Everything Hurts

Cheryl and Danielle are taking the rest of the summer off! We know your schedules are super wonky with all that's happening during these months, and Cheryl's gonna need a support group once her daughter goes off to college in a few weeks.

We will be back mid-September with all-new guests and episodes, and a new timing format. In the meantime, catch up on any episodes you may have missed, and let us know what you'd like to hear from us in the future!

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Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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In Episode 27, Danielle and Cheryl are joined again by guest Katelin Cashman, a PA who specializes in women’s midlife health, to talk about exercise in midlife. As estrogen packs up its bags and leaves, our bones change and become weaker, muscles get smaller, connective tissue weakens (hello, balance), we start to feel the wear and tear of osteoarthritis, and unexplained joint aches and muscle pains bounce around (they might evade medical tests, but they’re real – Kate validates it!). We find out that exercise is the answer to so many WTFs. Kate breaks down how it improves your cardio respiratory health, slows down weight gain, increases muscle mass and bone health, and betters your mental health. She also addresses what your weight actually means (hint: the number on the scale isn’t the info to focus on). She notes expert guidelines for cardio, as well as new and exciting strength training and balance recommendations. She touches on mid-life muscle mass loss (why your muscles don’t pop anymore after a workout) and how to fight that battle. Bonus: You can turn anything into a HIIT workout because any movement is better than no movement.

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Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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U.S. Dept of Health and Human Services physical guidelines

PAR-Q questionnaire

In Episode 26, Danielle and Cheryl talk about the importance of planning the party you *won’t* be around to see. Of course no one wants to think about their demise, but there are a lot of things you should be making decisions about now, so that your crazy Aunt Patty isn’t making decisions about whether to bury you in the local cemetery or scatter your ashes off the back of a cruise ship in Bermuda. They discuss last wishes, planning for who is going to take your belongings and pets, and whether they’re going to need a bouncer at their funeral to keep out the people they don’t want there. They’re finding the humor in making practical decisions about what many might consider morbid. 

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Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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2017 Funeral Directors Association Study

10 haunted places in Massachusetts that you can visit

Danielle and Cheryl have been talking for 25 episodes. To celebrate, they decided you should hear someone else talk for a change – so they invited Menopause Specialist Katelin Cashman, PA, back to talk about bone health in middle age women. While 50% to 85% of variation in bone mineral density is due to genetics (thanks mom), you can also make changes in your diet, lifestyle, weight training, and supplements to optimize your skeletal system. Katelin explains bone density (along with other metrics for bone health) and DEXA scans (the gold standard on measuring), and then helps you understand what those tests mean and how they can help you through your mid-life bone health journey. The World Health Organization estimates 30% of Caucasian post-menopausal women already have osteoporosis. Don’t be one of them. Like Cheryl. Cheryl is one of them. 

We want to hear from you! 

Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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Links mentioned in this episode:

• Cohen, A., & Shane, E. (2013). Evaluation and management of the premenopausal woman with low BMD. Current osteoporosis reports, 11(4), 276–285. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11914-013-0161-4
• Crandall CJ, Larson J, Wright NC, et al. Serial Bone Density Measurement and Incident Fracture Risk Discrimination in Postmenopausal Women. JAMA Intern Med. 2020;180(9):1232–1240. doi:10.1001/jamainternmed.2020.2986
• D. Farlay, Y. Bala, S. Rizzo, S. Bare, J.M. Lappe, R. Recker, G. Boivin,
• Bone remodeling and bone matrix quality before and after menopause in healthy women, Bone, Volume 128, 2019, 115030, ISSN 8756-3282, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bone.2019.08.003.
• Elshaikh, A. O., Shah, L., Joy Mathew, C., Lee, R., Jose, M. T., & Cancarevic, I. (2020). Influence of Vitamin K on Bone Mineral Density and Osteoporosis. Cureus, 12(10), e10816. https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.10816
• Ganesan K, Goyal A, Roane D. Bisphosphonate. [Updated 2023 Jul 3]. In: StatPearls [Internet]. Treasure Island (FL): StatPearls Publishing; 2025 Jan-. Available from: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470248/
• Gosset A, Pouillès JM, Trémollieres F. Menopausal hormone therapy for the management of osteoporosis. Best Pract Res Clin Endocrinol Metab. 2021 Dec;35(6):101551. doi: 10.1016/j.beem.2021.101551. Epub 2021 Jun 2. PMID: 34119418.
• Guzon-Illescas, O., Perez Fernandez, E., Crespí Villarias, N., Quirós Donate, F. J., Peña, M., Alonso-Blas, C., García-Vadillo, A., & Mazzucchelli, R. (2019). Mortality after osteoporotic hip fracture: incidence, trends, and associated factors. Journal of orthopaedic surgery and research, 14(1), 203. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13018-019-1226-6
• Karlamangla, A. S., Burnett-Bowie, S. M., & Crandall, C. J. (2018). Bone Health During the Menopause Transition and Beyond. Obstetrics and gynecology clinics of North America, 45(4), 695–708. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ogc.2018.07.012
• Miller PD. Management of osteoporosis. Advances in Internal Medicine 44:175-207, 1999.
• NAMS POSITION STATEMENT Management of osteoporosis in postmenopausal women: the 2021 position stat

