Embodied with Elizabeth Patricia DiAlto Figueroa

Do you see people talking about self love all the time and wonder, "But how?"

Or get caught up in memes that sound smart or profound but don't get how to actually apply them?

That's how a lot of people approach self love - like it's a thing you will eventually attain if you just focus on it - but here in the EMBODIED Living world, we know it takes more than that. This is why people call me a practical mystic. I'm into all kinds of energy work, psychological study, archetypes, mythology and esoteric shit - AND!! We're still people. We need to be able to apply what we're learning, integrate it into our lives and actually use it to shift, change, grow, heal and evolve.

This is the first episode in an 8-episode series where I'll be guiding you through my EMBODIED Self Love Framework. The framework will help you with self-confidence, embodiment, real love, loving yourself, trusting yourself, accepting yourself, cultivating healthy love in relationships and so much more.

We'll take a really thorough look at what it means to have self love, how to develop self love, examples of self love, and why self love is so important.

Self love touches so many areas of our lives when we actively engage in it. Like bell hooks teaches, love is something you do, it's a verb.

This first episode in the EMBODIED Self Love series covers:

• Common self-love teachings and misconceptions that I don't agree with like: "You can't love others until you love yourself." Or the flip side of that, "You won't get the love you want until you love yourself."
• How we learn to love by being in relationship and self love is about developing a relationship with ourselves.
• The mass confusion of what love is and what it is not; this includes how a lot of our messaging and examples are rooted in codependency, not love.
• An overview of what the rest of the series will cover: Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust, Self Respect...and then something I know this audience loves - a whole entire episode on boundaries. And not just healthy boundaries with others, but also how to have healthy boundaries with yourself.
• Wrap up - where I'm at on my own self love journey right now.

In the first episode of the EMBODIED Self Love series we discuss:

[2:52] The focus of this season around the EMBODIED self love framework that I developed[3:12] The 5 principles of my framework[7:11] Common self love teachings that I don't agree with and misconceptions about them[10:13] How developing self love isn't just a state [11:15] Why you should be curious when you have resistance to something[14:04] The importance of self awareness and being mindful of how you're showing up[15:19] How self knowledge answers the question: Who am I and how am I built?[17:27] Why you need gentleness for yourself and others[19:13] The reasons that self trust is critical for following your inner truth [20:15] How you can't have love without self respect[21:05] Where I am at on my own self love journey[24:25] A talk I participated in that inspired the Embodied Self Love Mini Course

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About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I've been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

The show runs in seasons now and this season we're focusing on my EMBODIED Self Love Framework.

We'll be looking at Self Awareness, Self Knowledge, Self Acceptance, Self Trust and Self Respect - with a bonus episode on Boundaries as well.

If you've been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren't practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you're feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

Last week, an acquaintance of mine, Kelly Watkins reached out on Instagram to share a post with me about how she'd be diagnosed with incurable blood cancer and asked if I'd be willing to have a conversation about death and dying on the podcast.

She herself has worked on both sides of life as a nurse in labor and delivery, a hospice nurse, and then outside of western medicine as a death doula, so she has a lot of perspectives to share.

Of course, I said yes and this episode is that conversation.

One of the things we both noticed about midway through the conversation was that we could have gone deeper and tapped into more of the things that people prefer not to talk about AND we felt a sensitivity around the current climate around COVID-19 and the Coronavirus and the mortality and death we're about to be confronted with across the globe - so we trusted that where we did go was perfect.

A few of the threads we pulled in our chat were: being a mother of five under quarantine right now with just one of her babies, what matters most to her right now and why, definitions of grace and the presence of grace in her current experience and experiences she's had with clients and patients over the years, death as a calling, how life and death are connected, how important it is to talk about death, how we need to find ways to be more comfortable with this and more.

As I'm feeling more compelled to approach interviews this year - we just hit record and went until we felt complete, which was about 90 minutes.

I hope you'll be transformed and moved by this tender conversation, share it with loved ones and use it to spark your own inquiries and explorations of your relationship to death and dying and any shifts you may want to make around that.

Big love,

E

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/337

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

This is not the typical conversation about perfectionism, y'all, and I am warning you upfront, that you'll probably want to listen to it at least three or four times.

Today my guest is my dear friend Jessica Fish, who is also (and she would likely not own up to this...) a genius.

Her big truth was around the importance of community and external affirmation.

From there we talked about practicing radical encouragement in your relationships and how we cannot rely on self-regulation alone. We talked about the myth of "inconveniencing people," how we need to be honest about our bandwidth and over-giving tendencies, and all the offshoots of perfectionism like overachieving, having unreasonably high standards for ourselves, and the trap of "high performance."

