Even Tacos Fall Apart

Discover the groundbreaking FASCETS Neurobehavioral Model and its profound impact on understanding Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) within child welfare - essential listening for anyone passionate about improving the lives of children and families.

In this episode, Patti Kasper and I delved into a profound discussion centered around the FASCETS Neurobehavioral Model, Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD), and its implications in child welfare. The conversation was enlightening and touched on various critical aspects of these complex subjects.

Patti began by highlighting her extensive background in child welfare and her journey through different academic disciplines, including social work and psychology. Her diverse experiences led her to develop a deep passion for understanding and assisting children with FASD, a condition caused by prenatal exposure to alcohol.

One of the key takeaways from the conversation was the emphasis on viewing FASD as a developmental disorder that persists beyond childhood. Patti pointed out that this condition doesn't simply disappear when a child reaches a certain age, challenging the prevailing perception of FASD as a childhood disability. This understanding is crucial in ensuring that individuals with FASD receive adequate support throughout their lives.

The heart of the discussion revolved around the FASCETS Neurobehavioral Model, a tool that helps parents and caregivers understand and support children with FASD. Patti explained how this model focuses on identifying brain tasks, assessing what is easy and difficult for the child and tailoring support accordingly. This approach allows caregivers to provide individualized care and accommodations, helping children with FASD thrive.

Throughout the conversation, Patti passionately addressed the misconceptions and stigmas associated with FASD. She emphasized the need for a shift in societal perception, particularly regarding behavioral challenges. Patti urged parents and caregivers to consider that behaviors in children with FASD are not intentional choices but often the result of how their brains are wired.

We also discussed the parallel between FASD and other neurobehavioral conditions. Patti highlighted the importance of recognizing the unique wiring of each child's brain and advocated for the application of the FASCETS model to support children with various neurobehavioral conditions, whether diagnosed or not.

Our conversation also touched on the challenges faced by parents and caregivers, including the immense mental load of caregiving and the toll it takes on their own mental and physical health. Patti shared her own experiences as a caregiver for her mother, and the importance of self-care and support for caregivers.

Patti highlighted the urgent need to dispel the assumption that behaviors in individuals with neurobehavioral conditions are intentional choices. She stressed the importance of considering the role of their brains in shaping their behavior.

This conversation with Patti Kasper provided a comprehensive and insightful exploration of the FASCETS Neurobehavioral Model, FASD, and their broader implications in child welfare. We underscored the need for a shift in perception, increased understanding and tailored support to help individuals with FASD lead fulfilling lives. Patti's extensive knowledge and passionate advocacy for this cause made for a captivating and enlightening conversation.

More about Patti: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/patricia-kasper

Discover the power of authenticity and the importance of recognizing invisible challenges in this eye-opening episode – a must-listen for anyone committed to creating a more empathetic and inclusive world.

In this insightful episode, we engage in a candid and eye-opening conversation about the often misunderstood and underrepresented world of disabilities, mental health and invisible challenges. Aunia Kahn, who herself deals with invisible disabilities, brings a unique perspective that sheds light on the importance of empathy, understanding and inclusivity.

Our conversation begins with Aunia sharing her journey, highlighting the moment when she recognized her own disabilities, despite her initial hesitance to identify as a disabled person. She underscores the fact that many individuals, like herself, have invisible disabilities that are not immediately apparent to others. This creates a significant gray area in society where people may be dealing with disabilities or mental health issues without visible signs.

Aunia passionately advocates for normalizing the representation of disabled individuals in various aspects of life, including advertising and marketing. She stresses the significance of treating people with disabilities as human beings and emphasizes that they, too, want to be seen and treated as such. This involves engaging in respectful conversations, offering assistance when appropriate and, most importantly, asking for consent before helping.

Our discussion extends to children and the valuable lesson they can teach adults about approaching individuals with disabilities. Aunia points out that children often ask candid questions about disabilities, showing a genuine curiosity, while adults may shy away from such conversations. She encourages adults to adopt a similar curiosity and be open to learning from individuals with disabilities.

One recurring theme throughout the podcast episode is the importance of authenticity. Aunia speaks about her personal experiences, emphasizing the significance of being true to oneself and embracing one's uniqueness. She encourages people to let go of judgments, whether self-imposed or from others, and just be authentic. Authenticity, she believes, fosters a safe space for individuals to thrive and connect.

