For so many years when I thought about my relationship with God, it was something I felt I needed to earn. Before I could receive God's love and approval, I would have to make myself perfect. In order to receive God's love I would have to make all the crooked places within me straight. I would have to kick all of my bad habits, meditate every day, never get angry or frustrated, give up all resentments, feel deep compassion for everyone I meet, and love myself perfectly and completely in every way, even when I made bad choices and even when I acted badly. Then, and only then, would I qualify for God's Love. Then and only then could I be worthy of having the kind of loving, personal relationship with the Father that I longed for.
And for years, decades really…actually, most of my life, I yearned to have that perfect, personal relationship with God that I imagined Christ had. But the problem was that I couldn't ever clean up my act enough to actually allow myself to have that relationship. So, I kept postponing it. "Someday" I would secretly promise myself, "I will qualify. Someday, I really will be good enough to receive that perfect Love. When I am enlightened, then I will be able know God."
It wasn't until recently that I realized that I had it completely the wrong way around. And the epiphany came to me in a very small moment while reading Ernest Holmes' 365, a year of daily wisdom. It was just one line from the September 18th lesson.
"Realizing the presence of life in all nature, I know that it responds to me."
I'd read this line before, encountered this idea countless times in my Science of Mind studies, but this time, I felt something in me actually respond. Suddenly and very quietly I had no doubt, no question at all in my mind, that God responds to me -to my needs, my thoughts, my feelings. It wasn't a shaft of sunlight moment of revelation, just a very small twitch in my Spirit that confirmed God's Presence within me. It was a gentle quickening, and in a moment I was suddenly more certain than I had ever been of that one principle – that God responds to me. And it occurred to me that the reason I felt so certain of was because regardless of how I may feel about myself, or about God, I knew that God is always responding to Itself in me, and that it cannot help but love itself in me.
My opinion of myself has nothing to do with it. God loves Itself in and through me. This is spiritual fact. God doesn't need to be qualified to receive its own Self-Love. It is Love Itself. And suddenly, it occurred to me that I had been making it so much harder than it needed to be. I don't need to, nor is it possible, to effort God's love into place.
Christ didn't freak out when there wasn't enough wine and pray, saying "God, please! There isn't enough wine! This whole party is ruined. I'll be a better person if you will just send 20 cases right away!"
The whole point of departure for that approach is predicated on lack. It presumes that I don't have what I need, that God's love is absent somehow, and that there is something I need to do or become in order to have it. But the real secret is this: I already have it. God is in me, and the love it expresses for Itself through and as me happens naturally, automatically, when I can allow for it. And I allow for it simply by removing what Ernest Holmes calls my "bloated nothingness" so that I am a place of its happening. Because it's happening every moment, all the time, at the same time, everywhere, including inside of me.
So, when someone whispered in Christ's ear that there was no wine left, I imagine Christ turned to his own knowing that the Father cannot but respond to Him, and to Its own needs in and as Him, and made Himself a place, through that knowing, for a response to happen – and as the water flowed, it became wine. Christ didn't turn the water to wine, as though it were a magic trick. The water became wine through the act of God's Self-Love as Christ, and all needs were met.
That means it happens quietly. Softly. Inwardly. I have no control over how God responds or when God responds and what God responds with, which is a good thing because if I could use my will to influence God's will, it would not turn out well for anyone. But when I remember that God is always responding to itself in me, that it must respond, and that it cannot betray its own nature, I can turn my needs over to this Presence knowing that Its response cannot be different from Itself – which is love.
So, I don't need to Petition God for what I need or qualify myself to become worthy of being loved. I simply need to trust God's loving nature in me and know that I am already qualified. God is already and always in me as Love itself. And when I can consciously and quietly become a place for a Loving Response to happen, there is a quickening – and I don't need to straighten all the crooked places out in order to be with God. It is completely the other way around. Because when I am with God, all that is crooked is naturally and effortlessly…made straight.