faafo with courtney

from the episode

• “it becomes very frustrating at some point also because they are interrupting our ability to help the people who actually fucking deserve it.”
• “what i find very sad about humanity is the fact that there are a lot of people who have never had anyone be kind to them.”
• “i think it's sad that we live in a world as human beings where so few people have had someone show them grace and true kindness.”

this episode of faafo with courtney, hosted by courtney crosslin, known as sisi in brasil, comes from a live youtube video i recorded on friday, september 11, 2026.

i had already been thinking and talking about timing, karma, dharma, sabotage, and what happens when people decide it is somehow their job to interfere with somebody else's life. then i opened facebook and saw a post that hit directly on something else that has been bothering me: how difficult it is for some people to believe that genuinely good people exist.

the facebook post is Humans of St. Louis's Post - Cameron Djruaezsol Jamarr, actor, writer, founder, Soul Siren Playhouse - St. Louis - https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1HcXYs6mtu/

there are people walking around with no clear purpose of their own, no direction, and no real understanding of what they are supposed to be doing, yet somehow they find plenty of energy to interfere with people who do know where they are going. that frustrates me, especially when the interference doesn't just affect me. sometimes you're delaying work, opportunities, resources, connections, or help that was intended to reach somebody else.

but there is another part of this conversation that makes me more sad than angry. some people have experienced so little genuine kindness and grace that they don't even know how to recognize it when it shows up. kindness becomes suspicious. generosity gets mistaken for stupidity. grace gets interpreted as weakness. and sometimes, when a person realizes that someone is willing to be kind to them, they assume the kind person must be ignorant, naive, easy to manipulate, or unaware of what is happening.

that is a dangerous assumption.

sometimes a person sees exactly what you're doing and simply decides that confronting you is not worth their time or energy. sometimes the grace you are receiving is intentional. sometimes somebody is helping because helping people is simply part of who they are. and if you have never experienced that before, you can sabotage something valuable because you don't understand what you're looking at.

this conversation also gets into my own history of helping people, working with underdogs, volunteering, organizing, creating opportunities, and living through circumstances that people looking at me today might never imagine. people make assumptions based on what they see now without knowing what it took to get here or how many people have also shown up in my own life with unexpected kindness, generosity, and support.

in this episode

• why people with no clear direction of their own sometimes interfere with people who have purpose
• the difference between being kind and being naive
• why choosing not to confront someone does not mean you don't see what they're doing
• what happens when someone has experienced so little grace that they don't know how to receive it
• jealousy, entitlement, self-sabotage, integrity, and the people who unexpectedly show up in our lives to help us move forward

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quotes

"what if we did the thing before the energy called for it?"

"avoidance and healing are two different things."

summary

on this episode of faafo with courtney, recorded friday, september 11, 2026, courtney pulls a spread that keeps circling one question: have you apologized? she walks through her morning cards, timing, early birdie, earth, and a handwritten four of clubs that read have you apologized, then unpacks what came up. she shares three real apologies. one to a childhood friend, made years after her father caused harm and long after she'd have been "expected" to make the call. one to her son, taking responsibility for any emotional turmoil her choices may have caused him. and one recent and petty, owning that she'd tried to make someone jealous before getting hurt by the same thing in return. she ties it back to faafo, fuck around and find out, and asks what it looks like to fuck around and find out with your own karma instead of waiting to get even. listen at faafo.app or wherever you get your podcasts.

takeaways

• apologizing before someone confronts you can be its own form of obedience, not weakness
• healing and avoidance aren't the same thing, distance can look like closure without being it
• being proactive with accountability, doing the thing before the energy demands it, is its own kind of faafo

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i do not use cards for readings. never have. this time i picked a condom instead of a card and let the words fall where they wanted. no script, no plan, just intuition on three condoms.

