"You can't change what you can't love." - My Amazing Mentor, Patrick Dominguez.

"At the root of every problem is a lack of unconditional self-love." - My Awesome Friend, Caleb Nelson

I still think about both of these ideas often as I've gone through my personal development journey. They're often the reminders I need the most. I also think they're powerful for anyone out there who's struggling with self-sabotage or low self-worth.

If you can't first love, understand, and sit with your perceived shortcomings, you don't have the power to transform them into something different.

And, if you don't have an unconditional love for yourself - EVEN when you're in a period of failure, struggle, or misalignment - you're going to stay stuck in those places for way longer.

You've probably heard before how important self-love is. You've probably started to practice it in some form or another.

If you're anything like me, you've got the self-love thing dialed in when you're performing at your best.

It's easy to love yourself then, right?

But what about when you start to falter?

What about when you go back to old habits?

What about when you're not showing up as your best self?

What about when you feel like you're going backwards?

In today's episode, I share my own strategy for cultivating deep self-love on demand, EVEN when I'm in these periods of struggles.

Unconditional self-love is possible. Tune in to today's episode to discover how to make it happen in your own life.

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We are joined with Whitney Walker for today's episode. Whitney is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in substance abuse, addiction, eating disorders and trauma. She also works as a recovery coach and spiritual guide. Her favorite offering is doing tarot readings for clients and friends.

Whitney opened her own private practice in the California Bay Area and has begun to speak more openly on her ideas about the return of the Divine Feminine to our world and how it can begin to change the experience of life on our planet. These ideas form the concept of Women Waken, her website and passion project. Whitney created The Women Waken Podcast and accompanying YouTube channel where she interviews amazing guests doing spiritual and healing work, please check it out!

In today's episode, we chat about:

• The challenges created by the imbalance of masculine and feminine energy in today's world
• How harnessing the power of the feminine can create change on a global scale
• How being in your feminine energy releases you from the need for addictions and distractions like overeating or overdrinking
• How to step into your power and create the experiences and projects you were meant to create
• Tiny but impactful ways to embody feminine energy on a daily basis

Visit Whitney's Website: http://www.womenwaken.com/
The Women Waken Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-women-waken-podcast/id1580972247?itsct=podcast_box_badge&itscg=30200&ls=1
Whitney's YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCqyxriSmwfLueB3fn-FthWw
Connect with Whitney on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenwaken/

"You're obviously just not committed."

"Oh, you're just complacent, honey."

"No excuses, just progress!"

Have you ever heard read these things, been told these things, or thought these things?

Here is the massive problem with these sentiments:

They breed shame and paralysis. They're likely to keep you stuck exactly where you are.

I bet you're an incredibly hard worker. You have been successful in many, many areas. And maybe, if you're like me, it's been health and eating and weight that have always tripped you up.

Then you see these messages about being complacent or uncommitted or full of excuses. And honestly, they're usually being spouted by ripped fitness models who have never struggled with their weight. Who don't see you as a person with so many painful experiences and limiting beliefs and ingrained survival strategies that keep you in the struggle.

Oh, and they're probably saying these things because they want you to buy their 30 day challenge or coaching package.

Get ready for a super spicy podcast episode because this fires me up. I want everyone who is struggling with their weight or eating challenges to understand what is truly going on here. I'm going to be sharing some common patterns and blocks that get in the way of progress.

And none of it has anything to do with you being weak, undisciplined, lazy, or CoMpLaceNt.

People with these struggles don't need more shaming. They need to feel seen, understood, and most importantly, SAFE, in the energy of those supporting or guiding them on this journey.

That is my deepest desire for my podcast and for the women I hold space for in my community and in my coaching containers.

You are so much more powerful than you realize. And there are very good reasons why you're not yet where you want to be. Tune in to today's podcast episode to discover what's actually going on here.

Episode 81: Is This Human Drive Keeping You From Reaching Your Potential?

Episode 57: When Part of You Doesn't Want It

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We had an incredible guest joining us on the Slay & Thrive Podcast this week. We are chatting with Abigail Herrick - a holistic practitioner with an incredible number of tools in her toolbox, including: Ayurvedic medicine, yoga, ayurvedic bodywork therapies, polyvagal nervous system regulation and Panchakarma seasonal cleanse programs.

In today's episode, we chat about:

• The imprint that childhood wounds leave, and how they can manifest in illness or disease later on in life
• How a hyper-focus on disease and Western medicine (such as dietetics and medication) create a block that holds people back from a life of true thriving
• The importance of treating each person as an individual on their journey to thriving, due to the different energetic make-up of each individual person
• A great introductory lesson to Ayurveda and how working with a practitioner can create healing on a deep level
• The importance of incorporating somatic work and body-based therapies into our healing journey. You can't mindset your way out of everything. (I've learned this hard way myself.)

