This week I want to acknowledge the wildfires that have ravaged Los Angeles, which also happens to be home to this week’s guest, actress, drag king and comedian, Ruby Marez.

Ruby shares her incredible journey of using humor and play to heal trauma. She opens up about her clowning and drag king persona Ramón. We talk about how embodying this alter ego has transformed her life and inspired a stage show built to entertain and educate. She also opens up about the ways she uses this alter ego to address trauma, self-judgment, and emotional healing in her personal life as well. 

Ruby also discusses nervous system regulation techniques and offers supportive advice for those feeling stressed or dysregulated, especially about the wildfires. The episode also touches on Ruby's community initiatives and workshops aimed at educating people on wellness and housing rights.

Ruby also introduces practical exercises for nervous system regulation—perfect for anyone feeling the weight of the world right now. Tune in for an episode that's as enlightening as it is entertaining. 

Show Notes

00:00 Introduction and Guest Background

01:05 Trigger Warnings and Coping Strategies

02:37 Interview with Ruby Marez Begins

02:59 Experiencing the Fires in Los Angeles

05:09 Navigating Trauma and Nervous System Regulation

07:01 Personal Stories of Displacement and Resilience

16:27 Creating Art from Adversity

18:42 Developing the Ramón Character

19:23 Spiritual Cheerleading 101

25:50 Therapeutic Insights and Audience Engagement

28:47 Embracing Emotions: The Key to Joy and Peace

29:00 Connecting with Diverse Audiences

29:30 The Universal Need for Emotional Education

30:34 College Students and Emotional Awareness

31:53 The Power of Performance and Presence

32:23 Overcoming Stage Anxiety

32:55 The Role of Somatic Practices in Healing

34:24 Acting and Auditioning: A Journey of Self-Acceptance

35:13 Understanding Rejection in the Acting World

36:06 The Importance of Self-Compassion

38:43 Creating a Supportive Inner Voice

41:14 The Therapeutic Power of Alter Egos

47:58 Practical Exercises for Self-Kindness

53:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts