Embodied with Elizabeth Patricia DiAlto Figueroa

When we let fear hold us back from setting boundaries, we miss out on healthy relationships and real love.

What keeps you from setting clear boundaries with the people in your life?Are you afraid of judgment? Being thought of as high-maintenance, mean, or controlling?

Or maybe you don't know HOW to set boundaries in a way that works?

In today's episode, we're talking with Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist and author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. In her book, Terri teaches her readers how to set boundaries in a way that will help us live healthier, happier lives.

I have to be honest (always!): I rarely finish a book. But when I received my copy of Boundary Boss, I couldn't put it down. I finished it in three days!

As I was reading, I kept thinking about you, my listeners.

If you're searching for ways to live an authentic life as both fully human and fully divine, you need to set boundaries.

Boundaries aren't about being bossy or controlling or selfish. Boundaries are about making clear your preferences, desires, limits, and deal-breakers to live a more honest, embodied life.

Among other things, clearly and consistently communicated boundaries:

• Are an act of self-love and self-respect
• Show you to be a trustworthy person
• Prevent feelings of bitterness and hurt
• Hold everyone accountable in a relationship
• Helps you attract the right people into your life

But setting boundaries when you haven't before can also be scary.

Fortunately, boundary-setting isn't all-or-nothing. It comes down to doing the next right thing, one baby step at a time. In Boundary Boss, Terri walks us through those baby steps in a way that is accessible and totally doable.

Join us in today's episode to hear more about how feeling empowered and respected really is possible.

Listen to episode 348 now!

• [9:15] How boundaries build trust and keep you from second-guessing yourself and others
• [11:33] How communicating your boundaries is a generous act and does not make you "high-maintenance"
• [19:36] How enforcing boundaries helps you attract the right people and repel the wrong ones
• [22:20] The power of direct communication to strengthen relationships
• [28:05] The different forms of communication and why we use them
• [34:07] How we can determine what our limits are to be able to start communicating them
• [39:34] What the different types of boundary pushers are and how to deal with them
• [44:44] What a "VIP Section" is and how to be discerning about who we allow in it

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/348

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

I believe anger is one of the holiest, most transformational emotions people don't want to face. It's full of useful information. It's fertilizer for healing and it can make us sick when we don't face it.

Dealing with anger in healthy ways is about using it to catalyze change, healing, and/or transformation.

In this episode, I dig into how and why anger is holy and sacred. I spend some time destigmatizing anger and looking at why we think anger is bad and how it doesn't have to be. I name some of the unhealthy ways we deal with anger for the purpose of contrast and ownership. I get into some healthy ways we can work with anger, and talk about how archetypes can help us work with anger.

I also go over the information available to us by working with our anger and how it can liberate us when we learn how to deal with anger in healthy ways.

In this episode of The EMBODIED Podcast we discuss:

[2:50] What I'll be exploring in this episode

[5:02] The beauty in allowing yourself to feel anger

[8:41] Why so many people think anger is "bad" or a negative thing

[10:38] Unhealthy ways that people deal with anger

[19:41] How you can deal with anger in healthy ways

[30:43] How to transmute your anger

[37:53] What I like to do to deal with anger

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/347

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

In this episode, I dive into what Embodied Living is and I share about the four disconnections wreaking havoc on our world right now.

Welcome back to the show!! In this episode, I dive into what Embodied Living is and I share about the four disconnections wreaking havoc on our world right now.

The soul contains gifts, talents, memories, experiences, wisdom, wounds, and scars from many lifetimes.

The invitation of Embodied Living then is about cultivating a life dedicated to integrating the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual - in other words, allowing ourselves to be fully human and fully divine.

The four disconnections wreaking havoc on our world right now are disconnection from Soul, Source, Sufficiency, and Community.

People who are plugged into Soul, Source, Sufficiency, and Community do not need to dominate or oppress people or force anyone into the margins. They don't need others to be deemed or rendered powerless in order to feel powerful.

In this episode of The EMBODIED Podcast we discuss:

[3:12] Why I am so excited to be back on the podcast

[6:34] What you need to know about embodiment work and what it means to me

[9:11] What the invitation to embodied living is

[10:28] Why I took a break from podcasting

[13:15] A few things that have happened during my break from podcasting

[17:53] The EMBODIED Living Center and other projects I've been up to

[24:05] What's important to me within embodied healing

[26:41] The 4 disconnections wreaking havoc on our world right now

[29:22] Disconnection from your soul

[31:25] Disconnection from the divine source

[35:24] Disconnection from sufficiency

[39:10] Disconnection from community

[42:55] How the work we do helps these 4 disconnections

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/346

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

This is it, ya'll! It's the wrap up episode for the EMBODIED Self Love series.

