Summary

In this episode, Annegret Bertsch and Chris Moyer discuss the experiences of Third Culture Kids (TCKs), exploring the unique challenges and opportunities they face. Chris shares his personal journey as a TCK, the importance of emotional support for children, and practical advice for parents navigating the complexities of raising TCKs. The conversation highlights the significance of being intentional with time, understanding emotional processing, and fostering resilience in children as they adapt to multiple cultures.

Takeaways

TCKs grow up in a culture different from their parents' passport country.

Emotional support is crucial for TCKs during transitions.

Parents should model emotional expression to help children process feelings.

Grief and goodbyes are significant challenges for TCKs.

Behavioral changes in children can indicate emotional struggles.

Establishing open communication helps children express their feelings.

Cultural adaptability can lead to a broader worldview for TCKs.

Intentional time spent with children fosters strong relationships.

The future of TCKs involves increased awareness and support for their needs.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Chris and His Background

02:49 The Concept of Third Culture Kids

04:53 Challenges and Opportunities of TCKs

07:02 Cultural Identity and Belonging

09:11 Parenting Third Culture Kids

11:32 Navigating Transitions and Goodbyes

13:59 The Emotional Landscape of TCKs

16:13 The Role of Fathers in Supporting TCKs

18:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

21:30 The Emotional Landscape of Men

23:58 Navigating Grief and Vulnerability with Children

25:04 Connecting with Kids: Different Approaches for Boys and Girls

28:56 Understanding Emotional Responses in Younger Children

32:00 The Importance of Play and Art in Emotional Expression

37:15 Creating a Foundation for Emotional Stability

44:41 The Future of Third Culture Kids and Family Support

52:16 Introduction to Exped Insights

52:43 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Guest

Chris Moyer

https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-j-moyer/

Article: Neither Here Nor There, I Don't Belong Anywhere´

https://tckonnective.wordpress.com/2020/11/23/neither-here-nor-there-i-dont-belong-anywhere/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this episode of Expat Insights, host Annegret and guest Julie M. Marx explore the multifaceted experience of expat life in China, particularly focusing on the unique challenges and opportunities faced by expat spouses. They discuss the rapid pace of life in China, the importance of learning Mandarin, and the emotional complexities of living abroad, including feelings of guilt and homesickness. Julie shares her insights on building community, navigating professional restrictions, and the evolving nature of expat life, emphasizing the need for support and connection in a foreign environment.

Takeaways

Life in China moves at lightning speed, impacting expat experiences.

Expat spouses often feel isolated and need strong support networks.

Learning Mandarin opens doors and fosters connections.

Cultural misconceptions about China can hinder expat experiences.

Finding purpose and passion is crucial for expat spouses.

Professional opportunities for expats are often limited by work permits.

Community building is essential for emotional well-being.

Expat guilt and homesickness are common emotional challenges.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Expat Life in China

02:39 Cultural Insights and First Impressions

07:15 Understanding Change and Misconceptions

11:47 The Scale of Life in China

14:45 Language as a Gateway

19:41 Challenges for Expat Spouses

22:11 Navigating Work Restrictions

23:17 Conclusion and Advice for Expat Spouses

23:58 Navigating Business in China

26:56 Challenges and Opportunities for Non-Working Spouses

29:26 Building Community in China

34:04 Emotional Challenges of Expat Life

36:28 Reverse Culture Shock

42:59 The Future of Expat Life in China

45:12 China Expert Spouse: Support for Expats

47:25 Defining Home in an International Life

48:33 Introduction to Expat Insights

50:34 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Julie M. Marx

https://chinaexpatspouse.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-m-marx/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

This conversation explores the complexities of relationships for expats, highlighting the hidden stressors that arise from moving abroad, the impact of career changes, and the importance of communication and support systems. Wiebke Anton, a relationship coach, shares insights on how cultural differences and financial dynamics can complicate relationships, while also emphasizing the need for counseling and the normalization of seeking help. The discussion concludes with hopes for the future of expat couples, focusing on the importance of maintaining healthy relationships amidst the challenges of living abroad.

Takeaways

Expat life can lead to hidden stressors that impact relationships.

Career changes often create imbalances in expat couples.

Financial dynamics can complicate relationship roles abroad.

Cultural differences significantly affect relationship dynamics.

Communication is key to navigating challenges in expat life.

External influences can exacerbate relationship issues for expats.

Counseling should be normalized as a tool for relationship health.

Establishing routines can help couples manage stress.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Wiebke Anton and Her Journey

02:59 The Challenges of Expat Life and Relationships

06:31 Hidden Stressors in Expat Relationships

10:44 The Impact of Career Changes on Relationships

14:54 Coping with Financial Dynamics Abroad

18:53 The Role of External Influences on Expat Couples

23:06 Navigating Intimacy and Social Life Abroad

27:06 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

31:05 Repatriation and Its Challenges

35:10 Strategies for Strengthening Expat Relationships

39:23 The Future of Expat Relationships and Support Systems

55:35 Introduction to Expat Insights

55:56 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Wiebke Anton

https://www.help4love.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/wiebke-anton/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this conversation, Annegret and Martyna delve into the complexities of culture shock experienced by expats. They explore the various phases of culture shock, from the initial excitement of the honeymoon phase to the frustrations and doubts that often follow. Martyna shares her personal experiences of living in different countries, highlighting the importance of finding belonging and home in a new environment. They discuss the journey of self-discovery that comes with adapting to a new culture and the challenges of managing expectations from oneself and others. The conversation concludes with practical advice for new expats on how to navigate their experiences and create a sense of belonging.

Takeaways

Culture shock has four distinct phases: honeymoon, frustration, adaptation, and mastery.

The honeymoon phase is characterized by excitement and novelty.

Frustration often arises when the initial excitement fades and challenges become apparent.

Finding belonging in a new country is a significant aspect of the expat experience.

Self-discovery is a crucial part of living abroad and adapting to new cultures.

Expectations from oneself and others can complicate the expat experience.

Building connections through work and hobbies can alleviate feelings of loneliness.

Lowering expectations can help in forming deeper connections with others.

Creating a sense of belonging often requires active participation in the community.

Emotional experiences during culture shock can lead to personal growth.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Martyna

04:08 Understanding Culture Shock

08:12 The Honeymoon Phase of Expat Life

14:48 Navigating Challenges in a New City

17:58 Self-Discovery Through Expat Experiences

22:29 Identity and Authenticity Abroad

24:46 The Concept of Home

28:04 Belonging and Connection

31:48 Navigating Loneliness and Building Relationships

36:00 Expectations and Career Challenges

42:59 Coping with Culture Shock

45:10 Evolving Definitions of Belonging

49:00 Introduction to Expat Insights

49:29 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Martyna Brewczyk

https://prosperabroadcoaching.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/martynacoach/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Living abroad changes you—sometimes in exhilarating ways, other times in deeply challenging ones. I know, because I’ve been there.

I’m Annegret Bertsch, an Erickson Certified Coach, and I created Expat Insights to explore the real experiences of life abroad. In Season One, you’ll hear from experts around the globe as we dive into topics such as:

This podcast is here to give you practical insights, honest conversations, and the reassurance that you’re not alone.

So, if you’re an expat, a spouse, someone in global mobility, or simply curious about the expat experience—this is for you.

The first episode drops October 1st 2025, with new episodes released every other Wednesday.

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