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This episode centers on the Ruby Alcantara case—a brutal, underreported tragedy that exposes the military’s systemic failures in handling domestic violence.

Tressa brings listeners into the devastating story of Ruby Alcantara, a military wife whose murder was met not with outrage, but with silence. In this episode, Tressa doesn’t just recount Ruby’s case—she dissects the institutional complicity that allowed it to happen, and the quiet plea deal that followed. 

Through Ruby’s story, Tressa challenges listeners to confront the reality: justice isn’t just delayed—it’s denied. 

Tressa provides a brief update on the woman found dead under suspicious circumstances at Schofield Barracks on 9/11. 

Sources for victims of domestic violence: 

If you’re experiencing domestic violence—whether in the U.S. or internationally—please explore the resources below using a device that your abuser cannot monitor. Your safety comes first, and these tools are here to support you

🇺🇸 U.S. Resources

• National Domestic Violence Hotline
  24/7 confidential support via phone (800-799-7233), text (“START” to 88788), and online chat. Offers safety planning, emotional support, and referrals.
• DomesticShelters.org
  Searchable database of over 3,000 shelters and programs across the U.S. and Canada. Includes articles, survivor stories, and healing resources.
• National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV)
  Offers training, technical assistance, and policy advocacy. Hosts VAWnet, a library of research and tools for professionals and survivors.
• Office on Violence Against Women (OVW)
  U.S. Department of Justice site with links to state coalitions, tribal programs, and national hotlines.

🌍 Global Resources

• NO MORE Global Directory
  A comprehensive international directory of domestic and sexual violence helplines and services in nearly every UN-recognized country.
• Hot Peach Pages
  Offers domestic violence information and hotline listings in over 110 languages. Ideal for multilingual and international access.
• Pathways to Safety International
  Tailored support for Americans experiencing abuse while abroad—includes legal aid, relocation help, and emergency assistance.
• UN Women Global Database
  Tracks government measures to combat violence against women and girls in 194 countries. Useful for policy research and advocacy.

If you’re a service member struggling with mental health:
  • Call 988, then press 1
  • Text 838255
  • Or chat at veteranscrisisline.net