Send us a text

Could it be that you may have relinquished a bit of your true self in your quest for closeness with your spouse?

Many of us have perceived very early on in our life that certain parts of us are unacceptable, so to survive, we compromised our true selves to receive the love we needed to feel acceptable.

It's part of our primal need to help us survive.

Fast-forward to when you fell in love with your partner, these same behaviors will unconsciously show up; they are wired into our autonomic nervous system.

I believe that somewhere down the line in the relationship, again unconsciously, when we start to feel disconnected, uninspired, and unconsidered, we push back against those old behaviors we used to draw them in.

Unconsciously we are protecting ourselves from getting hurt, but the result is less love and more disconnection.

This week on the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast, I talk all about the tension between our drive for closeness and authenticity and helping you discover how to nurture your true self while learning how to grow closer to the one you're with. Listen to Episode 124: Embracing Authenticity: Nurturing Your True Self within Your Marriage, and start to understand some of your behaviors that might not be serving you and the relationship you dream of with your spouse.

Book reference: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, Gabor Maté

Podcast episodes referenced:
Ep 92: How Your Attachment Style is Affecting Your Marriage
Ep 119: How To Build the Closeness You Desire

CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship

Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!

Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.

Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.

Instagram

Fac...