Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Forgiveness feeds your soul just as food feeds the body. That statement and what I’m about to share with you will change the trajectory of your life.

 Living with estrangement sucks the life right out of you. Triggers pound on the door of your heart out of nowhere. Emotions follow and you find yourself in a dark place. Questioning your self-worth. Wondering what others think. Spiraling downward.

 What I’m about to share with you is a simple thing but it is difficult to do. It requires getting yourself out of the way and letting God transform your heart. Surrender and see what happens. Let’s roll with today’s episode.

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/33.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

All things are possible with God scripture says. But do you believe it? Estrangement causes you to doubt that promise because you see no hope. Every effort you make seems fruitless. Day after day wears on with no resolution.

 Hope is something everyone desires, and it often seems elusive. Consequently, you lower your expectations and give it up. Doing so seems easier than the constant disappointment you experience.

 I understand that cycle and today’s message is intended to encourage you to reclaim God’s promise that he can in fact do all things no matter how impossible it may seem to you. Let’s jump in with both feet!

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/32.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

The greatest gift I ever received was to rediscover God through estrangement. That may sound crazy. Estranged relationships cause you to feel isolated, devalued, and unworthy and so it seems unlikely that God would reach out and pursue you.

 But that’s exactly what I experienced, and it was life changing. Do you feel alone? Misunderstood? Judged? Do you avoid church for some of those reasons? Has your self-esteem been shattered so that you feel you have nothing of value to offer?

This episode is for you. Whether you feel guilt, shame, anger, alone or bitter, I offer hope to you through a relationship that is like no other. One that promises to never leave or forsake you. Ready?

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/31.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Estrangement often follows a plethora of misunderstandings and judgments, and I’ll bet you’ve been on one end of the spectrum in a relationship.

 As I began to think about this episode, I pondered a conversation I had with a woman recently. She wasn’t sure how her family situation had deteriorated to the point it had, but as she shared her story, it became evident that misunderstandings were notably at issue.

 And with those came judgment and then a wedge developed so widely that she doubted the relationships could ever be repaired and restored. Does that ring true with you?

 Today I’ll share some examples of this and strategies that you can employ to maintain your own peace of mind.

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/30.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

False accusations often arise in estranged relationships and may be the origin of the estrangement. Unless you are equipped with a mind shift to navigate these hurtful times, it is unlikely that the relationship will improve.

 A strong back bone and thick skin along with a sincere desire to manage the conflict in a godly way are needed to push through the emotional pain and frustration.

 Are you weary of trying to make things work? Do you feel like a water hose constantly putting out fires that others start? You’re ready to admit defeat because it just isn’t working. This podcast is for you. We’ll talk about misunderstandings, outright false accusations and what you can do about it. Get comfortable as we dive in.

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/29.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Estrangement, false accusation, guilt, and shame are not conducive to living a God honoring life. When you are constantly living with accusation from family, friends, kids or whomever it creates disappointment, bitterness and even anger.

 You bring it before God and pray that he will help you deal with it in the right way, but human nature enters and so does angry words. Sometimes those four-letter ones and that causes you to feel guilty as you wonder how those things come out of your mouth. 

 When false accusations are hurled, you feel the need to justify and soon you’re all tangled up in a mess trying to figure out how you got there.

 Oh, my dear friend, I know exactly how you feel. And today, I hope to encourage you so stay tuned as we jump in.

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/28.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Learning to trust God as father is not easy when you’ve been abandoned, rejected, or treated harshly by your earthly one.

 As one whose biological father abandoned her and an adopted father treated her harshly, I struggled to trust God as my heavenly father. Do you struggle with that concept too? I wanted to believe what scripture said about his love, compassion, and mercy, but it wasn’t my experience growing up. And so, I struggled.

 Estrangement takes a toll on relationships, especially if it’s with your father. That makes it even harder to trust.

 In this episode, I’ll talk about these wounds and how to trust God as father. One who promises to never leave or forsake you. Let’s dive in.

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/27.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Today I'm talking to my awesome audience with a short message. I've published 26 episodes now and the response has been staggering. Although I do know what countries my listeners come from, I don't know much more.

So, today I am asking a favor. Would you take a minute to contact me and tell me what has resonated with you most. What topics would you like to hear? Where do you struggle the most? Identity, confidence, emotional pain?

You can reach out to me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.beckykolb.com and select the contact tab at the top. Either will reach me directly.

And don't worry about anyone else seeing it. I'm the only one in this coaching ministry and anything you say or send to me is strictly confidential.

Thanks so much for helping me.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Nothing hurts more than a broken heart. Emotional pain is often more damaging than any physical pain. And sadly, it is most painful when it’s created by a family member. Because that is intended to inflict brokenness.

A friend can betray you and while it creates disappointment and anger, the emotion intensifies when it’s someone in your family. Why is that? Because it’s family. And we expect them to have our back, love us and give us some grace. It’s often just the opposite.

 Ending a relationship is much simpler with a friend than a family member, often leaving you vulnerable and stuck. Well, stick with me today and I’ll share some strategies to discover peace even when your heart is broken into pieces.

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/26.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

What comes to mind when you think of the word closure? One definition is the act or process of closing something such as a relationship with an estranged person in your life.

 Does that sound negative to you? What emotions does it evoke?

 Another definition states that closure brings a sense of peace, understanding and release that comes with accepting that a relationship has ended. That’s the one I will focus on today.

 Closure in this instance is focused upon the relationship ending. Think of that relationship that has created so much pain in your life. Do you want that relationship to continue? Or would you rather focus on rebuilding a new one with that person?

 Today’s episode is one where I’ll focus on how to close the chapter on that painful relationship as you hand over the pen to God and allow him to write the chapters that follow. Let’s dive in!

 Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/25.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! 

Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide