Patricia and Nicole offer some coming out advice for folks who are queer and haven't yet shared it (and want to). We share some of our own coming out process and talk about what decisions we made and why. We also talk about what was useful and what things went a little sideways in our coming out process, including some incredibly awkward situations. There is no one right way to come out and so we try to offer a variety of advice for other queer folks.

Mentioned on the show:

• New Patreon Tier!

• Shrubs: An Old-Fashioned Drink for Modern Times by Michael Dietsch

• The Stonewall Reader edited by Jason Baumann & the New York Public Library (or get it on Libro.fm)

• Stand in Pride

• Omnivore Books on Food

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Patricia and Nicole give a Queer 101 for straight folks who want to learn more about Pride and the queer community but don't know where to start. We examine and define the initialism 2SLGBTQIA+ and offer some tips on supporting queer friends, family, and coworkers. Some folks are intimidated when searching the web for basic information on the queer community. It can be overwhelming or sometimes, just plain wrong information if they don't know where to search. For queer folks, it can be exhausting to be forced into the role of "educator." We've made this episode for both groups of people. It's a place for straight folks to learn some foundational information and get recommendations for further resources and for our queer community to be able to pass this episode on to lift some of that "educator" burden.

Clarifying note: We mention that the term "heterosexual" refers mostly to cisgender men and cisgender women and we failed to also add that yes, cisgender, transgender, and nonbinary folks in relationships with other cisgender, transgender, and nonbinary folks can also be heterosexual. Everyone has the right to self-identify and choose the labels that are the best fit. We used the word "mostly" to cover this but we want to be really explicit here and we will reiterate this point in the next episode.

Mentioned on the show:

• New Patreon Tier!

• Trans Legislation Tracker

• ACLU anti-LGBTQ bills tracker

• A Quick & Easy Guide to Asexuality by Molly Muldoon & Will Hernandez

• A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni & Tristan Jimerson

• A Quick & Easy Guide to Queer & Trans Identities by Mady G & Jules Zuckerberg

• 1969: The Stonewall Uprising via Library of Congress

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Patricia and Nicole help demystify seeking an ADHD diagnosis, provide information to help you decide if seeking an ADHD diagnosis is right for you, and discuss how to seek an ADHD diagnosis. We talk about what may happen during ADHD testing, the validity of online ADHD testing, and what the different steps may be to seeking an ADHD diagnosis. We also chat about potential ADHD treatments and of course, some of the problems with the DSM-5-TR, why a person might not want to seek a diagnosis, barriers and privilege around diagnosis, and more.

Quick corrections: We are aware that the DSM is published by the American Psychiatric Association, not the American Psychological Association, both of which use APA as their abbreviation. Also for clarity, Nicole says, "Executive Dysfunction" then provides a definition for "Executive Functioning"

Mentioned on the show:

• DSM-5-TR information from the APA

• Buy the DSM-5-TR

• Overview of the people behind the DSM-5

• DSM-5 Criteria For ADHD: How Is Adult ADHD Evaluated? via add.org

• Wait. Am I ADHD? with Dr. Sasha Hamdani via Struggle Care Podcast

• Dr. Sasha Hamdani @thepsychdoctormd on Instagram

• The planners we use

• ADHD Test For Adults based on World Health Organization guidelines that we mentioned

• How to get a free or low-cost private evaluation via Understood.org

• Wicked movie trailer

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Patricia and Nicole share advice on how to find a therapist that is right for you regardless of your identity with added advice for folks who are queer and/or BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color). Finding a therapist can be inaccessible, difficult, and overwhelming, and in this episode we try to demystify and simplify the process. We offer not only advice on how to find a therapist that meets your needs and finding therapists for a diverse range of identities, but we also talk about why a person might want to go to therapy at all.

Mentioned on the show:

• Types of Therapy via Psychology Today

• Dope Therapy: A Radical Guide to Owning Your Therapy Journey by Shani Tran

• EEDA Newsletter Volume 1, Resources 11: A Bit of Therapy, As a Treat - includes crisis line links, resources to help you figure out if therapy is right for you, and resources on finding affordable therapy

• EEDA Newsletter Vol 5, Iss 5: How to Find a Therapist - includes template for initial email to potential therapists, recommended therapist consultation questions (and resources to more), links to further resources on finding a therapist, long list of diverse therapist directories, and more

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Patricia and Nicole chat about their upcoming wedding anniversary and share their tradition of rereading their vows every year. They talk about how the ways in which their vows have helped them maintain their romantic relationship and how they have been really useful in friendships and family relationships, too. It's a bit of queer relationship advice that might actually be helpful!

Mentioned on the show:

• The Feel Wheel by Geoffrey Roberts

• Emotion Sensation Wheel by Lindsay Braman (or you can download it here)

• Tea & Empathy by Kate Kenfield

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Patricia and Nicole are back to continue their chat about how effing rad public libraries are. They share some of the free online resources that they've encountered through public libraries and go down a lot of rabbit holes.

Mentioned on the show:

• Hila Gelato

• Octavia Lab at the Los Angeles Public Library

• Gideon the Ninth (Locked Tomb Series) by Tamsyn Muir

• Wake: The Hidden History of Women-Led Slave Revolts by Rebecca Hall, illustrated by Hugo Martinez

• WorldCat.org

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Patricia and Nicole chat about how effing rad public libraries are and share some of the free in-person resources that they've encountered at their local libraries. There are so many amazing things available at some public libraries that they had to cut this library love letter into multiple episodes.

Mentioned on the show:

• Move Over, Melvil! Momentum Grows to Eliminate Bias and Racism in the 145-year-old Dewey Decimal System via School Library Journal

• The Best Libraries You Can Get a Card for Out of State via Book Riot

• Digital Public Library of America

• Queer Liberation Library

• Library of Congress

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Patricia and Nicole chat about imposter syndrome, how many of us underestimate our abilities, bartending, and high ropes courses.

This episode is based on Enthusiastic Encouragement & Dubious Advice "Volume 2, Issue 1: You Can Do the Thing"

Mentioned on the show:

• Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America by Ijeoma Oluo

• The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls by Mona Eltahawy

• For the Love of April French by Penny Aimes

• The Risk It Takes to Bloom: On Life and Liberation by Raquel Willis

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Patricia and Nicole chat about all the wonderful things sending and receiving snail mail has to offer as well as some of the common things holding folks back from this super effective relationship-building activity. They also make a special announcement for the first 60 Patreon subscribers!

This episode is based on Enthusiastic Encouragement & Dubious Advice "Volume 1, Issue 14: The One Where I Am A Snail Mail Evangelist."

Mentioned on the show:

• Pasta Every Day: Make It, Shape It, Sauce It, Eat It by Meryl Feinstein

• Pasta Social Club on Instagram

• Post Secret (it still exists!)

• You Feel Like Sh**

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Patricia and Nicole chat about the not-so-secret primary causes of burnout and what you can (and can't) do about it.

This episode is based on Enthusiastic Encouragement & Dubious Advice Volume 1, Issue 5: Prepping for Meltdowns, Volume 3, Issue 18: On Burnout and Individual Responsibility, and Volume 4, Issue 7: Filling the Well

Mentioned on the show:

• Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA

• Spell Slot Theory episode

• Already Enough: A Path to Self-Acceptance by Lisa Olivera

• Yousician

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