Episode 56 - For Beau Delacroix, kink isn’t just play. It’s art, storytelling, and self-expression.

In this episode, I go behind the scenes with Beau to talk about how creativity and control come together in his work as a Dom, content creator, and artist. From filming erotic stories to crafting toys by hand, Beau shares how intention, aesthetics, and vulnerability shape every scene he creates.

We talk about the balance between dominance and empathy, how to lead with emotional intelligence, and what it means to create art that feels both erotic and human. Beau also opens up about masculinity, shame, and why letting go of perfection is often the most liberating part of creation both in kink and in life.

If you’ve ever been curious about the artistry behind BDSM or how creators like Beau turn fantasy into something real, this episode is your invitation to step behind the curtain.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Journey into Content Creation

20:46 Living Openly and Embracing Kink

22:59 Navigating Kink Dynamics in Relationships

27:07 Teaching Kink to Long-Term Partners

30:44 Crafting and Sharing Kink Implements

33:34 Balancing Control in Kink and Personal Life

40:08 Finding Kinky Partners in the Modern Dating World

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Episode 56 - In this episode, I sit down with my friend Aubrey Aust, a relational psychology and philosophy researcher from NYU, to unpack the psychology behind BDSM, fantasy, and desire. We talk about how kink can become a space for healing, a “relational laboratory” for exploring trust, safety, and selfhood.

Aubrey and I go deep on Freud, daddy issues, jealousy, and why honesty about desire is non-negotiable. We explore how shame can block intimacy, what embodiment really feels like, and how the dynamics of dominance and submission mirror our earliest emotional patterns. Whether you’re a dom, sub, switch, or just curious about the psychology behind play, this conversation will have you thinking about kink in a whole new way.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Exploring Fantasy and Desire Through BDSM

(02:45) Revisiting Freud and Modern Sexual Psychology

(10:45) The Power of Honesty in Desire and Connection

(15:00) Working With Kinky and Non-Kinky Partners

(21:00) Embodiment, Boundaries, and Somatic Awareness

(29:00) Can Kink Be Therapeutic?

(34:00) Relational Energy and Co-Regulation

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Episode 55 - Let’s talk about back door play, the kind of pleasure that deserves way more hype (and way less shame).

In this episode, I sit down with Annette Benedetti, host of Talk Sex with Annette and certified sex and intimacy coach, to unpack everything you’ve ever wanted to know about exploring the back door. We get into how to prepare, what to expect, and how to make it fun, safe, and insanely pleasurable for everyone involved.

Annette shares her real-life guide; from her favorite toys and plugs to lube tips, comfort positions, and how to talk about it without awkwardness. We also discuss why communication and consent are the ultimate turn-ons, how to handle nerves (and mess), and why curiosity should always come before shame.

If you’ve ever been curious about trying backdoor play but weren’t sure where to start, this episode gives you all the confidence, info, and laughter you need to make it your new favorite adventure.

Episode Highlights

(00:00) The Myth of Virginity and the Power of Experience

(12:00) Exploring the Backdoor: Tips, Prep, and Cleanliness

(18:00) Backdoor Toys, Training Kits, and Plug Preferences

(29:00) Safety Tips, Hygiene, and Aftercare

(32:00) Understanding Partners, Boundaries, and Communication

(38:00) Breaking Shame and Making Pleasure Normal

Connect with Annette: 

https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/

www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette

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Episode 54 - In this episode, I sit down with Lee, founder of ConCations, the company behind Kinky Cruise and Kinky Caribbean, to talk about what really happens when the kink world hits the high seas. We get into how these cruises came to life, what makes them so different from your typical hotel takeovers, and why so many people leave feeling more connected than ever to themselves, their partners, and the community.

Lee also opens up about his own 24/7 power exchange dynamic, what it’s like juggling kink, family, and polyamory, and why these events are about so much more than sex. They’re about finding your people, building real intimacy, and creating spaces where everyone belongs.

If you’ve ever wanted to explore lifestyle travel or just love the idea of a vacation where consent, connection, and play come first, this episode will have you ready to pack your cuffs (and maybe your sunscreen).

Episode Highlights

(00:00) From Weekend Cons to Weeklong Connections

(10:00) Bridging Swingers and Kinksters with Swinkation

(20:00) High Protocol vs. Everyday Power Exchange

(33:00) Beach Parties, Dungeons, and Sex-Positive Play

(39:00) Connecting Before the Cruise Starts

(41:00) Why This Is Perfect for Beginners

Join the next Kinky Cruise! Head to https://www.ConCations.com and use the code TKC50 for fifty dollars off your booking!

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Episode 53 - In this episode, I sit down with Shelby Devlin, Somatica-certified sex and relationship coach, BDSM educator, and author of The Pleasure Protocol, to talk about her journey from working at a San Francisco fetish boutique to becoming one of the most respected BDSM coaches in the field. We talk about Barbie bondage beginnings, the psychology of power, and why shame-free exploration is the gateway to pleasure that actually lasts.

If you’ve ever wanted to understand how BDSM can become a path toward self-awareness, healing, and deeper connection, this conversation is for you.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Barbie Bondage and Early Curiosity

(12:00) How Somatica Training Changed Everything

(18:00) Combining Somatic Touch and BDSM Coaching

(23:00) Healing Shame and Building Safety Through Play

(38:00) Communication, Consent, and Aftercare 101

Connect with Shelby

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In this episode, I talk with Kathy Kay, host of the Strictly Anonymous podcast and author of Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. We get into how her hit podcast began with Craigslist ads, how she’s collected over 1,200 real-life sex stories, and what she’s learned about desire, shame, and human nature along the way.

