Empowered AF

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In This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the importance of taking back your power in relationships. They address issues like feeling stuck, dealing with affairs, and navigating pain and uncertainty. They guide you through four steps: clarification, setting boundaries, understanding the partner's perspective, and taking appropriate action. They emphasize the need to own your emotions while also recognizing what is not yours to own. They also encourage you to focus on personal responsibility and self-value, urging you to establish healthy boundaries and refuse to tolerate mistreatment.

Episode Summary:

• How to turn your pain into power? 0:03
• Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0.
• Three types of men.
• How to turn your pain into power. 3:06
• Step one, clarify what is yours to own.
• Owning the emotions.
• You are responsible for you and how you show up.
• Owning something that doesn't belong to you.
• What is not yours to own. 8:20
• Step two, set some boundaries.
• Step three, get a pulse on your wife.
• Get a pulse on ownership. 11:04
• Step three is to get a pulse.
• Ownership vs freedom.
• Why boundaries are important in a cheating marriage.
• The importance of setting boundaries.
• Setting healthy financial boundaries. 15:58
• Setting healthy boundaries and financial boundaries.
• Develop a plan. Step three, clarity and clarity.
• Steps to take back your power. 18:00
• Four steps to take power back.
• Best way to handle an affair partner.
• There is not a damn thing you can do about it.
• Being friends with his ex-wife.
• The importance of boundaries in divorce.
• Do I stay loyal until the divorce is final or work on myself? 23:57
• Loyal until the divorce is final and just work on yourself.
• Trauma bond over trauma.
• How to deal with false positives. 26:44
• False positives.
• bpd and npd
• How to manage an affair.
• An emotional affair is more damaging than a physical affair.
• The importance of connecting with your wife. 34:13
• There are all kinds of charlatans right now trying to sell you on this bullshit.
• Being empowered is about being somebody, not just about doing things.
• A new community called Revive, monthly membership based coaching.

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In This Episode, Mark and Joey continue the discussion on how to defuse toxicity in relationships and the importance of taking ownership and responsibility in relationships. They share a story of a man who initially wanted to file for divorce but decided to work on himself instead. They emphasize the need to create a safe space for oneself and the significance of self-improvement. They also address the challenges of co-parenting and offer advice on handling pushback in a productive manner.

Episode Summary:

• Intro to the episode. 0:03
• Welcome to the next level of Empowered Man 2.0.
• Creating a new marriage.
• It always comes back to us. 1:55
• It comes back to the man in the mirror.
• Take ownership. Step one, take ownership.
• Why men don’t show up for themselves 3:24
• Men don't know how to show up for themselves.
• 95% of what men say is bullshit.
• It's all her telling me how to fix it. 5:03
• Taking responsibility instead of trying to fix it.
• The man he wants to be.
• Understanding that just because your marriage is over doesn’t mean your life is over. 6:33
• Marriage is dead for 98% of you.
• How to get empowered to move forward.
• Santiago family 2.0 vs Santiago family 1.0.
• Kids are more resilient than you realize.
• Understanding your values and willingness to compromise. 11:06
• Being a shell of the man he used to be.
• How to handle push back.
• Things that aren’t worth the battle. 13:16
• No fighting over petty things with your ex-wife.
• Recognize when kids are with you and when not.
• How do you detach from the outcome? 15:13
• Summer camp for five-year-old daughter.
• How to deal with summer camp conflict.
• What are indicators that a spouse is ready to return to the marriage? 17:31
• Three indicators that a spouse is ready to return to the marriage.
• How to protect yourself from manipulation. 19:23
• Protecting against manipulation in a divorce.
• How many guys have a plan.
• Mark's mission is to eradicate loneliness and help men become better men.
• Empowered man group.

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In This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss how to defuse toxicity in relationships. They address the importance of open communication, the presence of disagreements, and the need to address toxic behaviors. They emphasize the significance of mindset, owning one's emotions, and staying empowered in difficult conversations.

Episode Summary:

• Intro to the episode. 0:03
• Welcome to the next level of Empowered Man 2.0.
• Check in with the collective.
• How to deal with toxicity. 2:01
• How to defuse toxicity in a marriage.
• How to open up in prayer.
• The little foxes spoil the vine. 3:40
• The little foxes that spoil the vine.
• Why men are afraid of their wives.
• The hard conversations never stop. 5:22
• Avoiding the hard conversations to avoid conflict.
• The hard conversations never stop.
• How to deal with disagreements. 7:00
• The tipping point is accepting disagreements.
• The number one thing in the chat.
• Resentment creates resentment over time.
• Toxic communication, stonewalling and gaslighting.
• The mindset is everything to me. 11:00
• Mindset is everything to me.
• Being present in the moment, being present.
• This is what I do now. 12:45
• Owning her emotions instead of owning your own.
• Every man wants to be exposed.
• Athlete’s stance. 14:28
• Getting an athletic stance.
• The last time he yelled at his ex-wife.
• You have permission to ask for healthy space. 16:05
• Friction met with friction.
• Manipulation is an unhealthy way of getting healthy needs met.
• How to check your ego? 18:38
• Ego at the end of the day.
• True love is not controlling, but freedom.
• You are the problem, not her.