• pick one, thee fantasy shoppe, starts at :40. question: when was the last time you were ratchet? words: mirrors, weeds, abundance, distance.
• pick two, trojan magnum, starts at 10:38. question: what are my gifts? words: costume, distance, thresholds, secrets.
• pick three, skyn, starts at 20:20. no question was stated on this one, i went straight into the words. words: sleep, rest, interruptions, rituals, gossip, graves, luck. this pick ran long so it continues in a second video.

watch both videos on youtube or read the full breakdown at faafo.app.

https://faafo.app/pick-a-condom

what are you unwilling to sit with for thirty seconds?

because that tiny irritation, that thing you keep avoiding, it might not be standing in your way at all.

it might be the whole lesson.

Key Takeaways:

• Small frustrations reveal larger conditioning.
• Most people need more quiet, offline, grounded time than they realize.
• Discomfort is often the doorway to growth.
• Speak up when something isn't working instead of disappearing.
• Don't confuse engagement metrics with value.
• Create and show up because you're called to do it, not because you're guaranteed a response.
• Independence requires learning to tolerate uncertainty, inconvenience, and temporary discomfort.

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summary: instagram asked me this morning if i needed a scroll break.

i built the answer to that question a few weeks ago. the respite.

if you have the code and you haven't been yet — the door is open. if you're a past guest who hasn't heard from me, you will. if you're new here and curious what an alternative actually looks like, the respite is at respite.faafo.app.

read the full blog post at https://faafo.app/instagram-just-asked-me-if-i-need-a-scroll-break/

original video date: june 8, 2022 --

this episode started as a video on june 8, 2022, titled reconsider “like minded people” and diversify your portfolio.

so much has changed since then --- i was in rural america in the middle of nowhere. now i am in bahia, brazil.

but the message still hits.

especially for people who are looking for answers from a spiritual perspective and have been stuck for a while.

sometimes “like-minded” does not mean same personality, same interests, same lifestyle, same strengths, or same language for every part of life.

sometimes it means the same larger direction.

freedom.

harmony.

the willingness to move differently.

the ability to build with people who do not mirror you, but are still pointed toward something aligned.

that matters for relationships. that matters for community. that matters for business. that matters for relocation.

because if you are trying to move somewhere new, especially outside the u.s., how you define community matters. if you think community means everyone thinks like you, lives like you, believes like you, earns like you, and wants the same things in the same way, you may keep missing the people who are actually aligned with your freedom.

relative points from the transcript:

• “like-minded” may not mean having the same strengths or interests.
• the deeper question is whether the bigger picture or end goal is similar.
• freedom can mean different things to different people.
• some people want freedom in relationships, jobs, movement, travel, identity, or daily life.
• harmony can matter more than material success.
• sometimes the work is learning how to find peace in situations you do not like.
• sometimes the work is realizing a situation cannot give you the harmony you need.
• community works better when people bring different strengths.
• building with others does not require sameness.
• shared direction matters more than matching personalities.
• being intentional with words, choices, actions, and decisions changes who you attract.

too smart to be boring. too alive for cookie-cutter marketing. i help wildcards, second-act professionals, and brands with edge turn attention into income without sanding off what makes them interesting.

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"All my skinfolk ain't kinfolk" is a famous quote attributed to author and anthropologist Zora Neale Hurston --

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you probably have somebody in your ancestral line who sold out a revolution or a fucking rebellion. let's be fucking honest about this right now.

not all skinfolk are kinfolk. people use a color for a cover. and some of your ancestors were cowards.

sisi breaks down traitor energy, ancestral accountability, shadow work as a moneymaker, and why she will always sacrifice one for the whole. recorded live at 5:30am from bahia, brazil.

read the blog post at faafo.app

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and while you are here -- check out this blog post "Some Of Us Are Brave: The Archive" by https://www.theblackfoxes.com/stories/skin-folk-vs-kinfolk-- which I will copy below in the event you can access or it's removed.

"...Black people who are only Skin-folk will quickly sign up to be poster child for initiatives and the like, contempt on their throne. They’ll become the faces of copy-n-paste foundations, or join DEI panels that don’t actually do anything.

Kinfolk are in the trenches, less glamorous of course but they’re often the ones makings sure we get what we need. Kinfolk are a thankless few who without nearly half the resources, make it happen. Perhaps most iconically, you had skin-folk who maintained and played by massa’s rules. Kinfolk fought for freedom and had no qualms burning it all down.