Kathy and I dive into the wildest stories from her new book; from 50 gangbangs to secret throuples, and women discovering their sexuality later in life. We talk about how these confessions reveal the truth about what people really want, how she keeps it all anonymous, and why storytelling is the key to normalizing desire without shame.

If you’ve ever been curious about the fantasies people keep hidden or just love hearing real stories that prove no one is as “normal” as they seem, this episode is going to be your new guilty pleasure.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) How Strictly Anonymous Confessions Was Born

(09:00) The Stories Behind the Book

(18:00) Shame, Desire, and Owning Your Pleasure

(23:00) Normalizing Nontraditional Relationships

(35:00) Why People Crave Anonymity and Confession

Get A Copy of the Book: https://tinyurl.com/43jpfsdh

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Episode 52 - What happens when your relationship is built on trust, power exchange, and pushing limits together?

In this episode, I sit down with Lucas and Hazel of Ripped Digital to talk about what it really takes to live and create on the more extreme side of BDSM. From navigating risk and safety in hardcore play to building a 24/7 power exchange dynamic, Lucas and Hazel share openly about their relationship, their porn production, and why empathy and trust are at the heart of everything they do.

We dive into what it means to eroticize shame, how fantasies differ from reality, why safety tools like negotiation checklists and aftercare rituals matter, and how they’ve turned their personal kinks into a professional life that still feels authentic. If you’ve ever wanted to understand what happens behind the scenes of extreme kink content or how couples can thrive while exploring the edges of BDSM,  this is one you won’t want to miss.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Risk Awareness, Safety, and Harm Reduction

(06:00) Negotiation, Trust, and First-Time Scenes

(12:00) Eroticizing Shame and Exploring Taboo Fantasies

(21:00) Aligning Public and Private Kink Identities

(30:00) Sadism, Empathy, and Keeping Power in Check

(41:00) Why Authentic Headspace Matters More than Scripted Porn

(47:00) Cinematic Fantasies and Bucket List Scenes

(53:00) Creating Content that Feels Real and Experiential

Connect with Hazel and Lucas 

⁠https://ripped.digital/scenes/Home-Movies-Lucas-and-his-little_vids.html⁠

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Episode 51 - Ever wondered what really goes down on a Temptation Cruise? Think clothing-optional pool decks, wild theme nights, and the kind of freedom you definitely don’t get on a regular vacation.

In this episode, I sit down with Mario Cruz, the Cruise Director who knows all the secrets, to share why these couples-only trips keep selling out. From first-timers finding their confidence to hands-on BDSM workshops and sensual massage classes, Mario gives us a peek behind the curtain at what really makes Temptation Cruises unforgettable.

If you’ve ever thought about lifestyle travel or just want to know why people call this “spring break for adults,” this is the episode that will have you ready to pack your bags.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) What Happens Inside The Temptation Cruises

(04:05) Exploring the Lifestyle on Board

(06:56) Cruise Itineraries and Destinations

(11:33) Educational Workshops and Activities

(17:34) Booking Information and Upcoming Cruises

Join the Temptation Cruises

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Episode 50 - Back on The Kink Consultant, Larah Sky shares what really goes down when you’re running chastity challenges like Sexless September and Locktober. From easy-mode orgasm schedules to full denial, she breaks down why men keep signing up for chastity plans and what keeps them coming back for more. We also get into the chaos of OnlyFans rules, the viral TikToks that blew up her business, and why chastity has become one of the most talked-about kinks online.

If you’ve been thinking about trying chastity, or just want to know what makes it so addictive, this episode gives you the inside scoop (and a good laugh along the way).

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Sexless September and Chastity Challenges

(09:29) Chastity and Sissy Play

(15:49) Challenges with Content Platforms

(19:56) Challenges and Strategies on OnlyFans

(22:27) Content Restrictions

(32:01) Chastity World and Future Plans

Connect with Larah Sky

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https://www.larahsky.com

https://www.larahsky.co.uk

https://www.chastity.world

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Episode 49 - What makes something a kink, and what makes it a fetish? And can you find your life partner when you either? 

In this episode, I sit down in person with content creator and professional dom, Miz Darling to explore the deep, messy, and meaningful world of fetish. From spanking and feet, to nylons and cuckolding, we unpack what makes a fetish different from a kink, how these desires form, and how they show up in long-term love and relationships. We also talk about the book we’re co-writing, Complicated Pleasures, and why it was important to tell real stories of fetishists navigating relationships, intimacy, and identity.

This episode isn’t just about what turns people on, it’s about how to stay connected when your desires don’t fit the script. Tune in to learn why fetish is really about power, communication, and finding romance in the most unexpected places.

Episode Highlights:

(0:00) Exploring Common Fetishes

(12:29) Introducing the Book Project: Complicated Pleasures

(14:19) The Stigma Around Fetishes

(15:08) Exploring Relationship Dynamics

(19:51) Personal Experiences with Fetishes

(22:53) Embracing Your Sexuality

(27:00) How to Get Involved

Submit Your Stories:

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More details about the book: https://complicatedpleasures.ca/

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