In this episode of the Everyday Judaism Podcast, Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe addresses Siman 26 of the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, focusing on the laws of the mourner’s Kaddish and the role of the chazan (prayer leader) for mourners. He explains that reciting Kaddish and serving as chazan are significant acts of merit for deceased parents, ideally performed by one person for clarity, though modern practice often involves multiple mourners reciting Kaddish in unison to avoid confusion. Kaddish declares Hashem as the master of the universe, reminding us of life’s purpose and the transient nature of existence. Rabbi Wolbe contrasts the reflective clarity gained at a mourner’s house, which prompts introspection about life’s purpose, with the distractions of a wedding celebration, as per the Talmud’s teaching. Key halachic points include:

1. Merit of Kaddish: The Midrash highlights that a child’s recitation of Kaddish saves parents from harsh judgment, making it customary for children (or community members, if no children exist) to recite Kaddish, lead prayers (especially after Shabbos), or take the Maftir Aliyah.
2. Precedence Rules: Mourners within the seven-day Shiva period take precedence over those in the 30-day shloshim, the year-long mourning, or annual Yahrtzeit observers. Shiva begins from burial, not death, and Kaddish obligations persist even if a festival interrupts Shiva, unlike other mourning practices.
3. Minors and Yahrzeit: A minor in Shiva shares Kaddish opportunities with yahrtzeit observers, but an adult in Shiva takes precedence, potentially reciting all Kaddishes except one allocated to others via a lot. Modern congregations typically have all mourners recite together, bypassing strict precedence.
4. Mourning Periods: Rabbi Wolbe outlines four mourning stages—Shiva (seven days, with the first three for intense grief), shloshim (30 days), the year, and annual yahrtzeit—noting the psychological wisdom of Shiva's structure for processing loss. He advises silence when visiting mourners unless prompted, sharing personal anecdotes about insensitive comments made during Shiva for his daughter’s and sister’s losses, emphasizing the need for sensitivity.

The episode pauses at halacha six, to be continued, and opens the floor for questions in the Ask Away session. Rabbi Wolbe underscores the spiritual and psychological significance of Kaddish and mourning practices, urging listeners to approach them with purpose and sensitivity.

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Recorded in the TORCH Centre - Levin Family Studio (B) to a live audience on August 31, 2025, in Houston, Texas.
Released as Podcast on September 30, 2025
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