In this episode, I sit down with CJ from No Shame with CJ to dive into the complexities of kink, non-monogamy, and redefining relationship norms. As a fellow sex and relationship coach, CJ brings a unique perspective on what it means to explore ethical non-monogamy and how the language we use around relationships shapes our experiences.

We unpack the differences between polyamory and non-monogamy, the challenges of navigating jealousy, and how to build relationship dynamics that actually work for you instead of just following traditional expectations.

CJ shares how their own journey into non-monogamy and power exchange has evolved over time, from navigating long-distance relationships to integrating new partners while maintaining strong foundations. We talk about the idea of being “monogamish” and how some people choose monogamy while still engaging in kink outside their relationship, challenging the assumption that one structure fits all.

If you’ve ever questioned your relationship style, struggled with jealousy, or felt pressure to conform to certain labels, this episode is packed with insights on how to unlearn outdated narratives and create relationships on your own terms.

Episode Highlights: 

01:52 Understanding Ethical Non-Monogamy

04:00 Defining Polyamory and Solo Poly

22:27 Jealousy and Possessiveness in Relationships

28:00 Open Communication in Relationships

32:39 Exploring Kink and Boundaries

37:09 Authenticity and Self-Discovery

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• https://www.noshamewithcj.com/

• https://www.instagram.com/noshamewithcj

  
  

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In this episode, I catch up with my biz dom, Brenda, for a deep dive into my latest dating escapades—from navigating kinky dating apps to almost getting stood up on a very public date. We talk about my upcoming spanking party, the struggles of meeting compatible partners, and why chemistry is everything (even when someone seems perfect on the app). Plus, I also share a deeply personal story about an unexpected loss and how it shifted my perspective on relationships, connection, and the role of friends with benefits.

From spanking parties to dating fails, this episode is a rollercoaster of good sex, bad decisions, and me questioning my life choices in real time. If you've ever debated ghosting a guy who can’t plan a date or found yourself catching feelings for a ‘casual’ situation, grab a drink—you’re in good company.

Episode Highlights: 

04:01 Date Number 1: 58

05:37 Date Number 2: Target Guy

09:22 Date Number 3:  77 Minutes Guy 

14:18 Date Number 4: Never Been Kissed

21:35 Navigating Mixed Feelings and Desires

24:37 Grieving and Seeking Comfort

31:48 Balancing Dating and Personal Growth

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In this episode ofThe Kink Consultant, I sit down with my former personal trainer and newly single friend, Zach Moore, as he navigates dating after nearly 15 years in a relationship. From exploring kink on dating apps to discovering his dominant side, Zach shares his experiences with Field, primal play, DDLG dynamics, and learning the ropes (literally) of BDSM.

We dive into what it’s like to date with intention, how he’s balancing casual connections with self-discovery, and why understanding aftercare is just as important as exploring new kinks. Whether you’re new to the scene or just love a good dating story, this episode is packed with insights, laughter, and plenty of real talk.

Episode Highlights: 

00:58 Exploring Casual and Kink Dating

01:52 Discovering Personal Kinks

04:55 Dominance and Submissiveness

07:32 Primal Play and Kink Dynamics

16:56 Age Play and Boundaries

35:20 The Value of Coaching

42:56 Intentional Dating and Apps

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In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the incredible Rayanna Jamison, USA Today bestselling author, co-founder of GTB Publishing, and organizer of the thriving Dirty Daddies community. We dive deep into her journey as an author, the growth of the Dirty Daddies Party Room, and the exciting plans for the upcoming "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention.

Rayanna shares insights into the evolution of the kink and romance genres, her transition from author to publisher, and how she's built a welcoming, inclusive community for readers and writers alike. Discover what it takes to craft compelling kink fiction, build inclusive communities, and turn passion into a thriving genre—this episode is packed with insights you won’t want to miss!

Episode Highlights: 

[2:45] How Rayanna started writing and transitioned into publishing.

[12:10] What defines a “Dirty Daddy” and how the genre has evolved.

[22:40] Details about the "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention: panels, parties, and more!

[35:50] The challenges and rewards of running a growing online community.

[45:00] Why kink in fiction should remain distinct from real-life practices.

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In this episode, I sit down with my mother, Angela, to explore her journey from growing up in 1960s Ireland to becoming an open-minded, supportive parent. She shares how her traditional upbringing shaped her worldview and how moving to England in her 20s introduced her to a more progressive perspective on sex, relationships, and individuality.  

We dive into the unique dynamics of our mother-daughter relationship, including how her openness and humor allowed me to embrace my kink identity and confidently pursue a career in the kink community. She also shares how she processed learning about my work as a dominatrix, her reactions to the stigma surrounding women’s autonomy, and her advice for parents on staying open-minded and supportive of their children’s authentic selves.

Whether you’re a parent, curious about the intersection of family and kink, or just here for the laughs, this episode is filled with heartfelt stories, genuine insights, and candid moments. Grab your headphones and join us for a conversation that’s as honest as it is heartwarming.

