Enough Factor Podcast

Have you ever asked the question, "Am I enough?" This podcast helps you to find your "YES!" Each week, you'll hear insights that will IN-POWER you to redefine what makes you enough so you can experience life and love in a brand new way.

Taking his virtual seat at the podcast table is none other than Dating and Relationship Commentator and Atlanta native Troy Vaughan. In this episode, old school meets new school as Troy and Suzette offer their unique perspectives on the question, "Can you afford to date your expectations?"  Listen as Troy makes his debut as co-host, giving a man’s perspective on some controversial issues about dating and relationships while bringing to the table viable solutions and advice.

About Troy

Troy Vaughan is a rising persona in Atlanta, quickly becoming a notable speaker and entrepreneur. Pragmatic, electric, and relatable, Troy’s energy and point-of-view on topics germane to divorce survivor-ship and transformation, dating communications, entrepreneurship, and thriving with a chronic illness has made him a promising motivational speaker and thought leader. A former patient of St. Jude’s, he is a native of Memphis, TN; holding a B.A. from Morehouse College as well as an MPH from Morehouse School of Medicine. His catch phrase “Achieve with a Vengeance”,  a message of un-yielding determination and staunch self-efficacy in the face of adversity, is both inspiring as well as galvanizing.  He is the co-founder of a widely growing organization and online community, RING|SIDE, where men and women enter the ring to debate issues like chronic singlehood, marriage, and divorce.

In this episode, Troy talks about

--How he got interested in dating and relationships
--The issues and dysfunction men and women experience in relationships
--How the old school gender roles are destroying the possibility of deep and loving relationships
--What, for him, is the biggest reason for divorce
--The effects of past heartbreaks and disappointments to both men and women and their future dating and relationships experiences

Things that made us go hmmm  

From Troy:

“I disagree with a lot of experts or a lot of people in this genre that money is the number one reason for divorce.” – Troy Vaughan

“It takes more than one person giving 100% for a marriage to work.” – Troy Vaughan

“Men, we also have to endure heartbreaks, heartaches, and disappointments and so forth just like women.” – Troy Vaughan

“[In dating] They are still basing their decisions going forward on decisions they made in the past, not wanting to replicate the same consequences and same outcomes.” – Troy Vaughan

From Suzette:

“It’s not just because of my hips, my lips, and my fingertips. it’s because I bring something of substance that would be a value to any man of substance.” – Suzette Vearnon

“Would you even want to date you?” --Suzette Vearnon 

“There’s a difference between paying for something and making an investment.” – Suzette Vearnon

“You can’t change what someone is willing to pay for your time, effort, your wonderfulness. You can only affect the value you place on yourself.” -- Suzette Vearnon

“Worth is what somebody is willing to pay.” – Suzette Vearnon

References Mentioned

RING|SIDE, LLC Website http://www.weareringside.com/
RING|SIDE, LLC Facebook Group https://web.facebook.com/groups/RINGSIDE
Troy Vaughan Facebook https://web.facebook.com/troy.l.vaughan

What were your aha moments?  We'd love to hear them!

To dive more deeply into today's episode or to get answers to specific questions, join us at Enough Factor Connect at www.facebook.com/groups/enoughfactorconnect.

Interested in being a guest? We've made it easy peasy!  Go to www.suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast to "Want To Be A Guest"! and someone from our team with contact you!

Interested in my free audio? Instantly access "How Dating Mr. Wrong Led Me To Mr. Right" now from our website, www.suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast

Thank you for listening!

Credits

Music by DH The Composer
Cover Design by Odyssey Administrative Services, LLC
Photo from the gallery of royalty free photo options on Pixteller.com

Taking her virtual seat at the podcast table is none other than the heart and soul of 50+ Women of Color, Class, Confidence and Style, Zelda Cookie Wade. Zelda shares how her heart, once isolated and lonely, is now filled by over 29,000 women from all over the world. She reveals her secret sauce and the transformation that can happen when women are revived, empowered and celebrated.

About Zelda

Zelda “Cookie” Wade is an IT professional currently working for the Smithsonian National Museum of African American History and Culture in Washington, DC. She is responsible for researching and strategically implementing many of the museum’s technological projects. Her professional career is unique and spans across all areas from real estate and construction development for Exxon Mobil Oil in the Northeast U. S to working as a Franchise Development Director with potential Franchise owners throughout the Eastcoast.

But if you ask Zelda what she’s passionate about, she’ll tell you it’s 50+Women of Color, Class, Confidence & Style. Channeling her mother’s spirit to help women, Zelda started the group to address a neglected segment of the population and to connect with other. Since starting the group in late 2016, it has grown to over 29,000+ members both domestically and internationally.

