“If love truly is enough, why aren’t there more people in relationships? And why aren’t people happier than they appear to be when they're together?” asks relationship coach Nikki Porter, whose mission is to help women and men pursue a deeper, more grounded love for themselves and their romantic partners.

So, yes, cliché aside, learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all. It’s not easy, and takes a lot of work—inner work, but not doing it can negatively impact the quality of your relationships, especially your romantic ones. In this episode, Nikki helps you get started in doing the work so you can become a better partner and better you in relationships, just as she does in her podcast Nuggets of Nikki. She is also a radio jock for Monster RX93.1, where she hosts two shows, GoodVibes and Heard On Thursdays.