She also explained how all of this keeps us in individual mindsets which keep us upholding dominant cultural narratives and norms.

She shared an exercise with us that she uses in her Divesting from Perfectionism workshops that literally changes people's lives on the spot, and she walked me through the fantasy of the "Ideal Self" that many of us have, and how it harms us.

We also explored what being in community with people who will hold you compassionately accountable and how we can all leverage the things we're really good at as our contribution to dismantling systems of oppression.

It's a juicy and meaty conversation.

Enjoy!

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/336

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

It's our first crack at the new format and I'm so excited to share it with you!

In this episode you get to be a fly on the wall during some Q+A at one of my Wild Soul Movement Weekend Workshops. At the end of each day, I open it up for questions about anything and everything. Because attendees have been doing healing and embodiment work all day, their questions are thoughtful, nuanced, and deep.

In this session I answer two different questions about navigating adult friendships: The first is around how to support a friend who is stuck and listening to them talk about the same things over and over again has become draining because you don't now how to help them. The other is about how to repair or move forward in a friendship after there's been a fracture, issue or confrontation.

I also got into healing the mother wound, how to cultivate play in your life- especially if you were a parentified child or feel like you have so many responsibilities now, there's no room for playfulness in adulthood. Lastly, I answered a really fun question about my favorite things to include in online dating profiles and the kinds of questions I like to ask potential dates.

Enjoy and let me know what you think!

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/335

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

Wild ones...very excited to share four points with you today in the realm of Love, Dating, Sex + Intimacy.

With Valentine's Day coming up, whether you're single or in a relationship the artificial pressure can get intense. The four things we're getting into today could help you navigate that. And they're also incredibly valuable regardless of the time of year.

The Love, Dating, Sex + Intimacy points I'm covering today are:

• Chemistry does not equal compatibility
• What I call, "Medicine for the 'too much' wound." Hint: it has to do with cultivating your willingness to be handled. And I have a great story from an event I taught at in 2015 where this concept was introduced to me.
• How people with tough exteriors often also have the most sensitive interiors.
• And finally, Truth talk for open-hearted people: Physical intimacy without emotional safety is risky business.

Enjoy, share, find me on Instagram or shoot an email over to [email protected] and let me know what you think or what resonates for you!

xo,

E

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/334

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

I'm always excited to share guests with you, but this week, I finally got my dear friend Staci Jordan Shelton on the show. It took me over a year...maybe longer. And you will see, it was worth the wait!

Staci's big truth was that she doesn't let people gaslight themselves. From there we discussed what gaslighting actually is and how it functions since it's a term that gets thrown around a lot.

We talked about the importance of context, the difference between shame and accountability and why conflict isn't bad; and we got into why cancel culture isn't the way, but ignoring patterns of behavior doesn't help people get free either.

We also touched on implementation and how sustained change can only happen over time, the lies that hold people hostage, the importance of having hobbies and something I've been thinking about so much in the last year - what it's like to be the strong friend and how to navigate getting the support you need, too, even if people don't think you need it!

Enjoy, share, and let us know what you think!

xo,

E

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/333

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

In a recent podcast listener survey, a lot of you listed trauma and healing under topics you'd like to see explored more in 2020 on the show, so I hope you enjoy today's guest, Irene Lyon who is a nervous system expert and somatic practitioner!

Her big truth was that we're at a point in time where we have the science, research, practices and immediacy to heal deep stuff. We talked about what somatic work is, the difference between the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous systems and touched on Polyvagal Theory.

She helped me understand the difference between trauma trained and trauma informed - a very important distinction as we all consider practitioners, guides, teachers and coaches in various areas of our lives.

And we also got into neuroception, our sensitivity to safety or danger, common trauma responses that people might not realize is their trauma talking, and how we can value the health that IS present.

It's a great chat, you might want to listen more than once. Enjoy and share!

xo,

E

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/332

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

It's the final episode in the Journey Into the Wild Soul!!

If you've been tuning in over the last several weeks, you know we've covered all kinds of juicy things, from deep committed practice and the importance of integration, to surrender, releasing, trust, receptivity, passion, purpose, love, truth and how EMBODIMENT is one of the most effective ways to bring it all together and LIVE it.

Might sound like a tall order, but it's actually quite elegant and practical when you get down to it!

In today's episode rather than a year in a review or an entire preview of 2020, I've framed it in a way that integrates the immense reflection, integration and clarity December provided for me.

I have mentioned elsewhere that I was REALLY into moving into a new decade.

What I got really into was reflecting on who I had become, the lessons I had learned and the things, habits, people and etc I had completed with over that decade.

