WHEN SOMEONE ELSE’S BEHAVIOR IS MORE THAN JUST AN IRRITATION

We all get irritated about the way others act at times.

For those of us who’ve experienced abuse, someone else’s behavior may feel like more than just an irritation.

Here’s how we can learn to gauge what we’re feeling.

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[Essential Healing - Episode 75]
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ARE YOU A "NEGATIVE PERSON?"

When we’re expressing how we feel to others, and we hear things like

"You’re just being negative, you need to have a more positive outlook"
"Look at the bright side"
"You’re always so negative about everything"

We may walk away feeling discounted and like they didn’t hear us.

We may start to question whether or not that’s really who we are.

We think, "Am I really just being negative?" or "Am I a ’Negative Person?’ "

Here’s how we can learn to express our emotions instead of showing them…

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Feelings Inventory

https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory

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[Essential Healing - Episode 74]
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CLARITY COMES WHEN WE’RE OUTSIDE OF IT

It feels devastating when we have conflict with someone we’re close to.

It can feel like a loss, especially if it gets to a point where you’re avoiding each other.

Here’s how the distance can bring clarity…

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[Essential Healing - Episode 73]
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THE RIGHT COMMUNITY MAKES A HUGE DIFFERENCE

Many of us have a difficult time feeling like we fit in with our local community.

We’re introverts.

We have a difficult time trusting others.

And, because of what we’ve gone through, we feel like others won’t understand so we don’t know what to talk about.

As a result, our attempts to "join in," only further validate our belief that we don’t fit in anywhere.

What’s possible is that we can find communities with shared interests and challenges who "get us."

The right community makes a huge difference.

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[Essential Healing - Episode 72]
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YOUR GUILT IS KEEPING YOU FROM BEING PRESENT WITH YOUR KIDS

As parents, when our kids are going through something painful, we feel their pain.

We want to fix it or take it all away.

And, we can also feel an incredible amount of guilt if their pain is a result of something we did.

Unfortunately, the burden of guilt can keep us from being fully present with them in their pain (and joy).

Here’s what we can do instead…

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[Essential Healing - Episode 71]
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YOU’RE PUSHING AGAINST THE SUPPORT YOU NEED

If you don’t take the advice someone gives you but continue to ask for it, it can make them feel like you don’t want the support.

Here’s why getting stuck in this cycle can ultimately push away the support you really need.

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[Essential Healing - Episode 70]
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MAYBE IT ISN’T THE RIGHT FIT

When pursuing something you really want feels like you’re trying to push a rock up a hill, then it may be a sign that it really isn’t the right fit for you.

Here’s why you may be missing the signs…

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[Essential Healing - Episode 69]
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THE TRUTH ABOUT MY ISOLATION

When the stay-at-home orders started being passed in our country, I didn’t feel like there was much I needed to change.

Not as a matter of principle, but because I’m already about as isolated as I can get.

In fact, I’ve almost felt ashamed of any feelings of fear I have because we haven’t been impacted to the degree that others have.

What I have been facing is the truth about how isolated I’ve really been and the things I was doing to NOT feel isolated that weren’t really solving the problem.

Here’s how I came to the realization that it’s something I need to work on…

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[Essential Healing - Episode 68]
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BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE

Often times, we think we have to take an "experts" word as gospel and not question it, even if it’s something that doesn’t feel right to us.

It can make you feel like you don’t have a say in the outcome.

Like you don’t have a VOICE.

Here’s why it’s important to be your own advocate…

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[Essential Healing - Episode 67]
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WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT DIRECTION TO GO NEXT, YOU’LL GO BACK TO WHAT YOU KNOW

When you’re in unfamiliar territory and you don’t know what direction to go, or what steps to take next, it can bring up feelings of uncertainty.

Most of us connect the feeling of uncertainty with being lost, so we label where we’re at in the new territory as "LOST" and fear sets in.

Fear that encourages you to STOP and go back to a safer place.

But, what if…

You weren’t "lost," you were just in the in-between??

There’s a difference between being lost and being in unfamiliar territory.

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[Essential Healing - Episode 66]
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