Not sure what to expect on a kinky cruise? You're about to find out, and it's way more fun (and safe) than you think! 

In this episode, I’m not just going to have one, not two, but four guests! I sit down with Lee from Concasions and the powerhouse team behind Carnivale Risqué (Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidian) to talk about what it's really like on a kinky cruise. These industry veterans have been teaching kink at lifestyle parties for over a decade, and they break down how they turned empty dungeons into packed playspaces by making BDSM approachable, glamorous, and fun. We dig into the upcoming Kinky Cruise in April, what to expect as a first-timer, how consent culture creates the safest party spaces, and why "swingsters" (swingers + kinksters) are now a whole community. They also get real about living as a throuple, teaching workshops on unleashing your authentic self, and why vulnerability is the sexiest thing you can bring to any relationship.

This episode is part prep guide, part inspiration, and 100% permission to explore. If you've been thinking about attending a lifestyle event or just want to understand what makes these spaces so magnetic, this conversation will get you ready to dive in.

Don’t let the Kinky Cruise sail without you! Go to http://www.kinkycruise.com and use the code TKC50 to get $50 off

Download the Bliss Cruise app and Celebrity Cruise app to plan your schedule

Connect with Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidian

https://carnivalerisque.com/

https://www.instagram.com/carnivalerisque/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063613538670

Connect with Amanda

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https://www.amandadames.com/thereadinglist

Better sex isn't a luxury, it's accessible. And if you're not exploring what's out there to improve your intimacy, you're leaving pleasure on the table.

In this episode, I get to sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, for an honest conversation about sexual wellness, performance anxiety, and why 70% of people using delay spray don't even have premature ejaculation, they just want better sex. Jeff shares his unexpected journey from semiconductor engineering to running a sexual wellness company, and breaks down the real stats on the "arousal gap" (spoiler: the average man lasts 5 minutes and 42 seconds while the average woman needs 18 minutes). We dig into why delay products have gotten a bad rap, how Promescent's formula is different, and what Vita Flux can do for blood flow, libido, and natural lubrication. Jeff also gets real about communication, foreplay that starts hours before sex, and why vulnerability is the foundation of great intimacy.

This episode is practical, sex-positive, and full of solutions. If you want better connection, longer-lasting sex, or just want to level up your intimacy game, this conversation will give you the tools to do it.

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Episode Highlights:

00:00 Changing the Conversation Around Intimacy

27:34 Exploring Sexual Frequency and Refractory Periods

29:19 The Impact of Good Intimacy on Attraction

31:38 Addressing Anxiety and Intimacy

33:30 Menopause and Women's Sexual Health

35:36 Innovations in Female Arousal Products

40:21 The Rise of Male Masturbatory Products

53:58 The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships

Connect with Jeff Abraham 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/technicalresources/

https://www.promescent.com/

Connect with Amanda

https://www.amandadames.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/

Joins the Couples Retreat

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Non-monogamy isn't actually that complicated…our fear of talking about it is. And that fear keeps way too many people stuck pretending they want something they don't.

In this episode, I sit down with Samia Mounts, creator and host of the ClosetEd podcast, for a raw conversation about non-monogamy, jealousy, and why emotional maturity matters more than the number of partners you have. Samia shares her journey from believing in "the one" to discovering she's wired for multiple loves. We talk about her marriage that became a friendship, navigating new relationship energy, and the difference between boundaries and control. She gets real about the mistakes she made, the red flags she ignored, and what it takes to build trust when relationships shift.

If you have ever felt like you were meant to love more than one person and had no idea what to do with that truth, this conversation is for you.

Episode Highlights: 

00:00 Why Everyone Is In “The Closet” and Society's Norms

12:17 Polyamory and Personal Experiences

32:42 Defining Relationship Agreements and Boundaries

34:54 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships

42:19 Polyamory vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy

Connect with Samia Mounts 

https://www.samiamounts.com/

https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkJT8ttJYCyIS8ig6gZ7pA

https://www.tiktok.com/@samia.mounts

https://www.samiamounts.com/podcast

Book a Consult with Amanda Here:

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What if intimacy didn’t have to feel so hard, awkward, or overthought?