In this episode Zelda talks about

--The miracles that happen when women celebrate other women
--The unique issues women of color face
--Why it is so key to believe in yourself
--Opportunities to connect with other 50+ WCCCS women in your local area

Things that made us go hmmm

"Our challenges are different. Not only are we black women, but we’re women too."—Zelda Wade

"There are so many women out there, I’m finding, who are just lonely."—Zelda Wade
"[The group] gives people an opportunity to feel comfortable in a space that typically isn’t provided for them."—Zelda Wade

"We matter too."--Suzette Vearnon

"I believe there is a cheering section, spiritually, of people who are rooting for us."--Suzette Vearnon

“I cannot tell you the number of women who have reached out to me through instant messenging, just thanking me for creating to this group. It’s allowing them to live again!”—Zelda Wade

To join Zelda's Global 50+ WCCCS or to find a local chapter, go to...
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1649032695357608/. There, you can find more information about the October 2020 conference.

What were your aha moments? We'd love to hear them!

To dive more deeply into today's episode or to get answers to specific questions, join other Enough Warriors at Enough Factor Connect at www.facebook.com/groups/enoughfactorconnect.

Interested in my free audio?
Instantly access "How Dating Mr. Wrong Led Me To Mr. Right" at www.suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast

Interested in being a guest?
We've made it easy peasy! Go over to my website, click on "Want To Be A Guest?" and our team will contact you!

Thank you for listening!

Credits

Music by DH The Composer
Cover Design by Odyssey Administrative Services, LLC
Photo from the gallery of royalty free photo options on Pixteller.com

When was the last time you were brave--not for everybody else, for you? In this episode, Suzette brings to light the subtle yet impactful ways Life offers us opportunities to be brave. She gets to the heart of where lack of self trust can come from and your Inner Visionary who must take her place as boss of your life. Her insights are certain to amplify your voice, your value and your vision. This podcast is a must-listen for those you need to take a bold step in their own direction.

In this episode, your host Suzette Vearnon explores

--The defense mechanism in women of attending and befriending
--Why integrity with yourself is the true definition of bravery
--In what ways the people who wrote their definition on your blank slate were wrong, even those who meant you no harm.
--What you must do to be brave in a cruel world

Things that made us go hmmm

"In the absence of a strong sense of your own voice, your own value and your own vision, our husbands, our employers, even our children will give us theirs."--Suzette Vearnon

"Bosses don't ask permission, they run things."--Suzette Vearnon

"Your Inner Critic is not a visionary so she can't lead a purpose-driven life."--Suzette Vearnon

"Being brave isn't just rushing into a burning building to save someone, sometimes being brave is speaking your truth even when it's hard...sometimes being brave is betting on you when it would easier to go along to get along."--Suzette Vearnon

"That's why you can't judge someone else's bravery. You don't know what it took for them to make the decision they did."--Suzette Vearnon

What were your aha moments? We'd love to hear them!

To dive more deeply into today's episode or to get answers to specific questions, join other Enough Warriors at Enough Factor Connect, www.facebook.com/groups/enoughfactorconnect

Interested in being a guest?

We've made it easy peasy! Go to suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast for details.

Thank you for listening!

Credits

Music by DH The Composer

Cover Design by Odyssey Administrative Services, LLC

Photo from the gallery of royalty free photo options on Pixteller.com

In this episode, we get the great privilege to hear from the incredible Public Speaking Strategist, Joi Worthy Johnson! Joi is not only a force of intention when it comes to speaking but is passionate about setting an intention for living. Whether keynote speaking at a conference or communicating with your spouse, Joi teaches the power of your voice, your intention and your investment.

Joi tells us
--How to live with intention even if it makes others uncomfortable
--The importance of setting boundaries for what people get for free vs what people have to pay for
--the symbiosis between success and what you're willing to investment
--why you need to show people your value not just tell them

Things that made us go hmmm

"People can be so committed to the fantasy and be rotting on the inside."--Joi Johnson

"When was the last time that you thanked yourself for working on your behalf?"--Joi Johnson

"If you've never invested in the amount you're willing to charge, you don't think someone else will either."--Joi Johnson

"Leaving the relationship is easy but investing is hard."--Joi Johnson

"Stop bartering!"--Joi Johnson

"People will find a way to pay you, to compensate you, if you show the value."--Joi Johnson

For all things Joi Johnson

The Joi Method: https://www.facebook.com/themotivationalarchitect/
Official website: http://www.joiwjohnson.com/hello/

What were your aha moments? We'd love to hear them!

To dive more deeply into today's episode or to get answers to specific questions, join other Enough Warriors at Enough Factor Connect, our dynamic Facebook community.

Interested in my free audio?
Instantly access "How Dating Mr. Wrong Led Me To Mr. Right" now from my official website, www.suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast

Interested in being a guest?
We've made it easy peasy! Go over to my website, click on "Want To Be A Guest?" and our team will contact you!

Thank you for listening!

