When correcting others, try not to spray should all over them.  

Shoulding always comes from a place of critical judgment, and not from understanding, respect, and compassion. Shoulding can damage self esteem, create a toxic environment, damage morale, reduce productivity, increase sick-days, and increase employee turnover. 

If you replace shoulding with active listening, respect, and compassion, your world will change.  Compliance will increase, relationships will be optimal, stress will lower, and everyone will benefit. 

This skill is helpful in everyone's life. 

Thank you to my good friend Aaron Butt for inspiring me to put this together. 

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