How to Glow: The Jewish Woman's Marriage Boost

Ep. 56 - The Marriage You Want / Should I Get a Divorce?


Listen Later

2019 was the year of the podcast at First Year Married (we passed 40k!!!). I’ve been honored to meet you, to have your sisters and friends get hooked, to introduce this work I’m so passionate about. Thank you everyone!! 

2020 is going to be the year of group coaching. It’s time to take this work and really dive deep and apply it. Improving our marriages improves every area of our life, and it’s the best place to work on this thought work, which is then a piece of cake to apply elsewhere in our lives. 

Group Coaching Details:

  • NOT just for newlyweds (and therefore I need name ideas)
  • Monthly focus video
  • Worksheets and journal pages
  • Twice monthly calls
  • Whatsapp group
  • Sign up at FirstYearMarried.com/course -- all participants get 3 months of group coaching for free, then can continue on from there!
  • The Marriage You Want. Here's what I hear...

    • My husband is great but still want a divorce
    • I don't want a divorce, but he drives me crazy
    • I'm not showing up how I want, I get in a funk or I'm mean
    • I'm not measuring up to the wife I have in mind, the one who always has a clean house, makes delicious meals, never gets angry, always feels loving -- even if intellectually I know that’s all ridiculous
    • Here’s the thing. If you are unhappy in your marriage it's ALWAYS because of your THOUGHTS.

      Example: husband not helping

      "If he’d only be more involved... if he’d do what I needed... if he’d tell me to get to bed when I’m obviously falling apart..."

      So let’s say you cook a delicious dinner. You leave work even though you’d rather stay and finish a few things up, shlep to the store, get all the ingredients from this fancy Pinterest recipe you found, slave in the kitchen, you’re starving because now it’s already 8 PM and he’s come in three times to sniff around… and now he reaches into the cabinet and takes out a box of crackers and sits down on the couch to eat them. Now you’re fuming, you’re resentful, what’s happening here?

      You're cooking, and he's eating.

      That's it.

      This is all about awareness. It really does feel like he’s the problem, I know. And the obvious solution is -- at least in theory -- to switch him out for a newer model. But here’s the thing-- wherever you go, there you are. So even if you ultimately make a choice to end the marriage, even if I give you that, don’t do it because you haven’t taken responsibility for your own feelings. Don’t do it because your brain is running wild and you aren’t paying attention.

      Don't forget to sign up for the free course at FirstYearMarried.com/course or watch the free introductory video at FirstYearMarried.com

      ...more
      View all episodesView all episodes
      Download on the App Store

      How to Glow: The Jewish Woman's Marriage BoostBy Kayla Levin

      • 4.9
      • 4.9
      • 4.9
      • 4.9
      • 4.9

      4.9

      177 ratings


      More shows like How to Glow: The Jewish Woman's Marriage Boost

      View all
      The Office of Rabbi Sacks by Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks

      The Office of Rabbi Sacks

      532 Listeners

      Be Impactful by Impact Fashion by Rivky Itzkowitz: Founder at Impact Fashion

      Be Impactful by Impact Fashion

      99 Listeners

      Dear Alice | Interior Design by Alice Lane

      Dear Alice | Interior Design

      1,497 Listeners

      Living with Emunah by Rabbi Efrem Goldberg

      Living with Emunah

      91 Listeners

      Meaningful People by Meaningful Minute

      Meaningful People

      1,966 Listeners

      From the Inside Out: With Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein by Rivkah and Eda

      From the Inside Out: With Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein

      249 Listeners

      Call Me Back - with Dan Senor by Ark Media

      Call Me Back - with Dan Senor

      3,155 Listeners

      The Times of Israel Daily Briefing by The Times of Israel

      The Times of Israel Daily Briefing

      1,068 Listeners

      Honestly with Bari Weiss by The Free Press

      Honestly with Bari Weiss

      8,721 Listeners

      Kosher Money by Living Lchaim

      Kosher Money

      794 Listeners

      Gedale Fenster - Podcast by Gedale Fenster - Podcast

      Gedale Fenster - Podcast

      377 Listeners

      Inspiration for the Nation with Yaakov Langer by Living Lchaim

      Inspiration for the Nation with Yaakov Langer

      1,073 Listeners

      We Are More Than Moms by Peoples Media

      We Are More Than Moms

      61 Listeners

      Stories Of Hope With Tzipora Grodko by Meaningful Minute

      Stories Of Hope With Tzipora Grodko

      280 Listeners

      Ask Haviv Anything by Haviv Rettig Gur

      Ask Haviv Anything

      658 Listeners