Know someone facing a really hard time right now? Been up all night crying? How you offer help says a lot more about your own ability, or lack of self-care. The next time you catch yourself about to say "let me know if you need anything" — and you will, because we all will, I'm gonna say it this week, you're gonna say it this week —Pause. Just for a second. Ask yourself: what would I want? And if you don't know — that's not a failure. That's information. That's the assignment. That's where self care begins.