Credits

Music by DH The Composer

Cover Design by Odyssey Administrative Services, LLC

Photo was from the gallery of royalty free photo options on Pixteller.com

Master Life Strategist & LifeStyle Coach Andrenee Boothe is the Founder and CEO of Andrenee's Corner, a Sacred Space in the World where Women's lives are enhanced with practical life strategies to help women be the best version of themselves. Her coaching philosophy is rooted in spiritual principles, strategic planning, inspired action and implementation. She is also the Leader of a thriving Facebook Community called Fly & Fearless Woman. With her signature program, The Sacred Project, she has given women all over the world the permission to see themselves as the Magnificent beings they truly are, and as result, they have manifested dreams they once thought were only imaginable.

Episode Summary:
In this powerful episode, Master Life Strategist Andrenee Boothe goes underneath the skin of why women over-give. She deconstructs the inner workings of your inner critic.  She tells you how to change the conversation so your inner critic recognizes who's in charge. And she gives you tools to reconstruct the you--the real you--who will choose you...first.

In this episode, Andrenee offers insights into

--How you get past your Inner Critic to access your Inner Value
--How your daily regimen sets the stage for who is in charge of your life
--The importance of Divinely Appointed voices that awaken the sound of your own voice
--The mindset that brings more into your life

Things that made us go hmmm

"When you don't know the value that you bring, nothing will ever be enough."--Andrenee Boothe

"When I realized my Inner Critic wasn't going anywhere, I realized I had to have a different kind of conversation with her."--Andrenee Boothe

"When you are in certain church arenas, you can't hear your own voice."--Andrenee Boothe

"God is not holding any grudges against you. God is not mad at you."--Andrenee Boothe

"You've got to have enough courage to walk away from what no longer serves you."--Andrenee Boothe

"Choose you."--Andrenee Boothe

"When you celebrate where you are now, you make room for more."--Andrenee Boothe

What were your aha moments?  We'd love to hear them!

To dive more deeply into today's episode or to get answers to specific questions, join other Enough Warriors at Enough Factor Connect, www.facebook.com/groups/enoughfactorconnect  

For all things Andrenee Boothe

Go to http://www.andrenee.com. There, you'll find her resources referenced in this podcast...and more!

Interested in being a guest?

We've made it easy peasy!  Go to suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast and submit your request.

Thank you for listening!

Credits:
Music by DH The Composer
Cover Design by Odyssey Administrative Services, LLC
Photo was from the gallery of royalty free photo options on Pixteller.com

Do you bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan and never never let him forget he's the man? While that might work for the Enjoli perfume commercial, it doesn't work for your relationship.  Doing too much too early in your relationships, though a common mistake of the high achieving, seldom gives you what you really really want.  This episode cuts through the denial and gives a compelling argument for why you should stop doing so much!

In this episode, your host Suzette Vearnon examines

--Why your making things easier on your man doesn't make him appreciate you more
--What makes you shine the brightest in your relationships
--The right side and the wrong side of dating
--The root of mistrust

Things that made us go hmmm

"If the man is only in a relationship with you because he has an assignment for you in his life...then he's not the one"

"Women who leave themselves for the other person betray themselves"

"I came out feeling more empowered because I figured out that I could be trusted."

"If it's not already inside of you to betray yourself, then a person cannot convince you to betray yourself."

What were your aha moments? We'd love to hear them!

To dive more deeply into today's episode or to get answers to specific questions, join other Enough Warriors at Enough Factor Connect, www.facebook.com/groups/enoughfactorconnect. After each episode, Suzette does a Facebook Live commentary about her aha moments.

Interested in the free audio, "How Dating Mr. Wrong Led Me To Mr. Right"? Get it at www.suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast.

Interested in being a guest?

We've made it easy peasy!  Go to www.suzettesolutions.com/ourpodcast for details.

Credits

Music by DH The Composer

Cover Design by Odyssey Administrative Services, LLC

Photo was from the gallery of royalty free photo options on Pixteller.com

Why Enough Factor Podcast? Because we all struggle with the question, "Am I enough?"  And rather than talk about it, we get busy trying to prove to ourselves and others that we are.  One problem though.  Seldom if ever is that ever enough.  That's why we're here.  To help you to write your own definition - yours alone - of what makes you enough so you can have a brand new experience of living and loving.  For you see, the answer is not in the mouths of other people.  The answer is within you! 

In this first episode, your host Suzette Vearnon examines

Why Voice, Value and Vision are critical to your enough definition
Who you are really trying to convince that you are enough and why that matters
The deception of overachieving
Things that made us go hmmm

"The efforts of those around me to lighten what was dark and straighten what was coily sent a clear message even though I was too young to understand the words."

"You see, believing we are enough only works to the extent that we respect what makes us enough."

"When you ask yourself 'Am I Enough?' " who are you trying to convince?"

What were your aha moments?  We'd love to hear them!

To dive more deeply into today's episode or to get answers to specific questions, join other Enough Warriors at Enough Factor Connect, www.facebook.com/groups/enoughfactorconnect  

Interested in being a guest?

We've made it easy peasy!  Click here and someone from our team will contact you!  

Thank you for listening!

Credits

Music: DH The Composer (www.instagram.com/dhthecomposer)