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

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In This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the topic of pain and how it can be turned into power. They emphasize the importance of taking ownership of one's pain and changing the environment to foster growth. They also highlight the need for a clear vision and determination to overcome challenges. Join them as they provide insights and answer questions from listeners.

Episode Summary:

• How to turn your pain into power? 1:36
• Training on how to turn pain into power.
• Pain is not the only one.
• Getting used to navigating through the pain.
• Step one, inventory pain and take ownership of pain.
• Taking a stance of ownership. 6:25
• Take a stance of ownership.
• Elevate your community and environment.
• The difference between impacted and distracted. 9:24
• Most men never heal from this stuff.
• The difference between a disempowered and impacted man.
• You can't get masculinity from your female therapist.
• Be determined and have a plan.
• Saving your marriage is not a goal at all. 14:24
• Open up for questions.
• Robert has a question about accountability and accountability.
• Your wife holds your balls in her hand.
• Saving a marriage is a state.
• Respect is earned. 17:20
• Men are sick of men being manipulated by their own penises.
• Respect is earned, not automatic.
• Men don't have any value for what they bring to the table.
• If she doesn't trust you.
• Why you shouldn’t be happy with who you are now. 22:35
• Respect goals and not content with who they are.
• 100% ownership equals 100% freedom.
• Lying to yourself about your identity. 24:47
• Hunger is the thing that drives and pushes you forward.
• Lying to yourself constantly.
• New layers of love and trust.
• Isolation is the problem 99% of the time.
• Ending the cycle of loneliness in men. 29:09
• Empowered men end the cycle of loneliness.
• Empowering men to come fully alive.
• The importance of having a goal. 31:13
• Sign up for a 30 minute call with Joey.
• Have a goal.
• Mark has a few spots opened up for the next episode.
• Last thoughts from Joey.

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

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In This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the topic of disempowerment and the cycle it creates. They discuss the impact of inflection points in relationships and the stories we tell ourselves. They explore the tendency to blame external factors instead of taking ownership and the allure of short-term fixes. They also provide empowering questions to break the cycle and choose complete healing over temporary solutions, as well as:

• Being present with your emotions
• The blame and shame climate of the world
• The concept and importance of community and connection
• Choosing complete healing over quick fixes
• Vulnerability is true power

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

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In This Episode, Mark discusses the importance of knowing and understanding yourself to continuously grow and navigate challenges. He shares a personal experience with his wife, highlighting the power of taking responsibility and transforming friction into opportunities for deeper emotional connection. Mark emphasizes the significance of internal locus control and the freedom that comes with taking ownership, as well as:

• Recognizing patterns and understanding oneself
• Someone has to be the final leader
• The power of taking ownership and responsibility
• The role of personal growth
• The need for gratitude
• Overcoming victim mentality and embracing personal growth

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

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In This Episode, Mark discusses his personal journey of wanting to get into real estate investing but never taking action. He then recounts how he found a mentor who guided him through a potential real estate deal that could have cost him a significant amount of money and stress. Mark emphasizes the importance of having someone with experience and expertise to help navigate challenges and make informed decisions. He urges you to seek mentorship and coaching to save yourself from costly mistakes and accelerate your personal growth, as well as:

• Real estate dreams and missed opportunities.
• Finding a mentor who shares the same goals.
• Evaluating a risky property with potential profits.
• The value of mentorship and coaching.

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

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In This Episode, Mark discusses the journey and mindset of an empowered man. He explains that it's important for men to focus on themselves, to have strong boundaries, to communicate effectively and to take responsibility for their own actions. He also discusses the importance of apologizing for the part you played in the destruction of your marriage, even if it's only internally, as well as:

• The journey towards becoming an empowered man can be difficult, but it's worth it.
• Men often come into groups seeking validation for their pain, rather than actively seeking help to improve themselves.
• It's essential to focus on yourself and not get bogged down in trying to control your partner's actions.
• Building a strong sense of self is a gradual process that takes time, effort, and investment.

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

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In This Episode, Joey discusses when it's time to accept that a marriage is dead and cannot be revived. He emphasizes the importance of both partners committing to their growth individually, and offers a five-step process for men to follow to save themselves and their marriages. He also discusses the significance of having a plan and the value of brotherhood and accountability, as well as:

• A year of dedicated work may be needed to feel content and complete.
• Consciously choose to choose to get better, take action, and have a plan.
• Men need brotherhood, collaboration, companionship, and accountability to succeed.
• Take assessment of what led you to this point and take ownership over your part.

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

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In This Episode, Mark discusses the danger of randomly evolving due to one's environment and lack of intentionality. He highlights how small goals and urgent battles keep you stuck and disconnected from your future self. Mark also emphasizes the need to be in the arena of life and not just shout from the sidelines. He also explains why success can often be the catalyst for failure and why one's focus should be on becoming an empowered man internally rather than just seeking external success, as well as:

• Being unaware of your environment leads to random evolution
• Small goals and urgent battles keep one stuck
• Being in the arena is crucial
• Success can be the catalyst for failure

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YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.