In that reflection were a few things that had to do with BEING SUPER HONEST WITH MYSELF about what has worked in the past and what actually honors who I am now.

It's always exciting when new truths reveal themselves, and sometimes it's also inconvenient, but that's life isn't it - the best choices are not always the easiest ones to follow or make.

When you are connected to your body, heart, soul and inner authority - you just know better than to ignore the nudges, though.

One last note - just because 2020 has begun, doesn't mean you can't do this type of reflection yourself if you have yet to or find yourself with the desire after listening to this episode.

Enjoy and let me know what you think!

xo,

E

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/331

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

This is episode five of a six week podcast series I do every year called Journey into the Wild Soul. It's FILLED with gems to explore your inner world to help you have a better outer world experience. (And that is putting it very, very mildly.)

I've also opened up a free pop-up Facebook group to get some quality time together as a Wild Soul community before 2020 starts and we get all "hyped up" about a new year. I hope you'll join me and bring your friends!

Details here - http://wildsoulmovement.com/journey2020

The Journey into the Wild Soul is about reflecting on the year and perhaps years previous, so that we can leave the past in the past as we transition into a new year. As well as to invite you to consider if how you've been going about your growth, healing and transformation is really effective or if it's more performative, obligatory, inefficient, ineffective, or just a distraction.

Our theme this year is WHOLENESS and in this fifth episode I explore the second half of the Arc of POWER - Passion and Purpose and Love and Truth.

If you didn't hear the first four episodes, that's ok, you don't have to go back and listen to it before diving into this one unless you want to. Here are the links if you do: http://untameyourself.com/326 http://untameyourself.com/327 http://untameyourself.com/328 http://untameyourself.com/329

In today's episode we're diving into the second half in the Arc of POWER which is the curriculum in my yearlong women's circle POWER. I walk through the difference and the relationship between passion and purpose, some common misconceptions and hang ups about both and how to use them effectively in your life as guideposts.

Then I get into Love and Truth which are SO BIG, but I delve in from experience of my own and from teaching on this for so long from an embodied perspective, and share some stories, insights and points for you to reflect on.

Enjoy the episode and remember to check out POWER 2020 to see if it's for you!

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/330

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.

This is episode four of a six week podcast series I do every year called Journey into the Wild Soul. It's FILLED with gems to explore your inner world to help you have a better outer world experience. (And that is putting it very, very mildly.)

I've also opened up a free pop-up Facebook group to get some quality time together as a Wild Soul community before 2020 starts and we get all "hyped up" about a new year. I hope you'll join me and bring your friends!

Details here - http://wildsoulmovement.com/journey2020

The Journey into the Wild Soul is about reflecting on the year and perhaps years previous, so that we can leave the past in the past as we transition into a new year. As well as to invite you to consider if how you've been going about your growth, healing and transformation is really effective or if it's more performative, obligatory, inefficient, ineffective, or just a distraction.

Our theme this year is WHOLENESS and in this second episode, I'm diving into all things embodiment from concepts to practices to the benefits, why it works, how to develop discernment and speak your body's unique language of the senses and more.

If you didn't hear the first three episodes, that's ok, you don't have to go back and listen to it before diving into this one unless you want to. Here are the links if you do: http://untameyourself.com/326

http://untameyourself.com/327 http://untameyourself.com/328

In today's episode we're diving into the first two topics in the Arc of POWER which is the curriculum in my yearlong women's circle POWER. The topics are Surrender + Release and Trust + Receiving. These two topics help people learn how to work with life in a way that doesn't require so much forcing, pushing, overdoing or exhausting of the will.

They show people how to create space for what they want, trust themselves, ask for the support they need and be open and willing to receive it. Those things might sound simple, but every year I help hundreds of women who struggle with one or all of those things and the outcome is incredible.

Enjoy the episode and remember to check out POWER 2020 (link to wildsoulmovement.com/power2020) to see if it's for you!

For more information and for full show notes, head to http://untameyourself.com/329

Truth Telling with Elizabeth DiAlto aims to cut through the noise and ignorance of our current culture by exploring the truths of a diverse range of incredible voices. From authors, artists, creatives and educators, to activists, speakers and those in various scientific and esoteric fields - our guests hail from cultures and countries all over the world. The main intention here is to contribute to creating a kinder, gentler, more curious, collaborative, reverent world where people respect each others' background experiences and truths and they learn to trust in themselves and life and recognize that we really do need each other. We post a new interview every Monday and if you want to keep up with the show notes and quotes from our guests you can follow me on Instagram. If you love what you hear here and you find it useful and inspiring the best way to show your appreciation is to share the episode, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from.