There were some listener questions about boundaries that I didn't get to last week, I'm answering those in this episode. And aside from that, I want to spend this last episode on self love anchoring in what we've discussed so far and tying it all together.

And I want to leave you with some reminders and a prayer.

There's no going back after this.

If you've listened to the whole series, you've been activated towards self love in a direction you can't slide back from.

You may have better days than others, but there is a higher understanding now, your new standards have been activated, along with your worthiness, acceptance and everything else we discussed here.

You can't forget what you heard about self respect. It's in you now.

You're aware.

You're willing.

And of course you are capable.

Here is the prayer I would like to cover you in - I pray that from this day forward self love is a new set and return point for you - a new home frequency, even if it's a little shaky right now… everything that stands tall and strong requires its foundation to be built, and that's what we've done here. You are love in a body. You are worthy of love - from yourself, from life and from others. And you are already loved more than you know. May you feel this, know this and live this… every single day for the rest of your lifetimes. Amen.

In the eighth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:

[5:42] My prayer for you for this day forward[6:44] A mantra about self love[8:55] Why you need to develop a practice around self love[12:27] How self love assists in trauma healing[17:18] Claiming your part in the revolution[18:30] How to deal with a rude family member[25:08] Why boundaries have to be flexible and agile[32:21] What the next mini series will be centered around

Resources:Embodied Self Love Mini Course

EP 338: How To Love Yourself More in 2020 Part I

EP 342: Building Self Trust – How To Trust Yourself

EP 344: Boundaries and Self Love – How They Go Hand In Hand

The EMBODIED Living Center

EP 320: The Law Of Attraction Isn't Real with Shanda Catrice

My YouTube Channel

Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!

How was this episode for you?

Was this episode helpful for you today? I'd love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

The show runs in seasons now and this season we're focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.

We'll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

This is episode 7 in an 8 episode series on Self Love.

This episode is all about boundaries and what it has to do with self love. Specifically, how boundaries are an expression of all the components of my EMBODIED Self Love Framework:

• Self Awareness
• Self Knowledge
• Self Acceptance
• Self Trust
• Self Respect

Boundaries are a responsible way of engaging with what you can control in a healthy, useful way.

Boundaries evolve over time, when you first start setting boundaries, they may be more like barries, it's ok, over time your boundaries will become both rock solid and without you having to be rigid or militant about it.

Above all else boundaries are rooted in kindness, compassion and are meant to give you permission to live a joyful, love-filled life.

Now, I can hype up boundaries all day but we all know, they're challenging. So in today's episode I offer a lot of context and perspective on boundaries.

Here's what I covered:

• The importance of having boundaries with yourself
• How boundaries are an opportunity to teach people how to treat us
• Navigating saying yes when you mean it and no when you mean it (this is especially hard for recovering codependents and people pleasers!)
• How to deal with boundary violations and enforcing your boundaries with people who don't respect them
• Energetic boundaries

...and more

In the seventh episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:

[6:14] How people are really different right now

[7:23] How setting boundaries evolves over time

[10:01] What happens to us when we don't set boundaries

[14:10] My experience of starting over from scratch on social media

[16:59] Examples of boundaries you could set up for yourself

[19:39] Having boundaries around certain types of people

[25:15] Saying "no" when you mean no and saying "yes" when you mean yes

[30:40] Why you should pay attention to the word "should"

[35:27] How boundaries isn't about being rigid or policing people all the time

[37:27] What having boundaries will do for you

[40:25] What energetic boundaries is and why they're important

Resources:Embodied Self Love Mini Course

EP 288: Advice For The Sex And Love You Crave With Eva Clay

EP 293: Deeper Dating With Ken Page

EP 147: Terri Cole On Real Love Revolution

Dance of Anger, The: A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships

Energy Hygiene

Energetic Boundaries: How to Stay Protected and Connected in Work, Love, and Life

Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!

How was this episode for you?

Was this episode helpful for you today? I'd love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

We are getting into the last part of the EMBODIED Self Love Framework in this episode - Self Respect.

Self respect is where the other four parts of the EMBODIED Self Love Framework get integrated.

When you are more self aware you discover what you need to know, when you know yourself better, you can accept yourself more, when you are coming from self awareness, knowledge and acceptance, it's easier to trust yourself and when you're doing all four, self respect just makes sense.

In this episode you'll hear me talk about:

• How you treat and speak to yourself
• How to not abandon yourself
• How to use the discernment we talked about during self trust to respect yourself through who and what you prioritize
• How self respect helps to dissolve people pleasing

...and more

In the sixth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:

[6:47] How people pleasing can be alchemized through self respect

[8:37] Why you need to honor yourself

[11:45] Why you should reserve the right to change your mind

[14:46] What compassion really is

[16:27] Anchoring into your truth and how this alignment will be meaningful to you

[17:36] Why you should steer clear of self abandonment

[21:39] Indicators of self abandonment to watch out for

[23:41] Being more intentional about who and how your loving

[24:01] Reflection questions to ask yourself around self respect

[30:20] Why it's important to acknowledge how different we all are

Resources I mentioned in the episode:

Embodied Self Love Mini Course Instagram Post

Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!

How was this episode for you?

Was this episode helpful for you today? I'd love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

The show runs in seasons now and this season we're focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.

We'll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

I have been teaching about self trust for over seven years now and for this episode, the self trust teaching wanted to come through a bit differently. No doubt, the reason is that trust is harder when tragedy and trauma are rampant because we get pulled into the WHY question? It doesn't make sense. And it's not supposed to.

And during these current times we're living through there's a lot of that.

So we question a lot of valid things but can get overly distracted by them. This is why we need to '"insource" more than we "outsource" and strengthen our direct connection to the Divine (God, Source, Universe, etc) --and that is the part of the teaching I had to integrate more deeply into today's exploration of self trust

The only intermediary we need is our soul.

In today's episode I cover:

• How we build trust within ourselves similarly to how we build trust with others.
• Why we need self trust if we hope to have self love
• The difference between judgment and discernment
• How to know which part of yourself to trust, and how to practice self trust when you feel conflicted
• Big questions people face around self trust like - how to know the difference between fear and intuition, how to know when it's our ego talking, or our trauma or wounds
• Some universal truths you can choose to place faith in if you want that will help cultivate trust more easily

...and more

I get much deeper into the nuance of these things in the EMBODIED Self Love Mini Course - so if you are working on self trust and want the extra support - check it out here.

In the fifth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:

[4:07] How trust has been an integral part of my body of work as it's evolved[5:31] How it takes time to develop self trust[7:22] Why you can't separate self trust from trust in the divine[9:56] Examining what part of yourself your trusting vs. not trusting[12:26] How fostering a broader trust in the divine will help your self trust[14:58] One of my biggest mantras during some of the hardest times of my life[17:15] How trusting yourself helps you trust other people[20:40] Minding your own business and not inserting yourself in other people's business[24:18] Cultivating more energy to be more trusting, open to things that are worthy of you [25:35] How trust requires surrender and the ability to let go[27:44] Considering how your choices might impact other people and the world around you[31:03] Why you shouldn't hold yourself to impossible standards around things you couldn't have known[31:24] Working through the fear of trusting yourself when criticism is present [33:10] How fear blocks people's ability to trust in themselves

Resources:

Rashunda Tramble's Instagram Post Energy Hygiene Resource Embodied Self Love Mini Course

Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!

How was this episode for you?

Was this episode helpful for you today? I'd love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

The show runs in seasons now and this season we're focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.

We'll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

How do you accept yourself?

Why is self acceptance important?

What does it feel like to have self acceptance?

These are some of the questions we're answering in today's EMBODIED Self Love series episode.

We've already covered the first two principles of the EMBODIED Self Love Framework - Self Awareness and Self Knowledge - and now it's time for Self Awareness.

In today's episode I cover:

• Why we need self acceptance to have self love
• The energetic difference between approaching things in your life from an accepting place vs an non accepting place
• The difference between fighting against and fighting for things
• How it's easy to accept things when they go well or feel good - but the real work is accepting things when times are taught or not going the way you want
• The role of kindness, gentleness and forgiveness in self acceptance
• How to accept things about yourself that you feel shame about
• Specifically how to accept your body, as a woman, in a culture with so much programming around "what's ideal"

...and more

In the fourth episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:[3:12] Why I rearranged the framework as I was creating it[5:47] How you can't have deep embodied love without acceptance[9:40] How 2020 has been an incredible training ground for self acceptance[12:54] Questions that are always asked during akashic record readings[15:23] Why you need to unlearn and discern to get self acceptance and fulfill your purpose[18:43] How self love allows you to respond with forgiveness and compassion[19:27] Why the topic of forgiveness can be triggering for many[22:44] How to accept things that you feel shame about[28:38] The topic of white fragility and how we feel fragile when shame is present[33:47] How I use mantras in my work and life[39:01] Breaking the harmful cycle around shame in your body[44:20] How I built practices and movement around loving, connecting and healing[46:18] Learning to appreciate your body for more than just how it looks

Resources:Embodied Self Love Mini Course Akashic Records Readings White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism The Embodied Living Center

Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!

