Empowered Sobriety

Empowered Sobriety

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Empowered Sobriety episodes

  • EP25 Are You Allowing Yourself to Rest?

    On this weeks Episode of Empowered Sobriety Abby shares about what came through for her around rest on a recent adventure at Breitenbush Hot Springs Retreat and Conference Center.

    0:00 Introduction

    1:14 Abby and Lindsay introduce our topic for today - REST and our relationship to it!

    1:53 Abby shares about her recent adventure to Breitenbush Hot Springs Retreat and Conference Center in Oregon. Abby talks about her own relationship to rest and how our addicted body responds to rest. Abby tells us all about experiencing the hot springs!

    11:25 Abby shares how she was in a lot of contraction before the hot springs and how water helped her to realize this.

    14:30 Lindsay asks Abby to further explain bringing in the water element.

    14:50 Abby shares different ways to bring in the water element through water and herbs.

    19:00 Abby shares her distinction between her intuition and her head and how she is connected to Mother Earth. Abby speaks about her meditation, where this all showed up for her.

    21:00 Abby is speaking about a breath practice that brought her awareness to the gifts. Being in the practice of receiving and giving.

    22:37 Lindsay acknowledges Abby and her experience and her willingness to share with us all

    23:00 Abby reflects: your total years in sobriety does not determine your level of awareness

    23:37 Abby shares how she will be bringing in more of the water element

    24:32 Notes the 3rd Chakra - Solar Plexus

    24:45 Abby tells us what foods she'll be incorporating on this journey

    27:05 Lindsay shares her thoughts on the expansion and contraction

    28:00 "what can you learn in the contraction?"

    28:50 Lindsay speaks about the seasons we experience with in ourselves. Abby shares a story she had about this as well.

    29:52 Lindsay shares her recent experience in rest and how her body got her there.

    31:24 Abby shares her reflections

    33:25 Down Regulation Practices !

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    If you'd like to work with Lindsay, you can reach out to her through her IG: instagram.com/lindsayfano/ or email her at [email protected]

    If you'd like to work with Abby, you can reach out to her through her website: https://abbygcoaching.com/ or her IG: instagram.com/abbygcoaching 

    Breitenbush Hot Springs Retreat and Conference Center
    https://breitenbush.com/

    41 min
  • EP24 How to Heal Shame & Guilt

    On this week’s episode on the Empowered Sobriety Podcast, Lindsay and Abby break down guilt and shame, which are so prevalent in the addiction community.  They both give many examples and tools on how to identify when you are in shame or guilt and how to heal them both.

    00:00 Intro

    03:30 What is guilt and steps to relieving and healing guilt

    13:34 Breakdown of shame and examples of what shame can look like

    22:28 Brené Brown’s 1-2-3’s of Shame

    23:00 Masks of shame

    28:38 Narcissism is a mask for deep shame

    31:02 Effects of the masks of shame

    32:23 Questions to ask yourself when starting to heal your own shame

    34:09 How shame can show up in our bodies and how we reflect it 

    39:10 Antidotes to shame


    Follow us on IG instagram.com/empoweredsobrietypodcast/ and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.  

    If you'd like to work with Lindsay, you can reach out to her through her IG: instagram.com/lindsayfano/ or email her at [email protected]

    If you'd like to work with Abby, you can reach out to her through her website: https://abbygcoaching.com/ or her IG: instagram.com/abbygcoaching 


    Additional Resources!

    Self-Compassion.Org Quiz

    https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-test/

    Brené Brown’s “The Power of Vulnerability”

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o 

    Gabor Maté’s “When The Body Says No”

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6IL8WVyMMs

    45 min
  • EP23 "Is Sobriety Boring?"

    This week on Empowered Sobriety Podcast Lindsay and Abby discuss the topic of "is sobriety boring?"

    Lindsay and Abby speak to their own understanding, interpretation and point of view on sobriety and is sobriety really boring? Or is your sobriety boring? What is boring to you? What is fun for you? What are you willing to let go of right now in your life, such as people or places?

    Abby and Lindsay go back and forth sharing about their own expectations of sobriety and how they would have fun, experience joy or navigate the unknown.

    So many beautiful tips, shares, laughter, and reflections!


    Follow us on IG instagram.com/empoweredsobrietypodcast/ and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.

    If you'd like to work with Lindsay, you can reach out to her through her IG: instagram.com/lindsayfano/ or email her at [email protected]

    If you'd like to work with Abby, you can reach out to her through her website: https://abbygcoaching.com/ or her IG: instagram.com/abbygcoaching

    47 min
  • EP22 Relapse Prevention and Insights
    Today's episode on Empowered Sobriety, Lindsay guides us through her relapse and gives so much clarity on how it can happen if we aren't resourced enough or when we start to question our addiction. She also gives a ton of tips and practices to prevent a relapse.
    00:00 Intro
    02:23 Lindsay starts us off with the beginning of her sober journey and how working with a life coach lovingly illuminated her addictive patterns with alcohol and challenges her to 90 days sober.
    09:23 30-60 days sobriety reflections and “The Pink Cloud”.
    11:06 Lindsay’s deep dive into her relapse, two years into her sobriety.
    17:45 After her relapse, she quickly reverts back to her old addictive drinking patterns and shares her insights of shame and judgment during this time.
    22:30 She tries sobriety again 4 months after her relapse but it was a more emotionally charged sobriety and relapses again at a wedding reception.
    29:40 An invitation to go deeper in your sobriety and enter into “empowered sobriety”.
    31:04 Lindsay enters sobriety again with the help of her friend and “90 in 90” 12 step meetings.
    33:25 What is a relapse and a different way to look at a relapse.
    36:58 Relapse prevention tips and practices
    If you'd like to work with Lindsay, you can reach out to her through her IG: instagram.com/lindsayfano/
    Follow us on IG instagram.com/empoweredsobrietypodcast/ and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.
    48 min
  • EP21 Friendships in Sobriety with Jo

    This week on Empowered Sobriety Lindsay and Abby welcome Jo from Spacious Expression! A Women's Sobriety Coach who helps her clients create sustainable systems of empowerment in all stages of sobriety!

    0:00 Intro

    2:52 Friendships in our addictions and in recovery

    3:20 Lindsay shares her journey with friendships in addiction and early on in sobriety

    6:26 Jo shares her journey with friendships in addiction and early on in sobriety

    8:38 Lindsay shares a relatable experience to Jo's share

    9:26 Abby shares her journey with friendships in addiction and early on in sobriety

    12:04 Lindsay speaks to her turbulent transition out of friendship, the pain and the beauty of it all

    15:20 Abby validates how painful it can be to choose sobriety over relationships or friendships or past lives

    16:20 Jo acknowledges the personal power in preparing ourselves for this step before we take it

    17:44 Jo talks more about her empowering decision to join a women's group early on in her sobriety and how her friendships have blossomed and been redefined in such a loving way

    20:50 Abby reflects on Jo's share and her own discovery of new friendships and who she surrounds herself with today

    21:47 Lindsay gives her reflection to Jo's share and adds her insight

    22:49 "Not everyone can come with us into our next chapter"

    23:24 Abby talks about creating space and the freedom to call in your tribe

    25:26 Jo reflects on Abby's share and gives her input on connection as humans and standards in friendship and within ourselves

    26:30 Lindsay speaks to her old understanding of individual friendships and romantic partnerships and how much it has shifted for her

    28:30 Lindsay asks for Jo's input. She adds about contextual friendships in her healing. Expectations of friends and how that has shifted

    32:00 Abby reflects on Jo's capacity and how that is relevant to our nervous system. She shares her own experience in this.

    34:20 Listeners: If you're curious about how to define your friendships, awareness and boundaries!

    35:56 Jo adds a piece, data collection! Going out into the world and collecting data through the self awareness practice

    37:52 Abby shares what comes up for her in regards to different friends for deep grief, depression, motivation, etc. Acknowledges Jo for adding in the data collection piece

    39:25 Jo's reflection on the compassion to acknowledge how we are able to show up and how we are consciously choosing friendships

    39:50 Thanking Jo for coming onto the podcast

    40:18 Question: What are the gifts of your trauma? Jo answers so beautifully with Empathy, ability to hold non-judgmental space about what has occurred to us and through us, and the capacity to hold space.

    40:54 Closing

    You can schedule a discovery call with Jo to work with her 1:1. Jo's IG handle is @spaciousexpression and website: www.spaciousexpression.com

    Follow us on Instagram @empoweredsobrietypodcast and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.

    44 min
  • EP20 How Herbs Can Help with Sobriety & Recovery
    This week on the Empowered Sobriety Podcast, Abby brings us into the wonderful world of herbalism and how herbalism can be used in sobriety and recovery.  There are many herbs that can calm anxiety while in recovery and sobriety as well as helping bring our bodies back into balance such as using bitters and nutritive herbs.  Listen in as Abby breaks down different categories of herbs that can support our overall health!
    00:00 Intro
    01:35 Breath practice and ancestral Land Acknowledgement 
    04:12 Abby shares how she got into herbalism and how it led her to life coaching.
    05:20 How herbs work on the body and how intelligent they are as they work on the whole system, not just prescriptive.
    06:22 What are nutritive herbs? And why it’s important to get out of the herb’s way.  
    07:46 Lindsay points out our western cultural perspective that one herb or one prescription will heal us all but it actually takes more than just one thing to effect change in our bodies as well as the world. 
    08:53 Abby’s journey from health coaching to life coaching
    10:10 What anxiety can do to your body and how herbs can help.
    10:33 A note on Cannabis
    11:55 What are “Nervines” and how they help with the parasympathetic nervous system
    13:17 A great resource to find organic and pesticide-free herbs
    14:32 Nervine and nutritive herbs such as oatstraw, dandelion, skullcap, St. John’s wort and lemon balm
    15:20 How to take herbs if you’re triggered or sensitive to alcohol
    19:00 St. John’s wort: a great herb for mild to moderate depression
    20:44 Lindsay asks Abby how we can support herbs so they can support us
    23:22 How to support the body after addiction and early sobriety
    23:44 What are “bitters” and how they can support the body early in recovery 
    28:10 What are “aromatics” and how they can help with bloating and gas
    28:40 What are “demulcents” and how they can soothe internal body tissues such as the mouth, esophagus and stomach lining.
    30:40 What are “astringents” and one herb can help move lymph.
    32:57 Lindsay asks Abby which herb is best for anxiety and active in their fight or flight mode
    37:19 How to work with Abby
    Resources:
    How to find out who the Indigenous Peoples are that tend the land where you live:
    www.native-land.ca
    A great resource for organic and pesticide-free herbs:
    www.mountainroseherbs.com
    How to work with Abby:
    website: www.abbygcoaching.com
    IG: @abbygcoaching
    Follow us on Instagram @empoweredsobrietypodcast and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.
    43 min
  • EP19 The power of telling the truth with Rex Haines-Henderson
    This week on Empowered Sobriety Lindsay and Abby welcome Rex Haines-Henderson, a fellow Elementum Coaching Institute Graduate, a Coach who helps his clients break bad habits, overcome destructive behaviors and helps them get out of their own way! Celebrating 2 years of Sobriety the day this episode drops, April 26th 2023!!
    0:00 Intro
    1:45 Introducing Empowered Sobriety's Guest Speaker, Rex Haines Henderson.
    2:12 Rex reflects on his compassion for himself and his accomplishments over the past two years
    2:39 Lindsay asks Rex to share what the turning point from active addiction to sobriety was for him.
    5:06 Rex takes us through his journey from childhood, to when he began using and how it escalated through out his life. Rex vulnerably shares some of his patterns that he became aware of, also sharing how his relationship to himself impacted him, his view of women before sobriety and personal development and more.
    7:36 Lindsay asks Rex a clarifying question about his addiction to alcohol and substances.
    7:51 Rex clarifies his relationship to cocaine and alcohol. He shares his experience and disconnection to his body through out his life. Rex speaks to his on again, off again sobriety and how he got back to using and then finding his way back to sobriety with the help of his brother.
    12:34 Rex let's us in on how he was feeling going into Rehab. He also tells us about his experience through rehab and into the 12 step rooms then becoming a coach!
    15:55 Lindsay reflects about the shame and guilt that we carry with us through addiction and continue to carry through sobriety.
    17:19 Rex talks about his own forgiveness of himself through recovery and how that brought him to understanding himself better.
    18:43 Abby drops in a valuable piece about conscious men doing the work and Rex adds into that.
    21:54 Rex speaks on the courage it takes to be vulnerable and shares an experience he had in rehab that gave him permission to be vulnerable.
    22:31 Abby asks Rex to share about being sober in a Country that prides itself on alcohol, Rex speaks to how that has all shifted for him in his sobriety. He shares about how the app Bumble has helped him cultivate more aligned friendships.
    25:23 Abby brings up how many of us getting sober have a fear around cutting off old friendships or relationships and your old life, she acknowledges Rex for how he was able to walk away from it all.
    26:42 Rex shares how he walked away from relationships that weren't serving him any longer. Lindsay then asks about how men insult one another and make fun of one another in friendship and what Rex's take on that is? Rex shares his perspective.
    29:30 Rex talks about how men's groups have helped him on his journey, how he was hesitant at first to work with other men, and how it has been an incredible experience working with men.
    32:48 Lindsay asks Rex to share about how his relationship and understanding of women has shifted over the last 2 years. Rex openly shares how he used to experience women and how he experiences women now. He also shares about how he used to show up in relationship with women, sex, porn, etc.
    39:21 Abby asks Rex, what are the gifts of your trauma? Rex excitedly shares his response!
    You can schedule a discovery call with Rex to work with him 1:1. His IG handle is @rexhaineshenderson and tiktok @rexhaineshenderson
    Follow us on Instagram @empoweredsobrietypodcast and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.
    45 min
  • EP18 How to Forgive Yourself & Others in Sobriety

