Tip #5 - to shake you out of that self hate funk - and get to the self love

Ban the self hate talk - no more. Just say NO when you mind starts racing and thinking about how horrible you are, how could you do this, just stop yourself.

 

Cut the booze and pot; to clear your head and hear your heart, if you are self medicating because you can't face whatever it is, and you’re in pain, you are dulling the pain for sure, but you’re also dulling everything else.

 

Splash water on your face - or if you can jump in the pool. Let that cold water shock the mean girl right out of you. Even if you’re not a big fan of the water or pools or rivers or whatever, this is going to change your tone real quickly enough to get you away from beating yourself up and into to soothing.

 

Cut up a bunch of paper hearts - now you can write little love messages on them, or things you want to forgive yourself for, or you could even write down some of the horrible things you say to yourself, and then burn them. That’s right, here at self care is sexy I am give you permission to burn your hearts out. Because sometimes you have to do these weird little things to shake it up. And it’s really carthitc.

Cook yourself something to eat - making yourself food is an act of self care. And it’s something you need to do anyway, but maybe put the effort into it like it was a date or something, you know bust out the wine glasses, even if your drinking water, and set the table, instead of eating over the sink or at the couch watching tv, do it up right, find a new recipe and have a three course spread; salad or soup the main deal and a desert. Do this. Do this for you.