Everybody Can't Go Convos

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Find Dimyas at https://perdueleadership.com/
IG: the_dimyas_perdue

Summary: In this conversation, Dimyas Perdue, a dynamic speaker and author, discusses the importance of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. He emphasizes the need to recognize and understand our emotions, as well as manage them effectively. Perdue highlights the societal expectations placed on men, particularly black men, to suppress their emotions, and encourages creating safe spaces for emotional expression. He shares personal experiences of emotional struggles and loss, emphasizing the importance of feeling and managing emotions. Perdue also discusses the concept of choosing what to carry and letting go of unnecessary burdens in order to elevate oneself. In this conversation, Dimyas Perdue discusses the importance of shedding unnecessary weight in order to move forward in life. He emphasizes the need to let go of people, emotions, and situations that no longer serve us. Dimyas also highlights the significance of writing down our vision and being mindful of the packs we carry. He encourages empathy and social awareness, reminding us that everyone has a hidden depth beneath the surface. Dimyas shares his personal experiences of realizing that not everyone can go with us on our journey and the importance of making the decision to leave certain situations behind. He concludes by urging listeners to autograph their work with excellence and make the most of the time they have.

Takeaways
Self-awareness is the first key component of emotional intelligence, and it involves recognizing and understanding our emotions.
Societal expectations often limit men, especially black men, in expressing their emotions fully, leading to emotional suppression and explosive anger.
Creating safe spaces for emotional expression is crucial for men to explore a wider range of emotions and improve their relationships.
Choosing what to carry and letting go of unnecessary burdens is essential for personal growth and elevation. Shedding unnecessary weight is crucial for personal growth and progress.
Letting go of people, emotions, and situations that no longer serve us is necessary for our own well-being.
Writing down our vision helps us clarify our goals and make informed decisions about who can accompany us on our journey.
Practicing empathy and social awareness allows us to understand others on a deeper level and build more effective relationships.
Not everyone can go with us on our journey, and it's important to recognize when it's time to leave certain situations behind.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction
03:06 The Importance of Self-Awareness
06:45 Managing Emotions and Overcoming Emotional Hijacking
10:18 Societal Expectations and Expressing Emotions
15:10 Creating Safe Spaces for Emotional Expression
24:43 Shedding Unnecessary Weight
26:07 Letting Go and Moving On
27:16 Not Everyone Can Go
28:34 Writing the Vision
29:30 Being Mindful of Swapping Packs
31:48 Empathy and Social Awareness
34:17 Experiencing an 'Everybody Can't Go' Moment
38:04 The Power of the Book
39:57 Closing Remarks

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www.jasabraham.com/Apply? IG: @the_jasabraham

Summary: In this conversation, Jessi interviews Jas Abraham, also known as The Boundaries Coach, about the importance of setting boundaries in our lives. Jas shares her personal journey of discovering boundaries as a calling and transitioning it into a business. They discuss the misconceptions about boundaries and how they are not about control but rather about saying yes to ourselves. They also explore the negative effects of not setting boundaries and the importance of setting boundaries with ourselves and others. The conversation concludes with practical tips on starting to implement boundaries and saying no to protect our capacity. In this conversation, Jas Abraham, the boundaries coach, and Jessi discuss the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing in order to create a healthy and fulfilling life. They emphasize the need to surround yourself with people who genuinely care about your well-being and support your goals. They also highlight the importance of prioritizing facts over feelings when making decisions and saying no when necessary. Additionally, they provide resources for personal growth and discuss how to deal with boundary violations and reintroduce boundaries in relationships. They conclude by emphasizing the responsibility of teaching people how to treat you.

Takeaways
- Boundaries are not about control but about saying yes to ourselves and protecting our capacity.
- Not setting boundaries can lead to resentment, unmet expectations, and feeling taken advantage of.
- Setting boundaries with ourselves is important for self-care and honoring our capacity.
- Setting boundaries with others involves saying no and teaching people how to treat us.
- Saying no is not mean, but a way to prioritize ourselves and our goals. Set boundaries and prioritize to create a healthy and fulfilling life.
- Surround yourself with people who genuinely care about your well-being and support your goals.
- Prioritize facts over feelings when making decisions.
- Learn to say no when necessary.
- Seek resources for personal growth and development.
- Deal with boundary violations by having necessary conversations and, if needed, cutting off toxic relationships.
- Reintroduce boundaries in relationships by testing and observing actions.
- Focus on prioritization rather than balance.
- Teach people how to treat you by communicating your boundaries and expectations.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
01:10 Discovering Boundaries as a Calling
05:00 Understanding Boundaries
06:47 Misconceptions about Boundaries
08:13 Boundaries as Self-Care
10:50 Negative Effects of Not Setting Boundaries
12:18 Setting Boundaries with Yourself
14:54 Setting Boundaries with Others
22:02 Setting Healthy Boundaries with Yourself
25:17 Saying No and Honoring Your Capacity
28:17 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing
30:04 The Importance of People Who Care
32:11 Facts Over Feelings
33:36 Writing the Vision and Saying No
36:12 Resources for Personal Growth
37:12 Dealing with Boundary Violations
42:49 Reintroducing Boundaries
45:11 Prioritization Over Balance
49:47 Teaching People How to Treat You

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Find BenBak Coaching at: benbekcoaching.com
YT:  @benbakayoko24  
IG: @BenBakCoaching

Summary: In this conversation, Jessi interviews Ben Bakayoko, a coach and entrepreneur. Ben shares his background and journey, including his struggles with low self-esteem and how he overcame them. He discusses his coaching program and the impact he has had on his clients' lives. Ben emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and authenticity in personal growth and understanding others. He also talks about the challenges of navigating relationships and setting boundaries. Overall, the conversation highlights the power of personal development and the role it plays in achieving success and fulfillment. In this conversation, Ben and Jessi discuss the importance of setting boundaries with family, understanding and accepting others, embracing change and growth, writing down your vision, thinking on paper, the pain of change and the comfort of familiarity, and the role of support and coaching in making change.

Takeaways
Self-awareness and authenticity are key to personal growth and success.
Understanding and accepting others for who they are is crucial in building healthy relationships.
Navigating relationships requires setting boundaries and communicating effectively.
Personal development and coaching can have a profound impact on transforming lives. Setting boundaries with family is important to avoid feeling overwhelmed and to maintain a healthy relationship.
Understanding and accepting others for who they are, rather than trying to change them, leads to stronger relationships.
Embracing change and growth is necessary for personal development and success.
Writing down your vision helps clarify your goals and provides a roadmap for achieving them.
Thinking on paper is a powerful tool for self-reflection and problem-solving.
Change can be uncomfortable and challenging, but it is necessary for personal growth.
Having a support system and coaching can greatly enhance your ability to make positive changes in your life.
Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background
01:34 Ben's Coaching Program
05:07 Ben's Journey and Lessons Learned
09:15 Ben's Current Coaching Offerings
10:14 Understanding Yourself and Others
15:07 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Authenticity
24:02 Navigating Relationships and Setting Boundaries
25:06 Setting Boundaries with Family
26:32 Understanding and Accepting Others
28:09 Embracing Change and Growth
29:05 The Importance of Writing Down Your Vision
32:26 The Power of Thinking on Paper
36:08 The Pain of Change and the Comfort of Familiarity
45:23 The Role of Support and Coaching in Making Change

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Find Guy on socials:
IG: @ Access_Grant_ED
FB: @GettingtotheGrants

Summary: In this conversation, Guy Holley discusses his journey with Access GrantED, a company that helps organizations secure grants. He shares how his desire to see communities changed led him to start the company and provide grant writing workshops. Guy emphasizes the importance of time and task management in achieving success. He also talks about the challenges he faced in transitioning to full-time work with Access GrantED and the need to set boundaries. Guy advises listeners to focus on themselves, identify one thing they can do, and habit stack to make progress. In this conversation, Guy Holley discusses grants and provides valuable insights for individuals and businesses looking to secure funding. He addresses misconceptions about grants and highlights the availability of grants for both nonprofits and small businesses. He also emphasizes the focus on economic development and support for underrepresented groups. Guy shares tips for identifying legitimate grants and avoiding scams. He explains the grant writing process and the importance of due diligence. Overall, this conversation provides valuable information for anyone interested in pursuing grants.

