Engage and Equip

Nic, John, and Jill talk about moving away from repression in dealing with emotions, and what they have found helpful in becoming unrepressed.

Mentioned in the episode/other resources:
Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet Geringer Woititz
12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson
The Healing Path by Dan Allender
Hinds Feet in High Places by Hannah Hurnard
Changes that Heal by Cloud and Townsend

Summary of Nic's points:

“Feel the feelings” when they come. Don’t put them off—more people who do not feel richly do not welcome feelings if those feelings seem unwelcome. You have to learn to be hospitable to feelings, even before you decide whether they need to be suppressed for social reasons.

Don’t deny you have them, or why you are having them.

Stop and feel them when they come—it usually only takes 10–25 seconds to welcome and acknowledge a feeling that comes up, and to know why.

Welcome feelings you should have felt—especially laments, and hurts you have denied.

Follow the trails of your anxieties and depressions.

Many people feel like they’re “working through it” but they aren’t doing the hard work of actually feeling the feelings behind the anxiety.

Stop rationalizing away feelings as impractical or useless. I hear this constantly—people say “There’s no use in…” or “It doesn’t do any good to feel…”

It is possible to be too solution-oriented too quickly.

Listen open-heartedly to others emoting with you/for you—when someone tells you what something is or means, when you’d be prone to minimize it and not feel: “That person should not have treated you that way. It was wrong. You shouldn’t have had to feel that."

If you still have strong, negative feelings about an event in the past… (that is more than 14–18 months ago, it is not resolving naturally. The event means something to your more primal mind.)

Jordan Peterson has said that the work to be done here is handling the fear that you will face this same situation incompetently or weakly in the future—that you will not have enough courage or competence to overcome the situation. Therefore, your mind needs to keep it as a problem file. Your emotions will keep drawing you back to it.

Dreams

Especially for “excessively conscious” people—and people that know any, even popular psychology.

Write down everything you remember and underline what was “transfigured” or that seemed especially important in the dream.

Ask, what feelings does this story represent? The answer will often present itself.

Allow your sins, temptations and fantasies to lead you to your wounds and deeper needs.

Jay Stringer—what kind of sexually broken are you?

We either repeat stories of trauma from our past, or we try to reverse them.

E&E #166

Engage & Equip is a resource designed to help form substantive disciples for the local church.
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Nic and Jill talk about what meekness is and isn't.

Mentioned in the podcast:
The Necessity of Meekness on the Engage & Equip Blog

E&E #165

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Nic, Lloyd, and Jill talk about burdens, specifically around the question "How do I know my burden is God's burden?"

E&E #164

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Deborah Biddle, Vanessa McDowell, and Peggy Williams discuss life as a single Christian female and how the church can support singles. Also, some exciting news for October.

E&E #163

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At Engage & Equip: LIVE on January 13, 2020, Nic talked about our church membership covenant and what it means to belong to a covenant church.

E&E #162

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Miriam shares a bit of her personal journey, and talks with Nic and John about the message that different types of single people need to hear.

E&E #161

Engage & Equip is a resource designed to help form substantive disciples for the local church.
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Nic, John, and Niccole finish going through the list of advice for young men in this series on biblical masculinity.

Mentioned in the episode:
List of advice for young men + women: here or at highpointchurch.org/escapingbabelhandout

E&E #160

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Nic and Hannah share a sneak peek of our next sermon series, starting in January 2020.

Mentioned in the episode:
Prayer (Hunger for God) - January 2016 series
Real Spirituality - January 2017 series
Fighting for Joy - January 2018 series
The Love of God - January 2019 series

E&E #159

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Music: HOME—If I’m Wrong (youtu.be/HBynMB054zw)
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Nic, John, and Niccole continue the conversation on masculinity. Find the handout mentioned here.

E&E #158

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Engage & Equip is a resource designed to help form substantive disciples for the local church.

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In Nic’s sermon this Sunday, he talked about how our enemy is the Devil, not men. This episode is a repost of Nic’s sermon from July 15, 2018, that explains why it's reasonable to believe in spiritual beings—a common dilemma in today's highly scientific society.

E&E #157

Engage & Equip is a resource designed to help form substantive disciples for the local church.
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Music: HOME—If I’m Wrong (youtu.be/HBynMB054zw)
Remixed by John Sekutowski

Engage & Equip is a resource designed to help form substantive disciples for the local church.

Find more episodes at highpointchurch.org/podcast