This is an episode FULL of gems!! Have you struggled with the pressures of being a perfect mother or never feeling good enough?! Ali Pember, a coach and psychotherapist for 10 years who works with mothers shares a snippet of her experience becoming a mother unexpectedly later in life and the role matrescence played in her life choices. Ali also shares her wisdom on the pressures of motherhood, the cultural narrative and the perfect mother myth, valuing the work we do as mothers and how important the language we use is in valuing ourselves, how to feel good enough rather than trying for perfect, comparing ourselves, the ‘conspiracy of silence’ and shame in motherhood and maternal ambivalence.

We only just scratch the surface on this topic and it is most certainly worth understanding your own personal perfect mother myth and realigning yourself with what you deem to be a good enough mother.    

Ali is based in the UK and you can find her on socials @goodenoughmamas and www.goodenoughmama.co.uk

Helpful topics to further this conversation and understanding:

Sharon Hayes – Intensive Mothering

Dr Sophie Brock – The Perfect Mother Myth

Andrea O’Rielly – Matricentric Feminism

Donald Winnicott – Parent – Infant Relationship (mentioned in the episode)