Takeaways
- Access Grant Ed was born out of Guy's desire to see communities changed and find a better way to secure funding for impactful work.
- Time and task management are crucial for success. Setting boundaries and prioritizing tasks can help create more time for important work.
- Transitioning to full-time work with Access Grant Ed requires personal growth and the ability to overcome challenges.
- Compartmentalizing and seeking the right resources are important for business growth and success.
- Advice for making similar transitions includes focusing on oneself, identifying one thing to start with, and habit stacking to incorporate new practices into daily routines. 
- Grants are not limited to nonprofits and can also be available for small businesses.
- There is a focus on economic development and support for underrepresented groups in grant funding.
- When researching grants, it is important to be cautious of scams and to conduct due diligence.
- The grant writing process requires careful planning and understanding of the specific requirements.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
02:53 The Birth of Access Grant Ed
06:08 Transitioning to Full-Time Work with Access Grant Ed
09:03 Challenges and Personal Growth
14:04 Compartmentalizing and Seeking the Right Resources
23:50 Misconceptions about Grants
25:13 Grants for Nonprofits and Small Businesses
27:14 Grants for Economic Development and Underrepresented Groups
29:03 Identifying Legitimate Grants
30:00 Red Flags and Due Diligence
36:04 The Grant Writing Process

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Get deeper into Married Into C.R.A.Z.Y. at https://everybodycantgo--getitdone.thrivecart.com/rtb/
and find Snooks & Lovey on IG and YouTube  @marriedintocrazy  

Summary: Ernie and Ronna Cason, hosts of the Married Into Crazy podcast, share their insights on counseling married couples and creating a vision for a successful marriage. They discuss the origins of their brand and the importance of finding like-minded couples. They also emphasize the need for individuality within a marriage while maintaining a shared vision. The couple provides tips for couples with strong individual visions and highlights the importance of checking in and compromising. They encourage couples to enjoy the journey of marriage and appreciate the scenery along the way.

Takeaways
- Find like-minded couples who can serve as positive examples for your marriage.
- Create a shared vision for your marriage that incorporates individual goals and dreams.
- Regularly check in with each other to discuss feelings, needs, and goals.
- Compromise and find common ground when merging individual visions.
- Enjoy the journey of marriage and appreciate the experiences and challenges along the way.

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YT: www.youtube.com/@parissama2972 IG: @paris.sama FB: Paris Sama

Summary: In this conversation, Paris Sama, a musical artist, shares his journey as an artist and the inspiration behind his music. He discusses how writing and poetry became a form of expression for him and how he found solace and clarity through solitude. Paris Sama also talks about the influence of his urban and rural background on his art and the importance of adaptability. He emphasizes the need for complete and well-structured bodies of work and shares his plans for future music. Listeners can find his music and videos on various platforms.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:16 Inspiration for Becoming an Artist
04:42 Urban and Rural Background
07:32 Adaptability and Transitioning to Poetry
09:57 Finding Clarity and Moving to Solitude
13:08 Transitions and Expectations
22:23 Influence of Isolation on Visuals
29:36 Future Music and Where to Find Paris Sama

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Summary: In this conversation, Aisha Moore discusses the importance of self-care and debunks misconceptions surrounding it. She emphasizes the need for self-care to be a daily habit and tailored to individual needs. Aisha also highlights the significance of adjusting self-care practices during different seasons and escalating self-care during stressful periods. She provides a four-step framework for creating a self-care routine: clarity, awareness, reframing, and embracing. In this conversation, Aisha Moore discusses the importance of embracing self-care and provides tips for improving and maintaining self-care practices. She emphasizes the need to align self-care activities with the specific stressors in one's life and regularly audit and adjust self-care routines. Aisha also shares where listeners can find her online for more resources and insights.

Takeaways
Self-care is not a luxury or indulgence, but a necessary practice for everyone.
Self-care should be a daily habit and tailored to individual needs.
Adjust self-care practices during different seasons and escalate self-care during stressful periods.
Use the CARE framework: Clarity, Awareness, Reframing, and Embracing to create a self-care routine. Embrace self-care by actively engaging in practices that address your specific stressors.
Regularly audit your self-care routine to ensure it is aligned with your current needs and stressors.
Make adjustments to your self-care practices as necessary to maintain optimal well-being.
Connect with Aisha Moore on her website selfcarebyaisha.com and on social media for additional self-care resources and insights.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Self-Care and Aisha Moore
02:04 Misconceptions about Self-Care
05:40 Making Self-Care an Everyday Habit
07:20 The Importance of Consistent Self-Care
09:42 Tailoring Self-Care to Individual Needs
10:40 Changing Self-Care Activities Seasonally
12:17 Escalating Self-Care during Stressful Periods
16:02 Creating a Self-Care Routine for Beginners
46:23 The Importance of Embracing Self-Care
47:30 Tips for Ramping Up Self-Care
50:17 Regularly Auditing and Maintaining Self-Care
51:35 Where to Find Aisha Moore Online

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Check out Terra Cartina's book "You Are Not Crazy It May Be Chaos" at https://www.terracartina.com/new-book Follow IG @IamTerraCartina

Summary: In this conversation, Jessi interviews Tara Cartina, a coach and consultant specializing in family and team coaching. They discuss the importance of emotional intelligence for children and the challenges they face in expressing themselves. Tara emphasizes the need for parents to listen without responding, stop being a superhero, and share their own experiences to help children navigate their own challenges. They also discuss the importance of building a support system and being intentional about forming relationships. Tara highlights the impact parents have on their children and the importance of fixing ourselves first to pass down generational health.