We talk about self-care and self-acceptance in this episode as well. Aunia shares her self-care routines, which include reaching out to friends, maintaining a balanced lifestyle and seeking help when needed. She advocates for being kind to oneself on challenging days and recognizing that self-improvement is an ongoing journey.

Aunia and I wrap up with a powerful message: everyone has the potential to connect with others when they are authentic. No matter how unique or different you might feel, there will always be someone out there who can connect with and appreciate your authentic self.

In summary, this podcast episode offers a profound exploration of the world of disabilities and mental health. Aunia's personal experiences and insights serve as a compelling reminder of the importance of empathy, inclusivity and authenticity in our interactions with others. We need a shift in perspective - one that recognizes and respects the experiences of individuals with invisible disabilities, ultimately leading to a more compassionate and understanding society.

More about Aunia: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/aunia-kahn

Discover the incredible journey of Adam Parsons as he transforms grief into advocacy and sheds light on mental health, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration and insights into navigating life's challenges.

In this engaging podcast episode, I am joined by guest Adam Parsons. Together, we delve into a variety of topics surrounding mental health, stigma, and the imperative for transforming societal attitudes. Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

As the creator of a mental health charity that seeks to reduce the stigma around mental health issues and provide valuable resources, Adam brings a unique and powerful perspective to the conversation. Our discussion traverses through various themes, initially addressing the misconceptions and challenges that individuals with mental health struggles frequently encounter. A poignant and recurring theme emerges, shedding light on the notion of a ruling class elitism within society. This perspective suggests that those who are neurotypical believe they possess authority over mental health narratives, often marginalizing and silencing those with mental health issues. Our conversation dismantles the inaccurate notion that discussing topics like suicide or trigger warnings fosters harmful thoughts. Instead, we emphasize the importance of creating a safe space for individuals to share their experiences without judgment.

Adam also opens up about his grief journey after the loss of his wife. His vulnerability and authenticity underscore the significance of candid discussions about mental health. We challenge stereotypes and emphasize the need for open conversations.

We also address the impact of cultural norms and historical perspectives on mental health. We passionately critique how attitudes in British society (and American too!) have hindered open conversations about mental health for generations. This perspective perpetuates the suffering of many individuals and underlines the necessity for change.

Our discussion also touches on the concept of chosen families—those formed through conscious connections—and how they hold equal significance to biological families. We challenge the misconception that family relationships are inherently nurturing and emphasize the importance of setting boundaries with toxic family members for one's well-being.

Throughout this thought-provoking episode, Adam and I both champion the destigmatization of mental health struggles and advocate for a society that encourages open dialogue. Our candid reflections, combined with our dedication to reducing stigma, underscore the importance of collective action and education. I hope our message resonates with listeners, inspiring them to challenge preconceived notions, foster understanding and create a safe space for all to share their mental health journeys.

More about Adam: https://www.tacosfallapart.org/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/adam-parsons

If you're ready to transform how you connect and navigate life's challenges, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking empowering insights and practical advice. Join us for a candid conversation as we dive deep into the art of communication, mental health, and building resilient relationships.

MommaFoxFire engaged in a thoughtful and insightful conversation with an expert in social work, Elaine Belson, discussing various aspects of communication, relationships, and mental health. Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

Elaine's extensive experience and expertise in the field offered valuable insights that are applicable not only to personal relationships but also to society as a whole. Our discussion delved into the nuances of effective communication, especially in relationships. Elaine emphasized that her approach involves refraining from giving direct advice and instead focuses on asking questions. This technique helps individuals identify their feelings and consider possible solutions. She highlighted that understanding the "why" behind behavior is crucial and that helping individuals identify their emotions and problem-solving methods leads to better outcomes.

Elaine shared a practical communication exercise for couples involving empathetic listening and "I messaging." This exercise aims to encourage open dialogue by enabling individuals to express their concerns using a structured formula. By employing reflective listening, couples can enhance their understanding of each other's perspectives and work together to find solutions, rather than engaging in power struggles.

Our conversation also goes into recognizing when a relationship may not be worth saving. Elaine emphasized the importance of assessing whether the relationship aligns with one's needs, is characterized by respectful treatment, and shows flexibility in adapting to changes. She advised seeking professional help before reaching the point of considering a breakup and highlighted the value of professional therapy in providing guidance and insight.

Addressing common misconceptions around mental health, Elaine stressed that mental health encompasses more than just psychiatric disorders. She advocated for integrating mental health expertise into mainstream conversations, both personally and within society. We talked about the concept of "honoring the past while staying in the present," and how couples can balance past disappointments with a willingness to move forward and embrace change.

