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“When we feel controlled, we don’t just resist—we react.” This episode unpacks why we push back, even when it hurts us. Ever feel the urge to do the exact opposite of what someone tells you—even if you wanted to do it before they spoke? That’s not stubbornness, it’s psychological reactance—a deep, wired-in response to feeling controlled. In this episode of The Therapy Podcast, we explore the science of reactance, how it shows up in relationships, therapy, parenting, and everyday interactions, and why even well-meaning advice can trigger pushback. Plus, learn practical tools to lower resistance and communicate in ways that protect autonomy and build trust. Like this kind of insight? Grab my book The Therapy Toolbox—available now on Amazon—for more real-world strategies backed by psychology.
By Shloime Balsam3.4
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“When we feel controlled, we don’t just resist—we react.” This episode unpacks why we push back, even when it hurts us. Ever feel the urge to do the exact opposite of what someone tells you—even if you wanted to do it before they spoke? That’s not stubbornness, it’s psychological reactance—a deep, wired-in response to feeling controlled. In this episode of The Therapy Podcast, we explore the science of reactance, how it shows up in relationships, therapy, parenting, and everyday interactions, and why even well-meaning advice can trigger pushback. Plus, learn practical tools to lower resistance and communicate in ways that protect autonomy and build trust. Like this kind of insight? Grab my book The Therapy Toolbox—available now on Amazon—for more real-world strategies backed by psychology.

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