With Danielle’s birthday coming up, Episode 24 is full of chatter about gifts and regifting. There are studies that show that regifting is actually completely OK with the gift giver, but the gift receivers need to chill out and stop feeling so guilty (there’s even National Regifting Day on December 27 this year). They also laugh about themed gifts – calling to mind Cheryl’s momentary mention of liking owls that caused an avalanche of owl-themed items and, of course, Danielle’s love of squares turning into a borage of gifts that resemble the furry backyard visitors. In the discussion are gift cards (are they thoughtless) and whether useful gifts are taboo (spoiler alert: you can get Danielle a juicer and Cheryl a new vacuum and neither of them will balk). And, if you feel so moved, make a donation to Danielle’s Blue's Bridge here.

We want to hear from you! 

Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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Links mentioned in this episode:

The Association for Psychological Science, “The Gifts We Keep on Giving: Documenting and Destigmatizing the Regifting Taboo”

Blue's Bridge

It's summertime, so Cheryl and Danielle are taking a well-deserved day off for the July 4th holiday!  

We want to hear from you! 

Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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In Episode 23, Danielle and Cheryl are joined once again by Boston-based photographer Melissa Ostrow and they’re talking about photos – and how everyone looks the same in them these days. Going far beyond following trends, the trio has decided that platforms like TikTok and Instagram (influencers, they’re looking straight at you) are taking creativity away and pushing one similar look that lacks individuality. Cheryl, leaning on her early love of magazines that forged her career path, digs deep into the world of ‘80s glossies like Seventeen, Sassy and Teen Beat and how teens would grab a little inspiration from each to make their looks their own. Melissa believes it’s all performative these days – doing it for photos  – which would explain bizarre trends like Bed Parties and social media “hauls,” showing off and showing everyone what you bought for yourself or your kid. 

We want to hear from you! 

Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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Price breakdown analyst we love Destinee Wilson

Melissa Ostrow

In Episode 22, Danielle and Cheryl have an amazing guest who wants to help you put your best face forward – literally. Melissa Ostrow is a well-known photographer in the Boston area who has been making people look amazing in front of the camera for two decades in her professional career of portraits, party pics, corporate events, and more. She takes the hosts through a litany of tips on how to make sure you get your good side with every photo you take (spoiler alert: it’s not that high camera and crossed leg that you’ve been taught). 

Melissa Ostrow

We want to hear from you! 

Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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Episode 21 begins with Cheryl’s admission that she’s weak – she colored her hair after six months of grey root grow out. Then she and Danielle discuss how we’re becoming new people in a sense as we age and it’s hard - saying goodbye to who we were, and embracing (although sometimes not too eagerly) who we are now. For example, they remember when going out was just a fun thing to do, even…gasp…last minute. Now we have to check the restaurant, check the parking, check the walking distance to the restaurant from the parking, and then we have to check ourselves, as we try to figure out what to wear (AKA what still fits). Once again, we spent years shaking our heads when our folks stressed out about going places and now that’s exactly what we’re doing. 

We want to hear from you! 

Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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Was Avril Lavigne right - is life just too complicated? In Episode 20, Danielle and Cheryl realize that in their 30s, they were just training to be an adult. Now, it’s go time. At this age, we have mortgages, kids, aging parents, career changes, ever-changing bodies, and the constant challenge of making everyone happy. A wise friend once explained that it’s because we’re trying to make everyone happy no one ends up being happy, while another mentioned that everyone wants change but no one’s actually implementing it. So here Danielle and Cheryl are, craving the simplicity of what they learned back in the day – getting out of quicksand (a skill they thought would play a bigger role in their adult lives than it actually has), playing the recorder, and square dance do-si-do-ing. They also touch upon modern complications like email hacking, 15-character passwords, two-step authentications, and how no one actually mails mail anymore. 

We want to hear from you! 

Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. 

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