Fears can be very irrational yet seemingly relevant to be aware of when it comes to growing as individuals. Every fear has a reason or experience behind its existence in our minds and in our lives. Every season of our lives presents brand new opportunities for fears and anxieties to cripple our way of thinking, believing and operating in life. We can’t ever be rid of fears completely, but we do have the amazing opportunity to learn how to remain in a space of awareness that fears are real and that we can overcome them by developing a mindset that doesn’t run from fear but fiercely faces it instead.

Relationships are both beautiful and tough ! It is a gift to be able to share all of who we are as human beings with each other, however we do have a big responsibility in approaching relationships in a healthy and mindful way. Being aware of the realities of how relationships actually function and work is imperative if we want happy and long-term relationships. By working on ourselves, preparing for healthy relationships and changing our perspectives on how we view each other relationally is a step in the right direction for both present and future relationships.

Our past experiences form part of our ‘Memory’ which builds up our ‘Mindset’ which dictates how we perceive our current ‘Moment’ and the decisions we make within our present ‘Moments’. We build up mental ‘Proof’ of both the ‘Past’ and the ‘Present’ to validate our ‘Predictions’ of our future. This is not a healthy way to process through the journey of life and the uncertainties of different stages of our lives. Is there a way to process through the past and the present, in order to walk into a better and more optimistic future?

The things that are important to us can be considered as our hearts treasures. They are the things that motivate us, move us and sometimes even mold us into the people we are. It’s important to recognize the things that we hold as treasures. When we remain in a space of being afraid and attached to our treasures, it leaves us in a rather vulnerable and dangerous position. It’s important to take back the power of what has control over our minds, hearts, motives and decisions.

Making decisions are undoubtedly tough! However, sometimes we make the process harder than it needs to be. Certain factors, both internal and external, can alter our reasoning behind the decisions we intend to make. If we’re not aware of this, it can cause us to make reckless and risky decisions. Even the hard and boring decisions have a promising reward to them.

When it comes to making big decisions that can change the entire trajectory of your lives, sometimes all we need is a little bit of clarity. Having clarity provides us with some form of security in terms of feeling as though our decisions will not lead us into eternal regret. It is difficult to change your career choices, leave a job or try to pursue new areas of interest when you’re living a demanding life. The world rewards specialization, but sometimes this comes at a cost of remaining open-minded to the possibility that your purpose could be something you’ve never imagined it to be. We don’t have to be reduced to following one thing for the rest of our lives. It is the confusion of not knowing what we are doing, not knowing where we are going or even if we should be going into new areas that actually bring us closer to discovering what we can ultimately become the masters of.

Our minds are exceptionally powerful and beyond strategic. Our minds are capable of collecting circumstantial evidence to back-up our negative thoughts and the presumptions we develop about our lives. Just as our minds can easily argue for negative narratives, our minds can also gather evidence to promote a more positive mindset and perspective on our lives. We get to choose which narrative we want to become the truth of our circumstances. By focusing on different evidence, we begin to create different narratives and ultimately change both our mindsets and the trajectory of our lives.

Although filtering through what we allow ourselves to say to others and the manner in which we conduct ourselves through speech can be very useful, this can also be detrimental to us in terms of the expression our emotions. We are so used to filtering through how we feel and downplaying the reality of what we may be experiencing within your own lives. This is never helpful. Sometimes it is best to state how we are really feeling whilst our emotions are at their realest and ‘raw’. Being explicit in terms of our expression can be helpful for a more accurate reflection of our growth at a later stage in life. There is a way to do this without fearing judgement of the very expressions of our emotions by expressing ourselves within an open space with someone we trust, by journaling our thoughts and struggles, by inspecting the root causes of all that we feel and ultimately being able to reflect on our process and growth in the future.

Culture teaches us to put out our best work and talents earlier than necessary. When we harness our talents and work on them until they are ready to be shared with the world, we begin to produce things that last longer. Focus on growing your talents, developing your skills and mastering your crafts. The world can wait. You’re better off releasing and sharing your work when the time is right and everything is ready, then you are to produce something prematurely.

You are able to lead by example! Everything in your life is either pointless or purposeful. The decision is yours. Nothing we go through is new and our struggles won’t ever be unique. By changing our perspective, developing new mindsets and seeing every situation as an opportunity to show others that hope, peace and purpose can be found even in the midst of pain, failure and struggle is how we begin to be examples to the world! You are able to be an example. The choice is yours !