Episode Highlights: 

01:08 Sex Education in 60s and 70s Ireland

08:06 Mother-Daughter Relationship Dynamics

18:24 Discussing Kinks and Fetishes

23:35 Parenting Reflections and Challenges

35:38 Moving to Ireland and Cultural Differences

Connect with Me: 

TikTok: @thekinkconsultant 

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In this episode, I sit down with musician and kinky creator Deore to explore the fascinating intersection of music and kink. Known for her bratty sub energy and vulnerable, thought-provoking lyrics, Deore shares how music has become a powerful outlet for self-expression, healing, and connection within the kink community. 

We dive into her creative journey, including how her hit song “Humor Me” reshaped her relationship with her Dom and sparked deeper conversations about vulnerability and shame. She also opens up about balancing kink identity with societal expectations, creating a safe space for listeners to feel seen and understood. 

Whether you’re curious about kink, passionate about music, or both, this episode is packed with insights on how art can transform the way we connect with ourselves and others. Grab your headphones and join us for a candid conversation that blends creativity, empowerment, and authenticity. 

Episode Highlights: 

Connect with Deore: 

Instagram: @deorebby 

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TikTok: @thekinkconsultant 

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Once again, I’m joined by my Business Manager and close friend, Brenda, as we dive into a whirlwind week of my dating life. From navigating an unexpected age gap with a mysterious man, to rediscovering the thrill of a first kiss on a mini-golf date, I’m sharing it all.  

We also dive deep into the emotional complexities of intimacy, including how a spontaneous connection stirred up unexpected feelings about a past relationship. Plus, we explore the challenges of balancing power dynamics, trust, and boundaries in kinky dating, offering insights for anyone navigating these unique waters.  

Whether you’re here for the juicy details or practical dating advice, this episode has something for everyone. So grab your headphones and join us for an honest, lighthearted conversation about the twists and turns of dating in today’s world! 

Episode Highlights 

 02:41 Age Gap Dilemma 

14:59 Navigating Sub-Dom Dynamics 

18:05 Third Date: Mini Golf Adventure 

21:10 Intimacy and Grieving the Past 

25:38 Reflecting on Dating 

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https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ 

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In this episode, I sit down with my Business Manager and friend, Brenda, to unpack my dating life—and trust me, there’s plenty to talk about! We dive into my adventures navigating the modern dating world, from the hilarious chaos of my first date at a Target Starbucks, to the highs and lows of finding meaningful connections today. 

We also explore the nuances of kinky dating, offer advice for those stepping into it, and tackle some fantastic listener questions. From the best dating apps, subtle ways to signal your preferences, and so much more. 

Whether you’re here for the laughs, the insights, or just a behind-the-scenes peek at my dating life, this episode has something for you. So grab your headphones and join us for an honest, lighthearted conversation about all things dating! 

Episode Highlights 

 02:08 Target Guy: The Front Runner 

11:04 Deep Conversations and Future Plans 

19:17 Navigating Modern Dating: First Date Reflections 

23:59 The Kink Factor: Dating Apps and Preferences 

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In this episode, I had an absolute blast chatting with the amazing Pup Locrian. We dove into all things puppy play, its rich history and how it's different from the furry community.  

Pup Locrian shared some super cool insights on what it means to be a puppy, the gear involved, and even the physical workout it can be! We laughed about treats and toys, and talked about how to find your local puppy community. We also touched on the joys of puppy conventions and competitions. Whether you're a curious newbie or a seasoned player, there's something for everyone. 

So grab your headphones and join us for a fun and informative conversation that's sure to get your tail wagging! 

Episode Highlights 

01:29 Understanding Pup Play 

03:52 Pup Play vs. Furries 

11:29 Personal Journey into Kink and Pup Play 

24:41 Discovering the Joy of Puppy Play 

32:10 Finding Your Local Puppy Community 

41:46 Resources and Recommendations 

Connect with Pup Locrian:  

https://www.instagram.com/pup_locrian/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@locrian_pup 

[email protected] 

Resources Mentioned:  

https://www.pupplay.info/ 

https://ashleykahurangi.com/book-writing/canis-major/ 

Puppy Play by Tosa Alphainu 

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Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! 

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This week, I’m thrilled to have a candid and insightful conversation with my dear friend, Catherine Drysdale, a dedicated sex and relationship coach whose passion shines through every aspect of her work. We explore Catherine's unique journey to becoming a coach, the impactful sex education and workshops she offers, and the challenges she bravely navigates as a voice in the sex-positive space.We dive into the hurdles she faces with social media censorship, as well as her innovative methods like group guided masturbation workshops and the use of NLP to help clients release pleasure blocks. Her mission is powerful and clear: to provide support, foster community, and create safe spaces where people can explore, embrace, and celebrate their sexuality. 

If you're ready to connect more deeply with yourself, reclaim joy in your sexual life, or simply learn more about Catherine's transformative approach, listen in and join the conversation. Don’t forget to subscribe, share this episode with someone who might need it, and leave a review if you found value in our discussion.  

Episode Highlights  

03:43 Challenges in the Sex Education Space 

04:47 Navigating Social Media and Censorship 

09:26 Innovative Workshops and Guided Practices 

15:27 The Power of Hypnosis and EFT Tapping 

22:06 Catherine's Personal Journey and Career Shift 

Connect with Catherine:  

https://www.catherinedrysdale.com 

https://www.instagram.com/iamcatherinedrysdale 

https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcatherinedrysdale 

Connect with Me:  

https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant 

https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ 

Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! 

Book your consultation here.