Learn More About Abby's 3-Month Journey, Own Your Humanness Here: https://www.holisticwellness4life.com/own-your-humanness

Learn More About Abby's Fall Cleanse-To-Elevate Program: https://www.holisticwellness4life.com/cleanse-to-elevate-virtual-program

Contact Abby To Learn More About Her Programs: https://www.holisticwellness4life.com/contact

There is a massive difference between pursuing health and pursuing perfection.

When you're pursuing health, you hold space for balance and moderation. A dinner out doesn't derail you. You're still able to eat in alignment with your fitness goals 80% of the time, even while away for a weekend.

Pursuing perfection looks very different.

You have rigid standards. There is no room for error. And that one wrong move - the unplanned cookies in the breakroom, the chocolate you ate from the vending machine at your kid's sporting event - sends you into a shame spiral that keeps you stuck in the behaviours that made you feel so bad about yourself in the first place.

You've messed up, so all bets are off. Now, you're too filled with shame and self-directed anger to focus on your goals. You make one misaligned choice after the other for days or weeks on end until you can finally muster up the energy to go back to being "perfect" again.

That often takes a while because being perfect? It's exhausting. It's all consuming.

You can end this cycle. You can step off the imaginary path of perfectionism and get back on the road to true health. The road to health feels energizing. It feels safe. It puts you into a state of thriving.

Tune in to today's episode to learn how to make this shift in your own life.

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All humans have the same basic needs and drives. These drives might manifest differently for each person, but the basic principles of the drive remain the same.

These drives all called "core" or "basic" for a reason. They're the top priorities needs that need to be addressed before anything else.

So what happens when one of these core human drives is actually at odds with the goals you have for yourself?

Is this one of the big reasons why you haven't achieved that goal or reached your next level of personal power and mastery?

In today's episode, we're going to talk about what human drive might be holding you back from reaching your potential, and how to navigate this hurdle on your path to your next level self.

Have you ever heard that we only use 10% of our brain?

Or maybe you've heard that we have a left-brain and a right brain, and that people are left-brained and some people are right-brained.

There is so much more to it than that. This episode is all about learning to use 100% of your brain to maximize your success.

When you use more of your brain, you have more resources at your disposal. You're more creative. You're better able to see the big picture.

In today's episode, you'll learn about four distinct parts of the brain, how to recognize them in yourself, and a 5-step process for using all parts together.

This is largely a book club episode and the 5-step process and the four-part brain concept is taken from the book Whole Brain Living by Jill Bolte Taylor. Click here to grab your copy of the book.

Learn more about the Brain Huddle Process here.

I'm sharing how I integrated these concepts into my own life and how they've helped me further my progress towards my own goals. These ideas and this process was such a game-changer that I knew I had to share it with my listeners as well.

"Half of the leaders I have met don't need to learn what to do. They need to learn what to stop.”- Marshal Goldsmith

When you're constantly trying to add more good habits or strategies without addressing your blocks and limitations, you'll set yourself up to fail.

Constantly trying to add more to a busy schedule can actually create overwhelm that paralyzes a person. When you're always trying to add more, you might end up doing nothing because it feels like there's too much going on.

What if you chose to simplify and clear out what's holding you back?

When you stop the habits, thoughts, and emotional patterns that are getting in the way, you free up your energy to go after your goals with more consistency, more focus, and more enjoyment. Tune in to today's episode to discover how to eliminate three bad habits that are stalling your progress and keeping you stuck.

Setbacks. They're a normal part of any journey towards any goal.

And oftentimes, they create a lot of negative emotion. Our confidence is shaken. We become crippled with doubt.

We might even make the setbacks mean something about us. Maybe it means we're destined for permanent failure. Maybe we won't ever achieve this goal. Maybe there's something wrong with us.

We also might feel resentful about having to make up lost ground, which can keep us stuck. Our fears, shame and resentment can cause us to stay trapped in the setback longer than necessary.

This is where today's episode comes in. On today's show, I'm taking you through my own 5 step process to slay my way out of any setback.

Setbacks can be a gift in disguise, once we apply the right framework and the right strategy. We can come out of them with more resilience, more determination, and more wisdom. Tune in today to learn how to slay your way through any setback and actually use it as the launching pad for the most badass comeback ever.

There are many reasons why someone wants to lose weight or get in shape.

Some of the reasons can be inspiring and motivating.

Maybe it's to have more energy to keep up with their family.
Maybe it's to challenge themselves and see what they're made of.
Maybe it's for an event or race they've signed up for.

Other reasons are less helpful.

Because they feel like they "should" - according to some imaginary standards set by society.
Because they feel like it'll make them more acceptable to those around them.
Because they think it will make them happy.

In today's episode, we're talking about the importance of a strong, inspiring why behind a body transformation, as well as the #1 reason to transform your body. You'll also get a framework for pursuing your health goals using this number one reason.