“Ships are safest in the harbor, but that’s not what ships are built for.”

Masculinity is risky business—and that’s exactly how God designed it. Playing it safe might protect a man from failure, rejection, or conflict, but it also keeps him from adventure, purpose, and growth.

In this episode, Chad unpacks the role of necessary risk in a man’s life—the kind of faith-stretching, courage-building, and character-shaping risks that separate the average man from the exceptional man. From Peter stepping out of the boat, to David facing Goliath, to the real risks we face in relationships, career, and faith, this conversation will challenge you to move beyond comfort and into calling.

You’ll discover:

• Why every stage of a man’s life demands new risks.

• The difference between reckless risks and faith-led risks.

• Five areas where men must be willing to risk: spiritual, relational, vocational, personal, and social.

• Practical ways to step out with prayer, courage, and wisdom.

The risk of rejection, failure, or conflict is real—but so is the reward of legacy, influence, and brotherhood.

Because the truth is this: men weren’t made for safety. Men were made for risk.

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In this episode, Chad and Tom explore the beauty and tension between being a man and a woman. From the very beginning, God declared, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Genesis 2:18). Adam needed a helper fit for him, and Eve’s creation reveals God’s design for both difference and dependence. Rather than erasing distinction, the Scriptures celebrate it: man and woman are made in God’s image, equal in worth, yet distinct in form and role.

As Jon Tyson reminds us, “Be the man God is calling you to be. Put your effort into formation, not opinion.”

We’ll unpack how both sexes radiate glory in different ways. Paul teaches that man reflects the glory of God, while woman reflects the glory of man (1 Corinthians 11:7). That doesn’t mean inequality—it means polarity. Distinction is part of the design. Galatians 3:28–29 affirms that in Christ, men and women are equally heirs of God’s promise, yet that equality doesn’t flatten God’s good order. Biological, relational, and even psychological differences point to a deeper truth: men and women were made to complement, not compete.

But what does this mean for us today, in a culture often confused about identity and gender roles?

Masculinity and femininity are not caricatures—they are rooted in God’s design.

When men step into biblical manhood, and women embrace biblical womanhood, the result is not rivalry but flourishing.

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Let’s talk gospel and evangelism.

Does it sound like a scary religious word?

Without it, the world would be void of the kingdom of God, and you may miss one of the most beneficial aspects of your spiritual formation. Our working definition of spiritual formation comes from Dallas Willard.

 “Spiritual formation is the process of character transformation toward complete trustworthiness before God.”

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Masculinity, or the quest for masculinity, has become a religion in itself for some in the manosphere. Why? How can an exceptional man pursue his own greatness without going too far?

1 Corinthians 16:13, “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong."

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Let's talk, man to man!

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Stephen Mansfield's Book, Band of Brothers, provided some great nuggets in this episode. To check out his work, https://stephenmansfield.tv.

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Celebrations matter to God, so they need to be a part ofour lives.

Celebrations form us spiritually, and joy forms usspiritually!

A joyless life is not a Christian life, for joy is one constant in the recipe for Christian living. J. M. Boice, Foundations of theChristian Faith

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You’re not trying to win arguments. You’re trying to win her heart.
But let’s be real—miscommunication, short tempers, and silence can wreck the connection between you and your wife before the real conversation even starts.

In this episode of the Exceptional Man Podcast, Chad and Tom get real about one of the hardest—but most vital—skills every man needs: how to communicate in a way that builds trust, not tension.

Exceptional men don't settle for average communication.

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Books referenced:

Love That Lasts by Gary and Betsy Ricucci

5 Love Needs of Men and Women by Gary Rosberg

Marriage by Paul David Tripp

Stewarding our time requires, at minimum, two things: decision-making and discipline. The two complement one another and allow for some rails that your life can go down without losing your legacy or your mind.

Chad and Tom drop wisdom on how to make the best decisions for your life and legacy. They are two men who are on the path to being exceptional, and their honesty and vulnerability are much needed in our day and age.

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Book reference:

The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McConigal

Bonus:

Your Future Self will Thank You by Drew Dyck

“Spiritual formation is the process by which your inner self and character are shaped.” John Ortberg

We have all been formed by something and someone. What we think, believe and see has been greatly impacted by our surroundings and upbringing. We have been formed.

"Every day, the world is forming you into its image. If we do not intentionally let Scripture disciple us, we will be unconsciously discipled by the culture." Jon Tyson

Are all discipling us, but is it the best version of us? Does this lead to human flourishing and God’s glory?

Spiritual formation is a (re)forming into being an exceptional man.

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Influence is a wonderful thing for an exceptional man. He leaves a part of himself on others.

Let this sink in.

"People never leave the ones they love; they leave the ones they use." Unknown author

As mentioned in this epsiode:

“Résumé virtues are the skills you bring to the marketplace.
Eulogy virtues are the ones that are talked about at your funeral — whether you were kind, brave, honest, or faithful.”
David Brooks, The Road to Character

Here are a few ways to legacy (obituary) build:

• Keep your word, every time.
• Serve others without payment or recognition.
• Pray for others, consistently.
• Be honest about failures and shortcomings.
• Be someone else's cheerleader.

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