Elaine also emphasized the significance of boundaries in relationships. She encouraged individuals to set and assert boundaries while acknowledging that doing so may initially lead to discomfort or resistance from others. She urged listeners to recognize that change is possible and to prioritize their own well-being and growth.

Overall, this episode provided a wealth of valuable information on effective communication, relationship dynamics and mental health. Elaine's insights, combined with practical exercises and thought-provoking concepts, offer listeners a comprehensive guide to fostering healthy relationships, understanding mental health complexities and promoting personal growth. The engaging conversation underscores the importance of open dialogue, empathy and continuous self-improvement in navigating the intricate landscape of human interactions and emotions.

More about Elaine: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/elaine-belson

Calling all first responders and trauma therapists! Join us in this enlightening episode as we dive into the world of trauma therapy, mental wellness and valuable insights that can transform how you navigate the challenges of your vital roles.

In this episode with Colleen Clark, a seasoned trauma therapist, the conversation delved deep into the challenges faced by first responders and trauma therapists, exploring techniques for building resilience, recognizing burnout, and promoting mental wellness. Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

Colleen's wealth of experience in the field of trauma therapy, as well as her specialization in working with first responders, illuminated the complexities of managing the toll of trauma and provided insightful strategies for coping and healing. We began by addressing the common misconceptions surrounding mental health and disabilities, with Colleen emphasizing the need for a paradigm shift from "mental health" to "mental wellness." She advocates for a holistic approach that sees individuals as raw human beings who possess the capacity for healing. She stressed the importance of trauma-informed practices and evidence-based therapies to support those dealing with trauma, asserting that embracing a trauma-informed lens can foster genuine healing.

Colleen underscored the criticality of recognizing signs of burnout and compassion fatigue among first responders and trauma therapists. She highlighted behaviors such as avoidance, negative thought patterns, irritability, and a lack of motivation as indicators of potential burnout. To prevent burnout, she emphasized the need for a balanced work-life dynamic and the practice of mindfulness and self-compassion. We talked about the need for cultivation of gratitude and the engagement of all senses to promote overall mental wellness.

Colleen's expert insight sheds light on the challenges specific to first responders, who often grapple with traumatic experiences on a regular basis. She stressed the significance of processing events quickly and seeking professional support to prevent the development of more serious conditions like PTSD. In addition to evidence-based therapies, it is recommended that first responders do a debriefing with trusted colleagues as a means of addressing trauma and fostering resilience.

The interview also touched on the role of loved ones in supporting first responders and trauma therapists. Colleen urged friends and family to create safe spaces for open communication, allowing individuals to express their feelings and experiences without judgment. She highlighted the importance of asking how one can provide support, as it empowers the person dealing with trauma to voice their needs.

Throughout the conversation, Colleen's warmth and expertise resonated. Her approach was grounded in compassion and authenticity, urging listeners to embrace vulnerability and seek help when needed. The episode concluded with Colleen sharing her personal experiences and aspirations, including her recent nomination for the International Women of Inspiration Award. Her journey of resilience and determination serves as an inspiring testament to the power of purpose and passion.

In essence, the podcast episode with Colleen Clark provided a comprehensive exploration of trauma therapy, burnout prevention and the transformative potential of adopting a trauma-informed lens. Colleen's guidance offered a roadmap for first responders, trauma therapists and anyone grappling with the toll of trauma to find healing, balance and strength in their journey towards mental wellness!

More about Colleen: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/colleen-clark

Discover the inspiring journey of a mental health advocate and coach, perfect for anyone seeking personalized strategies to overcome challenges and embrace resilience!

In this episode, MommaFoxFire talks with Brian Sachetta about Mental Health Advocacy for Anxiety & Depression. Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

Brian is a mental health advocate, author, and coach, and he joins MommaFoxFire in this episode for an insightful and candid conversation about mental health advocacy, personal experiences with anxiety and depression, and the importance of breaking misconceptions surrounding mental health.

Brian shares his journey into mental health advocacy and the motivation behind his work. He emphasizes that his aim is to help people feel better and lead happier lives by providing strategies and personalized support. Like MommaFoxFire, he is careful to acknowledge that he is not a mental health professional, underlining the distinction between his role as an advocate and that of licensed therapists or psychologists.

Our conversation addresses the challenges faced by mental health advocates, particularly those who share their own experiences. Brian recounts receiving negative reviews from individuals questioning his qualifications. Understanding that not everyone will resonate with his work, he emphasizes that people have the right to seek the solutions that best suit them. He remains committed to being transparent about his background and intentions, building trust with his audience.