How was this episode for you?

Was this episode helpful for you today? I'd love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

The show runs in seasons now and this season we're focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.

We'll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

How well do you really know yourself?

And why does self knowledge matter so much?

In order to do any of the work of EMBODIED self love, you really do need to know yourself.

You need to know things [for starters] like:

• What's ok with you and what's not ok with you?
• What excites you what doesn't?

Life is cyclical. There are phases and changes, which means you should feel free to be someone different than you were yesterday. I always say, "I reserve the right to change my mind." And I can tell you from living that way it won't always please others. But staying true to who you are moment to moment is a radical act of self love.

Real, deep,EMBODIED self love requires ACTIONS behaviors, habits and STANDARDS!

Self knowledge is the place where we tune into all of that.

In today's episode I cover:

• Values
• Priorities
• "The Power of the Pause" - which is a super helpful reflection technique to learn about yourself and increase your self knowledge in your day to day experiences
• Aspects of the self and multidimensionality
• Various tools and systems like Human Design, Enneagram, Astrology and more that help you discover who you really are and how you're built - and discern between what is your conditioning and what is your truth
• The four stages of learning

...and more

In the third episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:

[2:41] Why you need to give yourself room to be who you are right now and room to become someone else[4:46] Why you don't need everyone to like you[5:30] The 5 main values I use for discernment of everything in my life[7:34] Reasons why I often couple values and priorities together[10:48] Why you don't have to take on other peoples priorities[12:15] Why I don't fully subscribe to any one personality test or zodiac sign[15:07] What I realized about making impulsive and intuitive choices[18:41] Learning to cultivate internal authority [19:10] The aspects of you versus the whole you and an exercise you can do[23:38] Discovering what your actual truth is[28:03] Why I want you to know the value of self knowledge[31:15] Thoughts on why you should question everything

Resources I mentioned in the episode:Embodied Self Love Mini Course The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change Aycee Brown's Instagram Erin Claire Jones' Instagram Clare Marie Edgeman's Instagram EP251: What Is Human Design With Chetan Parkyn The Embodied Movement Center

Get your copy of the Untame Yourself book on Amazon!

How was this episode for you?

Was this episode helpful for you today? I'd love to know what quote or lesson touched your soul. Let me know in the comments below OR share the episode on Instagram, tag me your stories @elizabethdialto or send me a DM!

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

The show runs in seasons now and this season we're focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.

We'll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

What does self awareness mean?

How do you improve self awareness?

Is self awareness a skill?

Is self awareness hyphenated?

These are the types of things people search for when it comes to the meaning of self awareness (that last one was included to be funny, but it's actually the number one search result - go figure!)

This is episode 2 in the EMBODIED Self Love podcast series and today we're getting into the first step in the framework - Self Awareness.

Self awareness helps us relate to ourselves and observe how we are actually showing up in life.

It's a consistent, mindful practice of observing and being honest with ourselves. It's not just about how we think and what our intentions are, it's also about the impact we're having on others, ourselves, and how things are going through our experiences, behaviors and choices.

Self awareness means calling attention to yourself, with purpose. It's not always easy or pleasant. Sometimes you won't like what you see. But when you commit to observing yourself for the sake of knowing, trusting, accepting and respecting yourself, you can do it with more objectivity than scrutiny. Something I've been teaching my clients and students for years is that awareness comes before acceptance and acceptance precedes improvement.

In today's episode I cover:

• What self awareness has to do with self love
• The gentleness and curiosity self awareness requires
• Some questions self awareness helps you answer like: Who am I being? and How am I showing up?
• How to be honest with yourself
• How self awareness helps you to navigate when you're "feeling all the feels"
• The difference between responses and reactions and how self awareness helps you get better at both

In the second episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:

[2:55] Why you can't improve a thing before first accepting it[4:24] How a baseline level of self love will make the hard things easier[4:48] What self awareness truly is and what it helps you to recognize[7:08] The three things you want to start observing for self awareness[10:38] Engaging with "feeling all of the feels" to connect and speak with your embodied language[13:11] The differences between a response and a reaction[14:58] What it means to be flooded and my experience with this trauma response[16:53] Why you should avoid self deception[20:22] How self awareness is an ongoing, lifelong practice

Resources:Elizabeth Gilbert Instagram Post Embodiment Bible Feelings Wheel Embodied Self Love Mini Course

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About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

The show runs in seasons now and this season we're focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.

We'll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.