A new investigation from CNN has exposed something that’s hard to process and even harder to ignore: a sprawling global network of online communities where men openly share tactics, videos, and advice on drugging and sexually assaulting women.
We’re not talking about the dark web. We’re talking about platforms millions of people use every day.
On one site alone, reporters found more than 20,000 user-uploaded “sleep” videos of men filming women while they’re unconscious or sedated. In some cases, there were even live streams where viewers paid to watch abuse happen in real time.
This isn’t fringe behavior. It’s organized and normalized.
So the question isn’t just how this exists. It’s what kind of culture allows it to.
Because at the same time this is happening, we’re seeing a very different, but deeply connected, shift in public life.
Across the country, Catholic dioceses are reporting a surge in young converts, with data from the Hallow app showing a 38% increase this year. In cities like Pittsburgh and Los Angeles, those numbers have more than doubled.
On platforms like TikTok and Instagram, Catholicism is being rebranded to be less as doctrine, more as aesthetic. Community. Structure. Certainty.
For some, it’s a search for meaning. For others, it raises a harder question: what happens when tradition—and the gender roles often baked into it—collide with a generation raised on autonomy and self-expression?
And then there’s the cultural backlash playing out in real time.
At Coachella, Madonna joined Sabrina Carpenter onstage to perform “Like a Prayer”—a song that has always challenged power, religion, and control over women’s bodies.
But this time, the reaction wasn’t about the performance. It was about her age.
“Dress your age.”
“Cringe.”
“Put grandma in a nursing home.”
The message was clear: there is a line women are not supposed to cross and an expiration date they’re not supposed to outlive.
If you embrace your sexuality, you’re trying too hard.
If you don’t, you’ve “let yourself go.”
It’s a no-win system. And it’s not accidental.
Because whether it’s the commodification of women’s bodies in violent online spaces, the resurgence of institutions that historically defined women’s roles, or the public policing of women who refuse to disappear quietly, these aren’t separate conversations. They’re the same conversation.
In this episode, Jess Britvich and I unpack how these seemingly disconnected stories reveal a deeper throughline—one rooted in power, entitlement, and the systems that continue to shape how women are seen, valued, and controlled.
Because if this is what we can see out in the open…what are we still missing?
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Natalie Bencivenga is a socially-conscious journalist working towards building equity in our communities through storytelling. Her goal is to inspire, educate and activate people to become catalysts for positive change. Join her for transformative conversations that uplift and challenge the ways in which we perceive the world. Let's turn this moment into a movement – together.