August 25, 2025

Episode 138 - Pleasure Without Limits: Navigating Identity and Desire with Carta Monir

1 hour 8 minutes

Content Warning: Please be advised that this episode contains discussions of potentially sensitive topics, including trauma, emotional distress, and body image issues. If you're not in a place to handle this content right now, please prioritize your well-being and join us for a future episode. If you are in crisis, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, or text HOME to 741741 to connect with the Crisis Text Line. Your safety and care are important.

Episode Description: In this engaging interview, our hosts, Mx Dizzy and Marquis Pup Rekkr are joined by Carta Monir as she shares her journey as a trans woman, disabled artist, and sex worker, offering a raw and insightful look into how her identities shape her understanding of pleasure, pain, and self-expression. She discusses her early experiences with kink, highlighting how her evolving self-awareness both post-transition and as her disability progressed, opened new avenues for exploring BDSM and eroticism. Carta emphasizes the importance of honesty and vulnerability in her artistic work, using her writing and visuals to challenge societal shame and foster acceptance around taboo topics like disability fetishism, transness, and non-monogamy. She advocates for a non-judgmental approach to kink, emphasizing that all desires are valid and that exploring them can be empowering, especially for marginalized communities.

Throughout the conversation, Carta also explores how her physical limitations influence her sexual practices, sharing creative adaptations that allow her to participate safely and comfortably. She talks about the significance of ethical non-monogamy in building community, trust, and intimacy, especially as a disabled trans woman, and reflects on her approach to safe sex, health, and boundaries. Her openness about her journey with hormone therapy, her work in sex-positive art and porn, and her efforts to destigmatize fetishization of disability make her a powerful voice for liberation, self-acceptance, and community building in the kink and sex-positive worlds. Her story encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and explore their desires without shame.

Guest Links and Episode Resources (not an endorsement/review by TKT):

http://allmylinks.com/XXXcartaXXX
https://defector.com/nerves-nerves-nerves
https://bsky.app/profile/cartamonir.com
https://bsky.app/profile/morecarta.bsky.social
https://www.instagram.com/yourgirlfriendcarta
http://instagram.com/cartaslibrary/
https://www.instagram.com/cartamylove/
https://archive.org/details/@cartamonir
Huge Pages | Carta Monir
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