    This week on Empowered Sobriety, Abby and Lindsay walk you through how to forgive yourself for something unforgivable as well as how to forgive others who hurt you. Forgiveness is a huge part of our healing journey and forgiveness is part of how you stay sober! 

    What we discuss…
    00:00 Intro
    02:10 Lindsay shares that during her first two years of sobriety, she had many old stuck feelings come up and how forgiveness work was a huge part of getting through those times.
    03:00 Abby shares her experiences in AA meetings where she witnessed other attendees stuck in shame. 
    04:27 What IS forgiveness and is NOT forgiveness?
    05:13 What is Spiritual Bypassing?
    06:38 Part of forgiving yourself and forgiving others is validating our experience and feelings and releasing stuck shame, guilt and anger.
    08:58 Important points of forgiveness and how self compassion plays a role in healing shame and guilt.
    11:28 How Abby & Lindsay release their anger and a few tips on how you can release anger.
    15:52 Forgiveness isn’t condoning the actions or events but forgiving ourselves for the limiting beliefs we have about ourselves or the limiting beliefs we have about someone else that hurt us.
    16:26 How forgiveness has helped Abby’s relationship between her and her mother and how her anger release work has helped her find self compassion and compassion for her mother.
    25:45 Lindsay talks about how sobriety and forgiveness has played a large role in healing her relationship with her mother.
    26:50 How to deal with forgiveness when the other person has passed away.  
    28:30 Steps for Forgiveness: “Forgiveness” Statements and “The Truth Is” Statements.
    31:21 The one with the most self awareness is the one with the most responsibility.
    34:00 “Know your tribe!” How Lindsay has processed shame and guilt and how she transformed them into self compassion and forgiving herself.
    38:38 How Abby has forgiven herself for how she showed up in her marriage.


