EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids

In this heartfelt mini-episode, Dr. Tay sheds light on the disturbing practice of using seclusion rooms for dysregulated children, often presented under names like 'calm down rooms' or 'regulation rooms.' Highlighting the traumatic impact of these practices, Dr. Tay empowers parents with information on how to identify and advocate against the use of these rooms. The episode includes practical tips for parents on educating themselves about state laws, inquiring about school policies in IEP meetings, and proposing proactive, humane solutions. Dr. Tay calls for community unity in advocating for neurodiversity-affirming care and ensuring autistic children are treated with dignity and respect.

00:00 Introduction to a Difficult Topic

00:29 Understanding Seclusion Rooms

01:42 Real-Life Stories and Impact

02:56 Advocating for Change

08:32 Proactive Strategies and Solutions

15:35 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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in this episode, Dr. Tay talks about helpful tips and strategies for autism families navigating the holiday season. we discuss the importance of preparing for potential disruptions to routines, setting realistic expectations, giving choices, and setting boundaries. Dr. Tay addresses several elements including helping your child anticipate upcoming events, being mindful of safe foods, empowering your child by involving them in the process, and handling comments from others. there is an emphasis on the importance of being present during these moments and cherishing the progress that your child has made since the last holiday season.

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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In this special mini-episode Dr. Tay, a child psychologist specializing in autism, discusses how extended family members can better support parents of autistic children during the holiday season. Drawing on over a decade of experience and direct feedback from parents, Dr. Tay shares practical advice, such as understanding triggers, recognizing the effort parents put into preparing for events, and ways to offer meaningful help. This episode is what your loved one wants you to know! A special thank you to the parents who submitted their insights and are featured on this episode.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

01:12 Understanding Autism and Neurodiversity

02:21 Holiday Support for Autistic Children

03:29 Parental Insights and Requests

06:38 Common Misunderstandings and Challenges

15:07 Sensory and Social Considerations

18:38 Creating a Supportive Environment for Neurodivergent Children

19:05 Offering Help and Dropping Judgment

20:21 Understanding Meltdowns and Neurodivergence

21:11 Challenges in Getting Diagnoses and Support

21:51 Validating Parents' Efforts and Experiences

23:23 Navigating Family Traditions and Accommodations

27:18 Grief and Emotional Complexity in Parenting

32:08 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes back Ashley Barlow, a special education attorney and advocate, for her third appearance. The discussion dives into the complexities of special education disputes, specifically focusing on mediation, due process, and parental rights. They explore the challenges parents face with school systems, legal options available, and the importance of advocacy and negotiation. Essential resources and strategies for navigating these situations are also shared, providing parents with valuable insights to better support their children’s education.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Reintroduction

00:33 Overview of Today's Topic

01:18 Host and Guest Backgrounds

02:43 Challenges in Special Education

03:59 Navigating Special Education Law

05:21 Advocacy and Negotiation Strategies

10:36 Understanding Due Process

23:32 Legal Counteractions in School Disputes

24:05 Understanding Independent Educational Evaluations (IEE)

24:43 Financial Considerations and Attorney Fees

26:24 The Role of Due Process in Special Education

28:50 Navigating 504 Plans and Anti-Discrimination Laws

36:44 Alternative Approaches to Due Process

41:32 Final Thoughts and Resources for Parents

44:08 Wrap-Up and Next Steps

RESOURCES

⚡️ listen to episodes 53 and 57 for more information about special education from Ashley as well as her podcast The Collaborative IEP

⚡️ see all that Ashley has to offer here, including her newly launched IEP Guru Academy

