If you search Google on selfishness, the majority of entries will  tell you that you have to be selfish to look after yourself and to  succeed in life. You are ensuring that you are contributing to society  and not a burden. It is a sort of natural selfishness and is closely  related to our survival. It must take priority over helping others.  Pretty harmless, you might think…

Then you will find entries on what is termed ‘bad selfishness’ where  people exploit others, commit criminal acts to gain money or power by  means of fraud, dishonesty and violence. Very nasty, you might shudder…

I have given two rather extreme examples above, but have you thought  about more subtle ways in which you may have been selfish unknowingly?  Here are 10 examples of the way selfish people behave and without even realizing it.

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-signs-youre-actually-very-selfish-though-you-havent-noticed.html