    Follow us on Instagram @empoweredsobrietypodcast and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.

    42 min
  • EP17 Lindsay's Takeaways from Bridge & Extreme Leadership Workshops
    This week on Empowered Sobriety, Lindsay and Abby talk about Lindsay's takeaways from a 2-weekend workshop called The Bridge Experience and Extreme Leadership by Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos.
    Lindsay shares a bit of her journey from Bridge & Extreme and she goes into some of the biggest takeaways from the experience.
    Lindsay and Abby discuss loyalty and how that has shown up in their relationships with people and their addictions.
    We speak to the universe continuously presenting opportunities for us to choose differently.
    Lindsay continues to speak to the end of her relationship and her awareness around multiple addictions and getting clean from them.
    Lindsay shares a process that she learned at the workshop that is called "the allowing process". This has been a huge tool to support her breaking of the attachment to her ex, her addiction to food to suppress and more.
    Abby gives you all a beautiful reflection of everything that Lindsay expressed and shared about her inner critic part and the allowing process.
    Turning our focus to Abby, she begins by noticing where she is at somatically and just drop into the space.
    Abby shares some new insight that dropped in for her based on Lindsay's share the week before, "How you do anything, is how you do everything."
    She walks us through her awareness around it and her shifts.
    We will have a follow up to this episode after some much needed integration!
    Thank you all for listening, we love you!
    Follow us on Instagram @empoweredsobrietypodcast and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review! If you'd like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us.
    47 min
  • EP16 How to Set Empowered Boundaries in Sobriety

    This week on Empowered Sobriety, Lindsay and Abby talk about all things Boundaries.  

    What are boundaries? Who are boundaries really for? How to know when you don’t have strong boundaries and steps to building empowered boundaries in sobriety.

    Boundaries certainly can be used to protect you from other’s behaviors but the first steps to setting empowered boundaries starts within ourselves.  Without these powerful boundaries within ourselves, we won’t respect others boundaries!  

    ***If you’re not clear on what you want in this life and have a deep inner sense of self, you most likely don’t have clear boundaries AND most likely aren’t respecting boundaries of those around you.  

    ***Abby gives a personal example of how her own protective mechanism of perfectionism was crossing the boundaries of others as she was trying to make them perfect, too.

    ***Lindsay speaks about how important it is to have a strong sense of self and an inner knowing so you don’t always need to be “fixing”. She also drops some wisdom on us: “How we do anything is how we do everything!”


    Steps to setting empowered boundaries while in sobriety include:

    *** How to find the highest version of yourself

    ***The importance of a value’s list and what the heck are values?

    ***Recognize when you are in old addictive patterning

    ***How to get back into alignment when you’ve stepped outside your own boundaries


    Questions to ask yourself to deepen the boundary work:

    ***Where does your attention go?

    ***What behaviors are acceptable from you and towards you?

    ***How do I want to show up for myself and others?

    ***What are your needs? Hint: listen to last week’s episode on Inner Child

    ***What is your energy bandwidth?

    ***Will this decision get me closer or take me away from my highest version of myself?

    Follow us on Instagram @empoweredsobrietypodcast and email us at [email protected] for comments or questions. We would love it if you could take the time to leave us a rating and review!!  If you’d like to be coached by us or to be a guest, please email us! 

    Resources:

    https://open.spotify.com/episode/1PVSRw3XyX3pAUL8eDCVZY?si=x6KojTetSVGSpTYLeDduzw

    42 min

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Empowered Sobriety is a weekly podcast for all stages of sobriety and open to all addictions. Lindsay Fano and Abby Gerber are trauma informed Life Coaches who are empowering individuals to look…