We then meander into the crucial topic of finding mental health care providers. Both Brian and MommaFoxFire stress the importance of finding the right therapist and treating therapy as a tool to be used as needed. They encourage listeners to seek resources that cater to their specific needs and preferences, offering links to mental health resources to assist those in search of suitable support.

As the episode comes to a close, Brian and MommaFoxFire reflect on the misconceptions surrounding mental illness and the stigma associated with seeking help. Both Brian and MommaFoxFire stress the importance of dispelling the notion that mental illness reflects weakness. They call for a shift in societal perspectives and encourage open conversations to foster greater understanding and empathy.

This podcast episode offers a profound and honest conversation about mental health advocacy and the challenges faced by advocates who share their personal experiences. Brian's dedication to helping others, despite the occasional criticism, is commendable. The discussion emphasizes the need for open conversations, personalized care, and the importance of seeking support without shame or judgment. It is a valuable resource for anyone interested in mental health advocacy and seeking resources to aid in their mental health journey.

More about Brian: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/brian-sachetta

Short bio: Brian Sachetta is the author and owner of Get Out of Your Head®, a brand and book series that seeks to help folks overcome anxiety and depression. By trade, Brian is a software developer. He combines his experiences in the tech world with previous mental health battles to draw parallels between computer systems and the human mind and give readers practical strategies for evading their own psychological demons. Brian currently has two books on the market, “Get Out of Your Head: A Toolkit for Living with and Overcoming Anxiety” and “Get Out of Your Head Vol. 2: Navigating the Abyss of Depression.” His mission is to help as many sufferers as possible through not only those books but also his blog and podcast appearances.

Unveiling the journey of resilience: This episode is a must-listen for adult survivors of childhood abuse, their supporters, and anyone seeking insight into the transformative power of healing and understanding.

In this episode, MommaFoxFire talks with Heather Schulien about Emotional Struggles in Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse. Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

In this deeply insightful podcast episode, I am joined by Heather Schulien as she sheds light on the emotional struggles faced by adult survivors of childhood abuse. The conversation delves into the unique challenges folks encounter and offers practical tools and strategies for healing and self-empowerment.

We begin by acknowledging the emotional toll that childhood abuse can have on survivors and emphasizes the importance of seeking professional help. Recognizing that therapy may not always be accessible to everyone, Heather points out alternative resources, such as educational videos and books by experts.

A significant topic we explore in this discussion is the impact of childhood abuse on self-worth and self-perception. Adult survivors often grapple with feelings of inadequacy and negative self-image, which can hinder their emotional growth and interpersonal relationships. Heather shares an empowering exercise called "Roses and Thorns," a family exercise that fosters open communication and emotional intelligence among family members, helping survivors regain their self-worth and build healthier relationships.

Our conversation shifts to the vital role of self-compassion and self-care in the healing process. Heather emphasizes prioritizing well-being and seeking support from others. We encourage survivors to jot down their worries and tasks before bedtime to prevent intrusive thoughts, fostering a more restful sleep. Mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing exercises and guided meditation, are also something that can combat anxiety and promote emotional well-being.

This episode touches on the pervasive misconception that individuals should handle their emotional struggles alone. We challenge this belief and urge survivors to seek help, whether through therapy, support groups, or trusted friends and family. Understanding that it is okay to ask for assistance is essential for healing and growth.

We wrap up our conversation together by exploring the concept of perfectionism, which often plagues survivors of childhood abuse. Heather emphasizes that striving for perfection is unrealistic and unattainable, leading to further emotional distress. Instead, embracing imperfections and acknowledging one's accomplishments can help survivors build resilience and cultivate a more positive self-image.

Throughout the episode, Heather compassionately addresses the unique challenges faced by adult survivors of childhood abuse. She offers practical tools and techniques to help survivors navigate their emotional struggles and embark on a journey of healing and self-empowerment. This conversation serves as an empowering reminder that seeking support and practicing self-compassion are essential steps towards reclaiming emotional well-being and finding inner strength.

More about Heather: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/heather-schulien

Short bio: Heather Schulien is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over two decades of experience providing mental health care to adults, children, and veterans in Chicago, IL. She earned a Master of Science (MS) Degree in Child Development from Erikson Institute and a Master of Social Work (MSW) concurrently. In addition to running her therapy private practice, she serves on the DEI committee of the National Association of Social Workers-Illinois Chapter. Her specialties include adult survivors of childhood trauma, adoption, anxiety, academic planning, career planning, child development, and depression.