⚡️ follow Ashley on Instagram @thecollaborativeiep

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this episode, Dr. Tay invites Alyssa Campbell of Seed & Sew to discuss the importance of supporting autistic students at a classroom-wide level, particularly focusing on their nervous system and sensory regulation. Alyssa, with her extensive background in early childhood education and emotional development, shares insights and practical strategies for creating sensory-friendly environments and understanding individual sensory profiles. They explore the benefits of proactive versus reactive strategies in educational settings, the vital role of teachers and parents in advocating for proper supports, and the importance of normalizing neurodiverse needs to foster inclusive learning spaces for all students. The episode is filled with actionable insights that are beneficial for educators, parents, and anyone involved in the care and development of autistic children.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:48 Meet Alyssa Campbell: Expert in Emotional Development

01:58 Dr. Tay's Background and Mission

03:33 Alyssa's Journey and Collaborative Emotion Processing Method

04:12 Understanding Sensory Regulation and Nervous System

18:00 Practical Applications in the Classroom

20:34 Supporting Sensory Needs in Education

25:19 Parental and Teacher Collaboration

25:58 Understanding Early Childhood Sensory Responses

27:17 Proactive Strategies in Schools

35:13 Supporting Teachers and Parents

38:32 Managing Diverse Needs in the Classroom

45:55 The Role of Occupational Therapy

49:26 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️check out Alyssa and her parent-friendly resources, including the sensory quiz here: https://www.seedandsew.org/parents

⚡️check out her resources for teachers and schools, including her certification here: https://www.seedandsew.org/seedcertificationteachers

⚡️follow her on Instagram @seed.and.sew and listen to her podcast Voices of Your Village

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

In this episode, Dr. Tay speaks with Courtney Peebles, co-founder of Solobo Toys, which designs educational toys with neurodivergent children in mind. Courtney shares personal stories about her diagnoses, launching the company, and navigating a neurodiverse household. Courtney designs toys for all ability levels. They discuss how parents can select toys that promote children's learning and interests.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement

01:23 Meet Dr. Tay: Your Host

02:25 Courtney's Journey and Family Background

03:09 The Diagnosis Journey

09:41 Starting Solobo Toys

13:36 Challenges and Triumphs in Business

23:03 The Story Behind the Emotional Baggage Toy

23:55 Changing the Narrative in Parenting

24:52 Navigating Autism and Family Support

25:32 Self-Advocacy and Permission

26:58 Modeling Behavior for Kids

27:43 Challenging Unrealistic Expectations

28:22 Teaching Self-Advocacy Early

29:31 Creating a Safe Space at Home

32:50 Exploring and Setting Boundaries

36:11 Designing Inclusive Toys

41:53 Balancing Business and Accessibility

46:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ shop Solobo Toys and check out their sensory guide

⚡️ follow @solobotoys on Instagram

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay welcomes back Dr. Arielle Rubin, a triple board certified psychiatrist, to discuss the role of psychiatry for autistic children with co-occurring mental health conditions. This is a follow-up to episode 94, where Dr. Rubin answers parent-submitted questions.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:15 Recap of Episode 94

00:53 Challenges in Psychiatry

01:12 Disclaimer and Podcast Purpose

02:25 Welcome Dr. Arielle Rubin

02:38 Dr. Arielle Rubin's Background

03:57 Breaking the Status Quo in Psychiatry

04:22 Community Support for Families

06:18 Diving into Parent Questions

06:51 Stimulant Medication for ADHD

11:11 Alternatives to Atypical Antipsychotics

14:55 When to Consider Psychiatry

20:08 Tips for Discussing PDA with Psychiatry

23:24 Genesight Testing for Kids

27:42 Considering Mental Health Programs

29:09 Inpatient Psychiatry: When and Why

30:53 Residential Treatment Centers

32:04 Intensive Outpatient Programs and Partial Hospitalization

35:19 Medications for Rumination and Aggression

39:36 Medications to Avoid and Supplement Interactions

42:53 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ listen to episode 94 on Apple or Spotify

⚡️ follow Dr. Rubin on Instagram, join the Autism Roadmaps Community, and sign-up for her newsletter

⚡️ download the Supplement Guide for Autism and Mental Health referenced in the episode

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note:

1) in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

2) PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the key themes she is seeing in clinical practice. Dr. Taylor Day is a licensed psychologist specializing in neurodiversity affirming care and shares insights regarding common referral questions as well as what many families in her group therapy program are navigating.

00:00 Introduction to Common Themes in Clinical Practice

01:21 Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

03:19 Challenges Faced by Parents and Families

04:41 The Role of Clinical Care vs. Social Media

07:12 The Importance of Tailored Clinical Approaches

16:23 Second Opinion Evaluations and Autism Diagnosis

20:52 Navigating the Broken System

21:27 Scholarships and Financial Aid

21:50 Late Autism Diagnoses in Children

23:02 Parents Exploring Their Own Neurodiversity

24:54 Parents' Mental Health Matters

29:46 Advocacy as a Skill

32:43 Challenges in Schools with Neurodiversity Affirming Care

36:41 Conclusion and Community Support

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

⚠️ DISCLAIMER >> this episode dives into trauma-informed care but highly sensitive topics are discussed, including Rachel’s personal experiences with a nationally publicized traumatic event while working at a school in 2018

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In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay hosts Rachel Archambault, a speech-language pathologist specializing in trauma informed practices. They delve into the definition of trauma informed care, its importance in neurodiversity affirming practices, and how trauma can impact autistic individuals and their families. Rachel shares her personal experience with trauma, highlighting how professionals and parents can proactively adopt trauma informed approaches. The episode also covers practical tips for discussing traumatic events with children and ensuring that care providers are sensitive to trauma. Resources like the NASP guidelines and social stories are recommended for further support.

00:00 Introduction and Theme Overview

02:41 Guest Introduction: Rachel Archambault

03:41 Rachel's Traumatic Experience

07:03 Impact and Aftermath of Trauma

10:42 Trauma Informed Care in Schools

14:17 Supporting Children Through Trauma

16:48 Collaborative Efforts and Resources

23:26 Drills and Trauma: A Delicate Balance

31:00 Big T vs Little T Trauma

32:17 Understanding PTSD and Trauma Symptoms

33:31 Personal Experiences with Trauma

33:54 Listening and Validating Trauma

35:02 Trauma in Autism and Communication Challenges

36:03 Bodily Autonomy and Abuse Risks

38:54 Trauma Informed Care: Key Elements

47:49 Recognizing and Preventing Trauma

54:22 Proactive Trauma Informed Approaches

57:04 Resources and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Rachel

Instagram @ptsd.slp

Facebook @ptsd.slp

LinkedIn @rachel-archambault

Website: www.ptsdslp.com

Email: [email protected]

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*please note:

1) in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

2) PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this episode, Dr. Tay explores obsessive traits in autistic children, inspired by a conversation with Katherine @theneurodiversitymom. The discussion focuses on distinguishing between autism-related behaviors and potential co-occurring conditions like OCD. The episode highlights the need for diagnostic clarity and continuous reassessment of children's behaviors to identify effective support strategies. Dr. Tay also shares personal insights from a recent business retreat, emphasizing the importance of self-care for parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay discusses updates to her new educational membership platform aimed at empowering parents globally to advocate for their autistic children and providing tools for better support strategies.

00:00 Introduction to Obsessive Traits in Autistic Kids

00:07 Inspiration Behind the Episode

01:47 Personal Life Updates and Reflections

08:54 The Importance of Diagnostic Clarity

09:20 Understanding Obsessive Traits and OCD

12:11 Strategies for Supporting Kids with Obsessive Traits

16:58 The Role of Medication and Therapy

20:42 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

25:29 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes

RESOURCES

⚡️learn more about the membership: drtaylorday.com/membership

⚡️learn more about group therapy: drtaylorday.com/therapy

⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

Instagram @the.dr.tay

TikTok @the.dr.tay

LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

*PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110