Takeaways
- Listen to children without judgment and provide a safe space for them to express themselves.
- Stop being a superhero and allow children to develop critical thinking and problem-solving skills.
- Share your own experiences with children to teach them how to navigate challenges.
- Build a support system of people who provide positive support and lift you up.
- Children emulate their parents, so it is important to fix ourselves first and pass down generational health.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
02:19 Coaching and Consulting for Families and Teams
06:18 Navigating Social Dynamics for Youth
11:12 Being a Strong Advocate for Children
14:50 Building a Support System
22:18 Not Everyone in Your Circle is a Support System
28:09 The Trickle-Down Effect: Children Emulate Their Parents
33:24 Fixing Ourselves First
38:28 Building a Support System for the Family
41:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Summary:
In this conversation, Jessi Holley and Riri Cohn Hardy discuss the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people and setting boundaries. Riri shares her journey of realizing the need for change and finding a new circle of friends who were supportive and aligned with her goals. They emphasize the importance of self-reflection, growth, and learning from challenging situations. They also discuss the power of having a vision and being part of a community that supports and uplifts you.

Takeaways:
-Surround yourself with people who align with your goals and support your growth.
-Set boundaries to protect your well-being and ensure healthy relationships.
-Learn from challenging situations and use them as opportunities for growth.
-Create a vision for your life and seek out a community that supports and uplifts you.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background
01:00 Realizing the Need for Change
06:18 Moving Outside the City and Finding a New Circle
10:04 Learning from Successful Friends
13:18 Creating Your Own Community
16:21 The Importance of Boundaries
25:06 Difficult Conversations and Accountability
28:17 Learning from Challenging Situations
33:03 Knowing Yourself and Setting Boundaries
40:02 Choosing Growth and Surrounding Yourself with the Right People
47:26 The Power of Vision and Community
48:55 Conclusion and Gratitude

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In this conversation, Terrence and Yolanda Brown discuss their growth journey as a couple and the importance of self-assessment and choosing the right circle. They share how they started their growth journeys individually and how they brought their growth together in their marriage. The flight assessment played a significant role in their communication and understanding of each other's strengths and weaknesses. They also talk about the challenges they faced and the importance of letting go of relationships and environments that were not aligned with their goals. Overall, their story emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, communication, and surrounding oneself with the right people. In this conversation, Terance Brown and Jessi discuss the power of belief, the importance of community, and the unlimited potential for success. They emphasize the need to take action, follow a blueprint, and surround oneself with the right people. They also highlight the integration of business, spirituality, and science in personal growth. The conversation explores the significance of building godly marriages and addressing personal issues to create a strong foundation. They conclude by expressing the desire to continue the conversation with Yolanda and delve deeper into specific topics.
Takeaways:
- Self-assessment and self-awareness are crucial for personal growth and building a strong foundation in a relationship.
- Choosing the right circle of friends and mentors who align with your goals and values is essential for personal and professional growth.
- Communication and understanding each other's strengths and weaknesses are key to a successful relationship.
- Letting go of relationships and environments that do not support your growth is necessary for personal development. Believing in what is possible is crucial for personal growth and success.
- The community plays a significant role in providing support and inspiration.
- Taking action and following a blueprint are essential for achieving goals.
- Surrounding oneself with the right people is crucial for personal and professional growth.
- Integrating business, spirituality, and science can lead to holistic personal development.
- Building a strong foundation in a marriage requires addressing personal issues and having a shared vision.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction
04:02 Starting the Growth Journey
10:32 Communication and Understanding
15:16 The Impact of the Flight Assessment
21:32 Challenges and Growth
32:42 The Importance of Self-Assessment
37:23 Choosing the Right Circle
48:18 Discovering New Possibilities
49:18 Believing in the Power of the Community
50:19 Unlimited Potential and Building Together
51:41 Taking Action and Following the Blueprint
52:32 The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with the Right People
53:29 Integrating Business, Spirituality, and Science
54:55 Leaving Behind Negative Influences and Embracing Growth
56:41 Building Godly Marriages
57:10 Having a Vision and Addressing Personal Issues
58:30 Continuing the Conversation with Yolanda

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