Last week we discussed whether or not to use dating sites and apps. We talked about how that’s an individual choice and up to your comfort level. This week we’re talking about safety on dating sites and apps, not to mention, social media in general.

Over the years I have heard from many people encountering others asking for money, credit card information, and pressuring to meet before somebody was ready. These events can lead to dating sites and apps feeling unsafe.

Look Within to Feel Safe

• We look out by first looking within. This means you get in the habit of checking in with yourself. You  check in with yourself by getting quiet and spending some time to go inward and ask:
• Am I happy in this relationship?
• Am I being treated the way I want to?
• Am I being spoken to the way I want to be?
• Is there anything I’m uncomfortable with?
• Do we have the same values?
• Would I feel comfortable with this person?
• Do you want to like the person just so you don’t feel lonely?
•  Want a checklist of these questions, download the Do I Feel Safe guide in the show notes.

What to Look Out For?

• This is not an all encompassing list by any means, but here’s some tips for what to look out for:
• Profiles with blurry photos 
• Vague answers to your questions 
• Anyone who wants to meet right away
• Someone not listening to you
• Someone who wants to talk about sex too soon
• Anyone who asks for money or credit card information 
• Someone who asks to meet you at your home or their home 
• Someone who demonstrates a flash of anger while getting to know you. Share my story.
• Anyone who you just get a gut feeling about something being off. The gut is always right.
• Grab the download for the Safety Checklist in the show notes.

Where Do We Go From Here? 

• Remember dating sites and apps can be a great way to meet potential dates, but you have to keep safety in the forefront. Use dating sites and apps with caution. Check in with yourself frequently and let your answers help guide you in making decisions about whether to pursue certain people or not.

Resources

• Podcast Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/522XXRC
• Free download - Do I Feel Safe checklist. 

Credits

Music by: https://www.purple-planet.com "Successful Motivation"
Artwork photo by Elevate

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Music by Successful Motivation |
Artwork photo by Elevate