What would make a person go against their own people, seemingly shared best interests. Honestly that answer takes more time to go over than I could ever manage. Personally, one of the biggest reasons today I feel this happens is due to the “pie mentality”.

Well what’s the pie mentality? In short, the idea that there is a finite amount of success or satisfaction in the world. Someone who does well is getting your slice of success or satisfaction. This is clearly toxic, and prevents collaboration at times you’d expect unity/solidarity. The pie mentality is a product of white supremacy, and the colonial foundations our society protects. This same pie mentality will lead skin-folk to believe they need only worry about themselves and getting theirs...."

"don't come at me about AI because it's a privilege to be able to shit on AI when many people don't have the privilege to even have the imagination or have never seen a representation of anyone outside of themselves playing subservient to someone else."

audio from a facebook live i did on february 22, 2026, when i came back to facebook after a long break and accidentally turned my profile into a content creator page by clicking buttons.

what i actually get into:

• - the energy of social media and why coming back after a year feels like groundhog's day. people in the same loop, different jobs, no integration. the algorithm is doing to you exactly what people accuse AI of doing, but you can't argue with it because nobody named it
• - AI did not invent displacement. databases displaced workers. telephone operators got replaced. search engines scraped everything for decades. nobody held a press conference. AI is just the version with a name, so now people can finally complain at dinner
• - the privilege argument. it is a privilege to list your reasons for not liking AI. many people have never had the privilege to imagine themselves outside of subservient roles. friends here in their thirties who have never seen a meal cooked by a white man. who have never seen a male housecleaner. who don't know to ask the question because it is so far outside the script they were given
• - what i did about it. i used AI to flip the representation in a series of videos. my Black friends placed in roles brazilian media never shows them in --- the designer running a factory full of white seamstresses, the spiritual leader, the construction lead, the woman on horseback overseeing a tobacco field, the Black woman in the luxurious bathroom telling someone they missed a spot. i don't have tyler perry money. so i used the tool that was in front of me to put representation where it didn't exist
• - be the glitch. why doing something different in your physical life --- waking up on the other side of the bed, taking a different route, breaking the rhythm --- changes what the algorithm and the universe can predict about you
• - meta is gamifying you toward monetization. the points system. the suggested topics. the little circus animal hoops. why the success stories are being dressed up and what nobody tells you about what they had to do to qualify
• - mosquito blisters in the interior of bahia. floor-to-ceiling windows i now have to clean. why band-aids make me feel seven years old. the way i dress in the city versus the campo. and why i'm not using my child as an excuse for not getting free, since i fought for my sovereignty when he was small and i have the court papers to prove it

a heads up: i forgot i was on facebook for a minute and a few words slipped through. consider this a flag for sensitive ears or kids in the car.

if anything in here lands visit faafo.app. and if you want the rest of what i make: i host other podcasts on the faafo network --- you can find all of them on your favorite podcast app.

i clicked yes when the platform asked if my podcast was AI. i could have said no. here is why i didn't --- and why the people who are loudest against AI are often the same ones who have never contributed a single thing to the internet they are so busy defending.

read "i said yes and i would do it again"

check out the The Free Man's Line: Bell and Franklin Family podcast.

sources:

• The Architect of Digital Freedom
• The Thirsty Hypocrisy --- r/aiwars on Reddit
• Van Jones: AI Is the Closest Thing to Reparations That Black People Are Going to Get
• i said yes. and i would do it again. --- faafo: Sisi (in Brasil)

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if you choose to love an awakened woman, know that it’s not about playing it safe. this poem by sophie bashford is a raw invitation into deep, soul-stirring connection. she reminds us that loving a woman who’s awake—spiritually, emotionally, energetically—is going to shake you up, not tuck you in. this isn’t about comfort, it’s about evolution. it’s for those ready to rise, to be stretched, and to meet love as a force of transformation.

you can read it on her website: https://www.sophiebashford.com/if-you-choose-to-love-an-awakened-woman/