disappointment and disrespect.

Wishing you all of the best as you deconstruct.

:) Teri

Psssst: If you have some burning questions you'd like answered, email me at [email protected] or send me a message on Instagram @emancipatedmolly

To join the Facebook group for more discussion about these topics, supportive community, free tools for healing and growth, and other really useful stuff during faith transition, join us at Emancipate Yourself. 

Empathy is a key ingredient to building trust between ourselves and our loved ones.

But many of us weren't taught what empathy is or how to use it.

Luckily, empathy is a skill set that can be learned and practiced to create safe spaces for us to discuss vulnerable topics and ultimately feel more understood and accepted.

Licensed Professional Counselor, Kevin Hales, joins me for a third episode to talk about how increasing our practice of empathy can bring us closer together with the ones we love the most.

Here's the link for the video Kevin references during the episode:

Empathy vs. Sympathy

And here is the link to the Sara Bareilles song, "You Matter To Me", we reference from the Waitress. This whole soundtrack was part of the theme music of our family's deconstruction. She says, "It's addictive the minute you let yourself think, 'the things that I say just might matter to someone'.

If you loved this and the past 2 episodes, consider joining us at our "Becoming Soulmates" workshop for more tools, insights, and support in getting the best romantic relationship possible.

BECOMING SOUL MATES WORKSHOP: FEBRUARY 21st

If you'd like some face-to-face support and tangible tools to help you build safer, more loving bonds in your relationships, sign up for the 2-hour "Becoming Soulmates" workshop Kevin and I are hosting on February 21st at 8pm ET/ 5pm PT on Zoom. The cost is $55 and you can sign up at the link here.

So often, we fall in love with a person and believe (or at least hope) that we are soul mates. We fall into the myth that the spark we feel at the beginning means we've found the one we'll connect with forever. We believe that chemistry and time will create that bond.

But the reality is we don't find that soul connection so much as create it through our actions. Anyone can become soul mates, but it takes some effort and often the unlearning of unhelpful habits and patterns often passed down to us through the generations.

Click the link below if you'd like to know how to build more safety and trust, communicate more clearly, and release old attachment hurts that influence our relationships in the present.

https://emancipatedcoaching.com/becoming-soulmates-workshop/

CONNECT WITH US:

If you'd like to connect with Kevin and read more about his background and expertise, or to schedule a therapy session with him, go to his website at the link below.

https://www.coloradocounselingcenter.com/kevin-hales/

If you're looking for more support and discussion on the topics you hear in this episode, come join us in the Facebook group.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or follow Teri on Instagram @emancipatedmolly ,
Twitter @emancipatedteri ,
or TikTok @emancipatedteri , 

You asked, and I answered!

My inbox has been flooded with questions...questions that are common to those of us who have gone (or are going) through religious transition.

I decided y'all deserve answers sooner than later.

And you'll get them each Thursday morning.

Introducing: The Midweek Question and Answer Mini Episode.

This week, I'm answering a question I've gotten 5 times since Kevin has joined me on the podcast in February (and I know if that many people spoke up, there are even more of you wondering in silence).

The question this week:

"How do I know if I should look for a therapist or a life coach? And what is the difference?"

I also threw in some bonus answers to related questions like, "Why did I choose to become a life coach?" and "What do I do if I don't like my therapist?"

Enjoy!

:) Teri

Psssst: If you have some burning questions you'd like answered, email me at [email protected] or send me a message on Instagram @emancipatedmolly

Resources:
I mentioned that 47% of people in the United States will undergo a faith transition at some point in their lives. This came from the Pew Research at this link. 

Change is inevitable in our relationships.

As individuals we learn new information, we expand our understanding, and we change our values, beliefs, and lifestyles based on this new understanding.

This isn't a failing, this is the natural course of maturing as a human being.

It's said that "each of us gets married 3 different times in our life, and sometimes it's to the same person."

Because we grow and change so much throughout the course of our lives, it will be almost like we're married to completely different people as we evolve over time.

Sometimes we grow together through these changes, and sometimes we grow apart.

When part of this change includes a faith transition, it can create special friction that Licensed Professional Counselor, Kevin Hales, and I address in this episode.

We discuss the often scary conversations we have in our partnerships that are part of the deconstruction process:

Do I enjoy the roles I'm currently filling in my life? Am I happy right now? Is this how I want to continue to live?

Now that the church or our faith is no longer binding us together, are we a good fit for each other?

How can we face the frightening prospect of possible divorce with honesty, shame resilience, and courage?

How do we decide our family values and beliefs?

How do we teach our children to be moral and kind people?

These questions can seem daunting, but when we learn to normalize the change process and learn to accept and appreciate each other as constantly evolving individuals, these questions can open the door to creating deepened trust in our relationships.

BECOMING SOUL MATES WORKSHOP: FEBRUARY 21st

If you'd like some face-to-face support and tangible tools to help you build safer, more loving bonds in your relationships, sign up for the 2-hour "Becoming Soulmates" workshop Kevin and I are hosting on February 21st at 8pm ET/ 5pm PT on Zoom. The cost is $55 and you can sign up at the link here.

So often, we fall in love with a person and believe (or at least hope) that we are soul mates. We fall into the myth that the spark we feel at the beginning means we've found the one we'll connect with forever. We believe that chemistry and time will create that bond.

But the reality is we don't find that soul connection so much as create it through our actions. Anyone can become soul mates, but it takes some effort and often the unlearning of unhelpful habits and patterns often passed down to us through the generations.

Click the link below if you'd like to know how to build more safety and trust, communicate more clearly, and release old attachment hurts that influence our relationships in the present.

https://emancipatedcoaching.com/becoming-soulmates-workshop/

CONNECT WITH US:

If you'd like to connect with Kevin and read more about his background and expertise, or to schedule a therapy session with him, go to his website at the link below.

https://www.coloradocounselingcenter.com/kevin-hales/

If you're looking for more support and discussion on the topics you hear in this episode, come join us in the Facebook group.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891

Or follow Teri on Instagram