Harnessing the power of education and technology against home violence! This episode is a must-listen for advocates, change-makers, and anyone passionate about empowering survivors and creating a safer world through innovative approaches.

In this episode, MommaFoxFire talks with Sabrina Osso about Education, Technology & Domestic Violence. Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

More about Sabrina: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/sabrina-osso

Short bio: Sabrina Osso is Founder and CEO of OSSO SAFE…Feel safe where you live, work, and play.  She is a TEDx Speaker, Author, and Real Estate Agent on promoting safety and preventing violence in the workplace, schools, and in places of residence.  Sabrina’s personal and professional experience with the subject allows her to bring a unique and holistic approach as a solution. She is also a professional dancer/teacher who uses her performance abilities to educate on the subject.  As a real estate agent, Sabrina is bridging the real estate industry with Osso Safe.

Unlock the secrets to thriving in relationships! A must-listen for couples, engaged partners, and anyone interested in exploring the transformative power of different types of couples therapy.

Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

In this episode of "Even Tacos Fall Apart," I engage in a candid and insightful conversation with Carissa Lataillade, a licensed marriage and family therapist (MFT). The discussion delves into her personal journey, experiences in couples therapy and transition into becoming a therapist.

The conversation begins with Carissa sharing her initial hesitation about becoming a therapist, as she struggled with societal expectations and her own doubts. She candidly admits that she had reservations about the field, but ultimately embraced it as a calling, recognizing the importance of mental health and therapy.

Carissa shares her experiences in couples therapy and emphasizes that the therapist is not there to "save" a relationship. Instead, she sees herself as a guide, offering support and tools for couples to navigate their own path. The goal is to empower individuals to make decisions that align with their values and desires, rather than relying on the therapist to make decisions for them.

Throughout the conversation, Carissa emphasizes the significance of communication and compromise in relationships. She stresses the importance of finding a balance between personal time and time invested in a relationship or family. She also highlights the value of seeking support from friends and peers who can relate to one's experiences, especially during challenging times like divorce.

The episode also explores Carissa's journey to becoming a therapist, which she humorously describes as a winding road. From contemplating a career in law or accounting to discovering her passion for therapy, she shares her struggles and triumphs in pursuing her dream profession. She navigated the challenges of schooling and internships, especially during the pandemic, and eventually found herself becoming a better therapist as a result.

As a therapist, Carissa emphasizes the importance of self-care for mental health professionals. She acknowledges that therapy can be emotionally draining, and therapists must prioritize their own well-being to provide the best care for their clients. Carissa shares her personal experience with mental health care, advocating for therapists to seek support when needed and take time off when necessary.

Throughout the episode, Carissa's engaging and down-to-earth personality shines through, making her insights relatable and approachable. She shares stories from her own life, including struggles with procrastination and self-discovery, which further humanizes her as a therapist and person.

This episode offers a glimpse into the world of couples therapy and the journey of a therapist. Carissa's passion for her work is evident, and her insights provide valuable lessons for both professionals and individuals seeking to improve their relationships and mental well-being. From debunking misconceptions about therapy to emphasizing the importance of self-care, her wisdom and warmth make this episode a must-listen for anyone interested in mental health, relationships or the path to becoming a therapist!

More about Carissa: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/carissa-lataillade

Short bio: Carissa is a Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist and a Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor with a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University. She is passionate about empowering individuals and couples to be their best selves and to thrive. Carissa has an eclectic approach, utilizing various theoretical approaches, real-life experience, and authenticity to develop meaningful connections with clients.

Explore the profound impact of beliefs on the journey of grief! This episode is for anyone seeking solace, understanding, and a deeper perspective on how belief in life after death shapes the healing process.

In this episode, MommaFoxFire talks with Bob Ginsberg about How Belief in Life After Death Impacts Grieving. Thank you so much for listening - be sure to like/review/rate/subscribe on your favorite podcast platform - any support is super helpful!

More about Bob: https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/bob-ginsberg

Short bio: Bob Ginsberg started researching the evidence for survival of consciousness soon after his daughter died in 2002. Devastated by the loss, he needed science to tell him if she still existed in some form. In 2004 Bob and his wife Phran founded Forever Family Foundation (foreverfamilyfoundation.org), a global not for profit that educates the public about evidence that we are more than our physical bodies.