In this episode, I sit down with Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, the founders of the Somatica Method and the two people who completely changed the way I understand intimacy, sex, and relationships. We talk about what Somatica actually is, why it feels so different from anything most of us have ever learned about intimacy, and why practicing connection in real time can be deeply transformative.

This episode is personal for me. Somatica is the training that helped me become The Kink Consultant, and it reshaped how I show up in my body, my relationships, and my work. If you have ever felt stuck in your intimacy, overwhelmed by shame, or curious about a more embodied, human way to connect, this conversation gives you a real look at what is possible when everything is allowed to be talked about, explored, and met with care.

Episode Highlights 

00:00 What is Somatica?

11:03 Understanding Somatica Sessions

24:49 Understanding Core Wounds in Relationships

27:54 Application Process for Somatica Training

35:23 Virgin Island: A New TV Show

40:53 The Impact of Social Media on Intimacy

Learn more about Somatica:

https://www.somaticainstitute.com/

https://www.instagram.com/somatica_institute/

https://www.instagram.com/celesteanddanielleofficial/

Become a Certified Somatica Coach: https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ Use TKC250 to get $750 off!

Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat

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Let's talk about the thing no one wants to touch: DDLG, innocence play, and why "daddy" has become the internet's new favorite word. 

In today’s episode, I sit down with Rena Martine, author and former sex crimes prosecutor turned women's intimacy coach, for one of the most honest conversations about taboo fantasies, shame, and reclaiming pleasure without apology. We dig into why powerful women crave submission, what innocence play actually means (spoiler: it's not what you think), how survivors sometimes use kink for healing, and why society will sell you slutty Halloween costumes but shame you for the desires behind them.

This episode is permission-giving, unflinching, and absolutely necessary. If you've ever felt shame for wanting something "wrong," this conversation is your permission slip to want what you want.

Episode Highlights: 

00:00 Rena's Journey from Prosecutor to Intimacy Coach

15:15 Understanding DDLG and Age Play

28:37 Exploring Society's Double Standards

29:38 Privilege and Normalizing Taboo Discussions

31:09 Non-Monogamy and Societal Judgments

32:16 Polyamory and Public Perception

37:25 Kink Acceptance and Media Representation

42:54 Navigating DDLG Dynamics

47:48 Empowerment Through Kink

Connect with Rena Martine

https://www.renamartine.com/book

https://www.instagram.com/_rena.martine_/

Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat

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You heard it here first: sex gets better as you age. Don’t believe me? Listen to this episode.

I sit down with Susan Bratton, intimacy expert and sex educator, for a refreshing conversation about pleasure, confidence, and why desire does not have an expiration date. We talk about how so many people are taught to expect sex to fade over time, and why that belief is doing way more damage than aging ever could. Susan shares what actually helps couples stay curious, connected, and turned on long term, especially when shame and routine start creeping in. We also get into kink, power dynamics, and sexual longevity. Susan explains how confidence, embodiment, and caring for your body play a huge role in pleasure as you get older, and why performance-focused sex often gets in the way of real intimacy.

This episode is permission-filled, honest, and surprisingly hopeful. If you want proof that your best sex might still be ahead of you, this conversation will absolutely change your mind.

Episode Highlights: 

00:00 Maintaining Sexual Health and Stamina

25:53 Embracing Confidence and Sexuality

27:43 Maintaining Sexual Health with Age

29:43 The Role of Nitric Oxide

30:48 The Benefits of Pumping

32:20 Advanced Treatments for Sexual Health

34:26 Red Light Therapy and Lubricants

Connect with Susan Bratton

https://betterlover.com

https://getflowfree.com

https://getglowbelow.com

https://pumpingguide.com

Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat

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Being obsessed with someone can be so embarrassing. Frankly, you barely even know this person but somehow your brain has decided that this person is now the main character of your life. Been there, done that. 

In this episode, I sit down with my coach, Kirsten Aut to talk about obsession in a way that feels honest, relatable, and way less shameful. We unpack why obsession happens, why trying to “just stop thinking about it” never works, and how desire, fantasy, and attachment get all tangled together when someone lights up your nervous system just enough to throw you off balance.

If you have ever thought, “Why am I like this?” or caught yourself spiraling over someone you barely dated, this episode will make you feel seen, understood, and a lot less alone.

Episode Highlights: 

00:00 Understanding Obsession and Attachment

12:01 Realizations and Reflections on Obsession

27:20 Growth Mindset in Relationships

29:37 Navigating Modern Dating

35:01 Trusting Your Intuition

38:51 Manifestation and Personal Growth

Connect with Kristen Aut

https://www.newbadassyou.com/

https://www.instagram.com/thekristenaut/

https://www.tiktok.com/@thekristenaut

Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat

Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist

Connect with Me: 

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Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals, playful punishment games, and emotional restraint with praise, you’ll find inspiration for any dynamic. Plus, don’t miss the 5-minute scene challenge! Ready to make your night unforgettable? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/

Connect with Alessandra

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https://www.facebook.com/domsubliving

https://www.youtube.com/@DomSubLiving?sub_confirmation=1

Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/

Get your FREE BDSM Checklist HEREhttps://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist

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Talking about sex should not be this hard, and yet for so many people, it still is.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Tara, tenured professor of relational sexual communication, host of the Luvbites podcast, and author of How Do You Like It?, to talk about what actually makes a sex life and a relationship work. We cover everything from why emotional safety is the real prerequisite for good communication, to how shame shows up in our relationships long before we ever talk about kink.

Dr. Tara shares what she teaches her university students about sexual communication across the lifespan, from sexual debut to long-term partnership, aging, and everything in between. We talk about why most people were never taught how to talk about sex, money, or desire, and how that lack of language quietly impacts intimacy.

If you have ever struggled to ask for what you want, felt disconnected from a partner, or wished there was a guidebook for navigating intimacy, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a lot to reflect on.

Episode Highlights: 

00:00 Sexual Communication and Education

08:43 Emotional Safety in Relationships

17:50 Personal Divorce Stories and Lessons Learned

18:42 Communicating About Money and Sex in Relationships

22:30 Essential Communication in Relationships

25:22 Understanding Sexual Preferences and Polyamory

Grab a copy of her book: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) https://amzn.to/4iWt60a

Connect with Dr. Tara 

https://www.luvbites.co/

https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrbW6PCKjgcxkq3dTvjjeyQ

https://open.spotify.com/show/2SZ60RxLOyQ900l4PgJAlT

Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat

Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist

Connect with Me: 

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One thing about kinky dating: it should not be this hard to find your people. Thankfully, BeeDee App exists and yes, I brought Pieter back on the podcast because a lot has happened since the first time he was here.

In this episode, Pieter and I get into compatibility percentages, brat detection failures, monogamy filters, and why BeeDee is miles better than scrolling through FetLife hoping someone in your city is actually compatible. We also talk about BeeDee’s new features like incognito mode and travel mode, and the wild stats behind how many messages, matches, and relationships are happening because of this app. 

If you’ve ever wished kinky dating felt easier, more intentional, and way less chaotic, this episode is your permission slip to finally download the app, take the test, and meet people who actually match you inside and outside the bedroom.

Episode Highlights: 

00:00 Personal Experiences with BeeDee App

13:24 The Origin Story of BeeDee App

20:29 New Features and Updates on BeeDee App

29:47 Upcoming Features on BeeDee App

Download the BeeDee App 

https://web.beedee.app/

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Sign-Up For the TCK Couples Retreat: https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist

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