Heather Boyd, occupational therapist and mom of 3, shares ways that separation-based advice backfires and what to do instead.

When parents get advice that involves separation without any focus on attachment, it can block a parent's ability to help their children regulate.  Whether it’s daytime meltdowns or bedtime shenanigans, separation can feel very alarming.

Listen to this episode for examples of bad separation-based advice that Heather wishes she’d ignored early on in parenting, and what to do instead.  

With attachment-based perspectives and tools, as well as self-regulation tools for parents, the focus shifts to connection and co-regulation.

And with connection and co-regulation, the alarm of separation can soften.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Gordon Neufeld: “Speak but not too much.  Be close but not too close” www.neufeldinstitute.com

• Kim Barthell: Be a behavioural detective.  www.kimbarthel.ca

• Parent Self-Care Toolkit https://heatherboyd.vipmembervault.com/products/units/view/1239883/?lesson=1601156

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 🎵 Music: Jordan Wood