Even if I’m no longer the EIC of Cosmopolitan, I still get a lot of DMs asking, “Paano ba lumandi?”  mostly from women in their 30s and 40s who are re-entering the dating scene, never really learned how to flirt and make the first move, or have lost their confidence in leveling up their landi game. Unfortunately, I’m out of practice when it comes to this (except with internal landi with my husband of 14 years), so I decided to outsource this topic to the viral Queen of Landi, Joelle.

While she always stresses that she is not a psychologist or relationship expert, the frank, fearless, feminist, and sound dating and relationship tips she dispenses has catapulted her TikTok account Joelle Oh Well to half-a-million follower fame! Also gaining ground is her podcast called Paano Kung? where she explores all the possibilities in life, love, and landi. A professional voice artist, events host, DJ, experience collector, and storyteller, Joelle has come to be known for the mantra she admonishes all her dating disciples with: “Remember, Wag Tanga!”